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To still use a car seat for my 10 year old?

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ExcitedButNervous0424 · 03/05/2024 15:46

My son has recently turned 10 and still uses a high backed booster.

When I mentioned this to my friend the other day, whose son is a few months younger than mine, she practically laughed and said she can’t believes I still put my 10 year old in a car seat.

My son is always asking why he still has to use one as apparently, to quote him: “none of my friends do” but it’s always been non-negotiable for me. I always thought he was exaggerating when he said that none of his friends use car seats anymore (not even backless boosters) but judging from my friend’s reaction its made me wonder whether my son is actually right.

My friend said to think about how much I must be embarrassing my son when he has to use a HBB when his friends don’t use anything, but surely car safety isn’t about just letting him do what his friends do?

What’s the norm? Because her reaction really surprised me.

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nonottoday · 03/05/2024 15:54

I imagine this would be very embarrassing for him if you pick up his friends, and he has to get in his car seat. Unless he's really small, seems excessive, but if it's a non negotiable for you then do you.

ExcitedButNervous0424 · 03/05/2024 15:54

Robotcustard · 03/05/2024 15:50

If he’s over 135cm he no longer has to use a car seat.

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He’s just under 132cm which is why I use one, but the son of my friend who found it amusing is smaller than my son. As are some of my son’s other friends who don’t use a car seat.

My friend was giving the impression that even if the child is still within the requirements of needing a car seat, that factor should be ignored at this age as it’s not “cool” for a child to use one (I.e her comment about me embarrassing my son).

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autumncrisp · 03/05/2024 15:52

It goes by height. I have a 9 year old in a high back booster seat.
I also have a close family member who is a paramedic and explained the vast difference in her calls over the years with children in car accidents with vs without a seat. It's a no brainer for me.

K0OLA1D · 03/05/2024 15:51

My dc are both really tall, but mine haven't been in car seats of any sort since around 8 possibly younger. I don't know anyone personally who uses car seats for kids younger than about 7.

Wolfpa · 03/05/2024 15:51

how tall is he?

Robotcustard · 03/05/2024 15:50

If he’s over 135cm he no longer has to use a car seat.

NisekoWhistler · 03/05/2024 15:49

Seems a bit excessive to still have a 10 year old in a big car seat. But honestly you do you, whatever works best for your family