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Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 03:09

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:10

@AliceOlive omg you're right we should have stayed away 😂😂 noted for next time.

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OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:10

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:09

@OutOfTheHouse I don't remember asking what you did.

I’m pointing out that perhaps I have more experience than you and that you shouldn’t be taking pictures of other people’s children on your personal phone.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:09

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 16:02

In light of the update about the complete lack of safeguarding knowledge from those in charge of the ops children 5 days a week whilst not acceptable except in an emergency it suddenly seems pretty trivial to be honest.

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I hope you are not responsible for any children, then.

It’s not a “which is worse” competition. Car seats are non-negotiable unless the child was suffering a life or death emergency and needed to be transported to the hospital.

Did your daughter need the hospital, OP?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:09

@OutOfTheHouse I don't remember asking what you did.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:08

Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:07

YABU to say you’re very “concerned about safety” like other parents aren’t. 😂
Id not be happy if you were supposed to be supervising my child on a trip and stepped away every hour and a half, meaning someone else had to supervise a larger group of kids when ratios are done for a reason: safety.

Did I say other parents were bells? Did I?

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OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:07

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:05

@OutOfTheHouse and I'm explaining my experience. This is not the first school trip I've been on where those are the rules. Thanks for your input tho.

I’m a primary school teacher and I’ve run a fair number of school trips over the years. I’ve also written risk assessments and have safeguarding training every year. But thank you for your input though.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:07

bloodyplumbing · 04/05/2024 16:06

@kimberlyy in your OP you state you called constantly, you've changed that to a text every hour and a half

Keep the story straight, you're making yourself look disingenuous.

It's the same thing😂😂 thank is constantly checking on my daughter.

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Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:07

YABU to say you’re very “concerned about safety” like other parents aren’t. 😂
Id not be happy if you were supposed to be supervising my child on a trip and stepped away every hour and a half, meaning someone else had to supervise a larger group of kids when ratios are done for a reason: safety.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:07

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:01

@AliceOlive
They fed and pet goats and chickens. We took a tractor ride and I have a Samsung 😀

Oh we also saw pigs and horses

It’s the chickens that make you unreasonable here. 😂

bloodyplumbing · 04/05/2024 16:06

@kimberlyy in your OP you state you called constantly, you've changed that to a text every hour and a half

Keep the story straight, you're making yourself look disingenuous.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:05

@OutOfTheHouse and I'm explaining my experience. This is not the first school trip I've been on where those are the rules. Thanks for your input tho.

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ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 16:02

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:59

So you don’t care about car seats?

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In light of the update about the complete lack of safeguarding knowledge from those in charge of the ops children 5 days a week whilst not acceptable except in an emergency it suddenly seems pretty trivial to be honest.

OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:02

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:51

@ZipZapZoom this the last response you'll get. Because you're being ignorant. Before every trip the TEACHERS will let the chaperones know if the kids are allowed to be in photos and it's talked about Before parents start taking pictures. And at the end of each trip ALL parents send their photos to the teachers. If it was an issue I would not have taken the photos. Good bye

In my experience the rules are usually that you can take pictures of your own child but not others. Sending them to the teacher is by the by. They will still be on your phone.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:01

@YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo 😂

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:01

@AliceOlive
They fed and pet goats and chickens. We took a tractor ride and I have a Samsung 😀

Oh we also saw pigs and horses

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YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 04/05/2024 15:59

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:58

I know I did amazing with the kids. And they all went home happy and safe ☺️

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Thank god for the teachers and the other helpers then.

Hope you wiped the photos of the other kids off your phone.

AngelQuartz · 04/05/2024 15:59

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, OP.

The bottom line is your brother should have contacted you to say “Hi, our sister will be babysitting child for the rest of the day. She wants to take her to X in the car but doesn’t have a booster seat, are you okay with that?”

The you have the opportunity to set your boundaries and let them know if you were ok with it or not.

Even if your sis didn’t take your child out in the car, and walked her to the park/shops/etc I think it’s just common courtesy to let the parents know where their children are.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:59

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:57

To be honest if your children go to a school where the teachers don't know basic safeguarding and actually told volunteers to take photos on their personal phones I'd be more concerned about that than your daughter travelling for one journey in a car without a car seat.

So you don’t care about car seats?

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:58

@AliceOlive

We can only go by what an OP says.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:58

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 04/05/2024 15:53

It doesn't sound like you're cut out for supervising on school trips, between 'constantly' being on your phone and taking photos of other people's kids, so it won't be an issue in future I imagine. I would let this one go.

I know I did amazing with the kids. And they all went home happy and safe ☺️

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:58

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:55

@AliceOlive it must be omg 😳

Crucial facts before one can render a judgment here in Mumsnet Court.

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:57

To be honest if your children go to a school where the teachers don't know basic safeguarding and actually told volunteers to take photos on their personal phones I'd be more concerned about that than your daughter travelling for one journey in a car without a car seat.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:57

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:54

@AliceOlive

I'm just going by the OP stating that she 'called constantly'. Her words. Although she seems to be rapidly dialing that back now.

So entertaining how some people will believe every single word in an OP and take it literally while simultaneously not trusting the OP at all. 🤔

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:56

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:54

@AliceOlive

I'm just going by the OP stating that she 'called constantly'. Her words. Although she seems to be rapidly dialing that back now.

Not dialing anything back. If I call every hour and half that's constantly. 🥱

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:55

@AliceOlive it must be omg 😳

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