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To want a shower one night a week. DH says I’m a c**t

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Hopingforbetterluck · 03/05/2024 22:26

I’ve just had enough. WW3 started because we came back from holiday on Sunday, I’ve not had a chance to wash my hair since then, busy unpacking, washing, WFH, life with 2 small DC. Last night I wanted to have a shower and wash my hair and for DH to put tea in while I did that once the kids were in bed. Apparently I’m a twt, a c*t, a bitch. A real woman would have dinner on the table every night. He smashed around the kitchen making a sht tea as he put it.

He says I should be having a shower at lunch time while eldest DC is at nursery and youngest is asleep but I’ve worked overtime this week and not had chance not to mention the fact I’d rather have a shower at the start or end of the day. He says it’s my poor time management that’s caused this argument and me and my attitude can sleep on the sofa tonight. I’m just so heartbroken that my life has come to this. My dad and no other man in my life would ever dream of speaking to me like this yet this is who I’ve ended up with.

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Youdontevengohere · 03/05/2024 22:32

If my husband called me any of those things I’d be gone.

PauliesWalnuts · 03/05/2024 22:32

Oh give over @MonsterMunched - she should be able to take as long as she bloody well likes!

(and my showers take ten mins, and then 20 mins to dry my hair. Every day).

Merryoldgoat · 03/05/2024 22:31

Blueplantpots · 03/05/2024 22:30

What is it on here tonight? There’s so many posts about people being married to men who are idiots.

It’s every bloody night. It’s beyond depressing. I don’t know how these awgul
men manage it.

Youdontevengohere · 03/05/2024 22:31

MonsterMunched · 03/05/2024 22:28

It’s a crap way to talk to you but it take 5 minutes to have a shower and wash hair so it hard to believe you haven’t been able to do that for a week.

If it only takes 5 mins, she can surely have a shower tonight for 5 mins without her husband losing his mind over it?

CatamaranViper · 03/05/2024 22:31

I don't see how you haven't managed to have a shower and wash your hair in nearly a week BUT that doesn't excuse him being a sexist arsehole who is verbally abusive.

This relationship is fucked.

StSwithinsDay · 03/05/2024 22:31

The day my husband called me a twat, a cunt and a bitch would be the day I would make plans to leave him.
Is the relationship in any way salvageable?

Blueplantpots · 03/05/2024 22:30

What is it on here tonight? There’s so many posts about people being married to men who are idiots.

Busywithsomething · 03/05/2024 22:30

Does he have any good points?

KittyCollar · 03/05/2024 22:30

😱

CatamaranViper · 03/05/2024 22:30

Flickersy · 03/05/2024 22:28

Tell him a real man would earn enough that you don't have to work.

Then leave him.

Don't sink to this level

Listengold · 03/05/2024 22:29

Try and leave the bugger.
That's no way to live. That's no way for your children to see how the bast**D treats you.

Comingupriver · 03/05/2024 22:28

I’m sorry you’re going through this. You do seem to realise how far from normal this is. What will you do?

MonsterMunched · 03/05/2024 22:28

It’s a crap way to talk to you but it take 5 minutes to have a shower and wash hair so it hard to believe you haven’t been able to do that for a week.

Flickersy · 03/05/2024 22:28

Tell him a real man would earn enough that you don't have to work.

Then leave him.