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Boy or Girl

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Babydo22 · 03/05/2024 18:49

Posting for fun and a little bit of curiosity 🤣

Following on from a discussion with my OH - do you think my baby looks like a boy or girl?

I would have no idea the sex of a baby just by looking at facial features whereas my OH thinks it's obvious.

AIBU - yes it's easy to tell boys and girls apart
AINBU - babies just look like babies

Boy or Girl
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NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2024 20:14

No way of telling with red-gold hair. There's no point my saying I thought you had a lovely little girl because you've already given the answer.

My eldest was assumed to be a boy because hers took a long, long time to grow (was still curling close to her head aged 3) - even when she was wearing a pink outfit given to me by my sister because she'd had similar for her redhaired daughter.

Emmaanddan · 03/05/2024 20:12

Babydo22 · 03/05/2024 20:08

Thanks for all your guesses and lovely comments! You also proved me right with DH as she is infact a beautiful baby girl ❤️

She is the spitting image of her brother when he was a baby so my guess would also have been boy but when she wears a bow or is wearing a girlie outfit, her features to me look so girly. I would post a picture but wouldn't want to offend a select few 🤣

Ah well beautiful baby.

I think the truth is you really can't tell with babies. It's a best guess.

Everyone thought my son was a girl even when he was all dressed in blue!

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Babydo22 · 03/05/2024 20:10

PrincessTeaSet · 03/05/2024 20:06

There's no turn there - if you look at the reflection of the light it's in the same place in both eyes. The baby has a wide nasal canthus giving the appearance of a squint - it's common in babies and will alter as the face grows in a couple of years

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Thanks for this - not that I was in anyway concerned by the previous post x

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Bigcat25 · 03/05/2024 20:10

Thanks for the update op, thought she was a girl for sure.

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Babydo22 · 03/05/2024 20:08

Thanks for all your guesses and lovely comments! You also proved me right with DH as she is infact a beautiful baby girl ❤️

She is the spitting image of her brother when he was a baby so my guess would also have been boy but when she wears a bow or is wearing a girlie outfit, her features to me look so girly. I would post a picture but wouldn't want to offend a select few 🤣

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Vergingontheridiculous · 03/05/2024 20:07

@Greendino90 my MIL made me completely paranoid that my second had a "squint" because sometimes in photos he looked like his eyes weren't quite aligned. It's very normal in very young babies for eyes to not align all the time (the muscles take a while to firm up) and after that it can still look like they're not aligned because of the way the skin folds around the eyes. It's usually pretty easy to tell if there's a problem, especially when you're the one looking at their face all the time.

I didn't see a problem until MIL went on and on and on at me about it and I wasted a GP appointment just to be told he was fine (and all of the above).

Don't be my MIL.

PrincessTeaSet · 03/05/2024 20:06

Greendino90 · 03/05/2024 19:19

Have you had the turn in baby’s eye assessed?

There's no turn there - if you look at the reflection of the light it's in the same place in both eyes. The baby has a wide nasal canthus giving the appearance of a squint - it's common in babies and will alter as the face grows in a couple of years

PrincessTeaSet · 03/05/2024 20:04

FlyingSoap · 03/05/2024 19:04

The child’s face is online. Why do you think people don’t post their kids online?

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Most people plaster their kids all over Facebook with full identifying details and personal information. An anonymous photo is not at all risky in comparison. I mean they can just take baby off a pampers ad or something if anyone wants a baby picture for nefarious purposes

MarmitePizza · 03/05/2024 20:01

Boy

BusyCM · 03/05/2024 20:00

Boy

DrJoanAllenby · 03/05/2024 19:57

Boy.

ThisIsMyRubbishUsername · 03/05/2024 19:56

I think boy too.

Vergingontheridiculous · 03/05/2024 19:56

Do you think maybe people guessing random babies without any other gender stereotype markers are more likely to guess boy because of the lack of hair? If you're desperately searching for a gender signifier (albeit subconsciously) that may sway it. Mine looked very like themselves as babies, but sometimes remarkably alike (I have one of each).

TimeInBlue · 03/05/2024 19:51

Greendino90 · 03/05/2024 19:19

Have you had the turn in baby’s eye assessed?

This place is 🦇 💩

Cute baby OP, I’d say boy…or maybe girl.

Serengetti56 · 03/05/2024 19:49

Greendino90 · 03/05/2024 19:19

Have you had the turn in baby’s eye assessed?

Get yourself assessed!!
Honestly, of all the comments to make.

KreedKafer · 03/05/2024 19:43

Greendino90 · 03/05/2024 19:19

Have you had the turn in baby’s eye assessed?

Fucking hell, there are some appalling people on Mumsnet. I’m pretty sure the OP’s baby has been looked at by medical and nursing professionals in its lifetime, and that any issue would have been raised, if there is one.

Giraffe888 · 03/05/2024 19:39

First thought was boy!

KreedKafer · 03/05/2024 19:39

FlyingSoap · 03/05/2024 19:13

Why would you post your baby’s picture on a forum of thousands of others? It’s mind boggling to me how nobody but one other person here sees the issue

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Posting the baby’s face on an anonymous forum, with no profile or personal details attached to it, doesn’t put it at any further risk of abduction or abuse. Thousands of strangers already see a baby’s face every time you take it out in its buggy.

If you’re thinking the photo might end up on the dark web, do you seriously imagine that if a paedophile wants a picture of a baby’s face, they would trawl through a billion Mumsnet posts on the off-chance of finding one, rather than just typing ‘baby’ into Google Images and taking their pick from the umpty-trillion photos available?

InactionIsAWeaponOfMassDestruction · 03/05/2024 19:37

FlyingSoap · 03/05/2024 19:13

Why would you post your baby’s picture on a forum of thousands of others? It’s mind boggling to me how nobody but one other person here sees the issue

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But what exactly is the issue?

PennyPugwash · 03/05/2024 19:30

Boy

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 03/05/2024 19:28

Boy!

cherrysprinkles · 03/05/2024 19:27

Cute baby. I'd say boy

HangryOliveMentor · 03/05/2024 19:25

FlyingSoap · 03/05/2024 19:13

Why would you post your baby’s picture on a forum of thousands of others? It’s mind boggling to me how nobody but one other person here sees the issue

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Well, what do you see as the issue?

Obviously there are risks associated with posting photos (of yourself or your children) are online but I’m struggling to see which would apply to a photo of a young baby posted anonymously.

ThursdayTomorrow · 03/05/2024 19:23

Boy

BigBoysDontCry · 03/05/2024 19:23

I'd say girl but I wouldn't say it's obvious.