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Who pays first date

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Honeybu · 03/05/2024 19:20

Ok I just been for a first date coffee.

been chatting with the guy online and he asks to meet up for a coffee so I agree and went on the date. He then proceeded to make his order ( latte and sandwich) cost £8 at the counter and paid for his bill without asking what I wanted. I then ordered mine and paid (latte and sandwich) cost £8 and paid . I got sandwich as wouldn’t want to sit and watch him eat feel awkward.

I felt he should’ve paid given that he asks me out. If I ask a friend or any new male/female friend I’m getting to know I would pay as I ask them to come for drink.

offcourse once we progress I would be paying and contributing.

Please what is your opinion on first date who should pay?

This post is not about judgement on me but your opinion and experience to share. Thanks

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PersephonePomegranate23 · 03/05/2024 19:24

I'd expect to pay 50/50 on a first date or separate orders as your date did.

Greywitch2 · 03/05/2024 19:23

Well I'm almost 60 and this would have put me off him, to be honest.

It feels tight. If he was at the counter first it feels like manners to say to the other person, 'What are you having?'. I'd have paid for us both if I'd been first in the queue, although it sounds like he was the one who asked you out and in that case it's usually assumed he would pay.

He wouldn't get a second date with me. Failure to offer me a coffee having asked me out counts as poor manners in my book and I'd not bother with another meeting.