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AIBU for being deeply upset by this comment ?

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blueyavocado · 03/05/2024 23:27

Mother in law said to my partner 'no wonder she's fat she sleeps 16 hours a day' I have a 2 month old baby I used to be 52kg and now 62kg , because I've just had a baby. I feel absolutes devistated , am I being unreasonable for feeling absolutely devistated and calling her a narcissistic cow .

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Mumoftwo1312 · 03/05/2024 23:45

2 months is no time, I felt very emotionally vulnerable after having both mine. Do you have some support with the breastfeeding?

As for your mil, don't give her another minute of your time until you get a full apology. If you can, feel sympathy for her rather than anger because she's clearly got a lot of self-hatred and internalised misogyny to be that cruel to a new mum. She must walk through life bitter and unhappy.

But all the same, don't give her another minute of your time. She can visit, cuddle your baby, etc - after she apologises!

SmallIslander · 03/05/2024 23:41

It's a pretty callous and unpleasant person that would say (shout?) something like that about a new mum. I hope your partner has your back.

I think that would be enough for me to withdraw from that particular relationship.

Don't worry about your weight gain, it's a temporary thing. Your baby loves you in any shape you take.

DelphiniumBlue · 03/05/2024 23:39

How rude. And he was very silly to repeat it to you, is he very young?
I can remember my SiL in tears because her mother had told her she was fat 5 days after giving birth. It was a mixture of nastiness and complete lack of empathy, she thought she doing her daughter a favour by flagging it up! Your MiL doesn’t even have that excuse, and God only knows what DH Was thinking to repeat it.
I would actually get tough about this, tell DH you want an apology from both of them. They both need to know that you are not going to put up with this sort of comment. Nip it in the bud.

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blueyavocado · 03/05/2024 23:38

Sconeswithnutella · 03/05/2024 23:37

The comment was rude and mean. Why on earth did your partner tell you though?

He didn't I overheard it as she was banging on about me and me struggling to breastfeed etc . And saying she can't understand why I don't just breastfeed my baby etc lots of horrible stuff

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Sconeswithnutella · 03/05/2024 23:38

Sorry just saw your update. She’s horrible and I’d keep my distance.

Sconeswithnutella · 03/05/2024 23:37

The comment was rude and mean. Why on earth did your partner tell you though?

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blueyavocado · 03/05/2024 23:37

HugeCwtch · 03/05/2024 23:28

So your partner told you? Or did she say to you?

If your partner told you, I have a quick way for you to lose weight!

If not, then the old reply of " well I can lose weight , but you'll always be a miserable cunt" is in order

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I overheard her shouting about it

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mossylog · 03/05/2024 23:31

It was a very rude and unwarranted comment from the MIL, you're obviously justified in being upset.

HugeCwtch · 03/05/2024 23:28

So your partner told you? Or did she say to you?

If your partner told you, I have a quick way for you to lose weight!

If not, then the old reply of " well I can lose weight , but you'll always be a miserable cunt" is in order

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