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Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 03:09

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

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OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:30

Not being in the U.K. does make a difference.

But in the U.K. at least photo consent forms usually refer to photos being taken by the school for use on the school website etc.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:28

ziipidydodah · 04/05/2024 16:21

I’m guessing (for those commenting on safeguarding rules) that IP isn’t in the U.K., given she talks about all this happening today - including that her DD had to take the day off school today (so not just a weekend class trip - although that in itself would be a bit unusual).

EDIT just realised it was written at 3am so would have meant Friday. Never mind!

Edited

Yes it was Friday. No I'm not in the uk. Before the babies start school parents complete forms that will allow pictures to be taken of their kids. And before any parents on the field trip took photos the teachers made us aware of who could and couldn't be in photos.

I hope this helps I'm just explaining how things are here. I wouldn't put anyone else's baby in harm.

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OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:26

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:25

@OutOfTheHouse more experience meaning that you know more. Like I stated I did what the teachers allowed me to do. Not only on this trip but the other trips we took as well. Im done explaining this.

Would you be happy if some random parent who was helping on a school trip took photos of your children?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:25

@OutOfTheHouse more experience meaning that you know more. Like I stated I did what the teachers allowed me to do. Not only on this trip but the other trips we took as well. Im done explaining this.

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StarlightLime · 04/05/2024 16:23

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:17

For all we know her sister is a drunk. Why do you assume someone is automatically comfortable with any family member taking their child without consent?

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Op says her only issue is that she wasn't informed.
So you can safely assume the sister isn't a drunk.

Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:22

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:19

@Bellsandthistle either you didn't read or you lack comprehension. When I took a picture of the kids I sent a text. I never stepped away from the kids.

“I'm an adult I can step away to call my child.”
👀

ziipidydodah · 04/05/2024 16:21

I’m guessing (for those commenting on safeguarding rules) that IP isn’t in the U.K., given she talks about all this happening today - including that her DD had to take the day off school today (so not just a weekend class trip - although that in itself would be a bit unusual).

EDIT just realised it was written at 3am so would have meant Friday. Never mind!

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:21

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:18

I didn’t take “constantly” as literal. 🤷‍♀️

And now she’s explained. So do you still not get it?

They don't want to get it. I've explained it like 7 times. And someone still said I stepped away. Meaning I left the kids unattended and I literally explained that above also that I did not.

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:21

OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:20

I didn’t say I know more, I said I quite probably had more experience. In my experience the usual rule is no photos to be taken by anyone on their personal phones of other people’s children.

This doesn’t seem to be the rule at your school who might well want to revisit their safeguarding training.

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Get right on that, OP.

OutOfTheHouse · 04/05/2024 16:20

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:11

@OutOfTheHouse I did what all the teachers said I could do. I'm not concerned about how much more you THINK you know.

I didn’t say I know more, I said I quite probably had more experience. In my experience the usual rule is no photos to be taken by anyone on their personal phones of other people’s children.

This doesn’t seem to be the rule at your school who might well want to revisit their safeguarding training.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:19

@Bellsandthistle either you didn't read or you lack comprehension. When I took a picture of the kids I sent a text. I never stepped away from the kids.

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:18

I didn’t take “constantly” as literal. 🤷‍♀️

And now she’s explained. So do you still not get it?

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 16:18

@kimberlyy

For all we know her sister is a drunk.

Is your sister a drunk?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:18

@StarlightLime it is so what's next. You wanna keep going back and forth because I said checking in every hour and half is constantly checking on her???

That's is constantly checking

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Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:18

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You stepped away several times. Who had to supervise your group and their group at the same time? That isn’t ok.

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:17

StarlightLime · 04/05/2024 16:13

It was their sister, not the bloody bogeyman! Did it really matter which of her siblings was taking care of op's child?

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For all we know her sister is a drunk. Why do you assume someone is automatically comfortable with any family member taking their child without consent?

StarlightLime · 04/05/2024 16:16

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:56

Not dialing anything back. If I call every hour and half that's constantly. 🥱

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Well, no, it isn't. Words have meanings; you can't change them to suit yourself and be surprised when nobody understands.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:15

Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:14

It is implied. And you clearly think your child’s safety is important while other people’s children, the ones you were responsible for supervising on the trip, are less important. You seem obnoxious.

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It is not even remotely implied. You seem over sensitive.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:15

StarlightLime · 04/05/2024 16:13

It was their sister, not the bloody bogeyman! Did it really matter which of her siblings was taking care of op's child?

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I wouldn’t take someone’s dog without letting them know. Why is it so onerous to keep a parent updated in this day and age? Even if it’s a Samsung, they could have texted and asked.

Why would a sick child need to be taken out by anyone, anyway?

Bellsandthistle · 04/05/2024 16:14

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:08

Did I say other parents were bells? Did I?

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It is implied. And you clearly think your child’s safety is important while other people’s children, the ones you were responsible for supervising on the trip, are less important. You seem obnoxious.

StarlightLime · 04/05/2024 16:13

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:31

No, we have ample info.

Her brother agreed to keep her child, then let someone else take off with her with no car seat instead. Then failed to even relay the info to the OP.

Nothing else is important here. Not where the OP was at the time, what she was wearing or what she ate for lunch.

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It was their sister, not the bloody bogeyman! Did it really matter which of her siblings was taking care of op's child?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:13

@sorry I'll do better😊

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:11

@OutOfTheHouse I did what all the teachers said I could do. I'm not concerned about how much more you THINK you know.

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 16:11

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 16:10

@AliceOlive omg you're right we should have stayed away 😂😂 noted for next time.

You’ve been warned.

I think you have your answer though.

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