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To think humans take life way too seriously.

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purpledreamsicle · 03/05/2024 14:29

I'm a laid back person by nature but all around me I see stress and worry about things that will usually resolve in time.
I see people getting upset about things that aren't going to matter in the morning or worrying about things that might happen but probably won't.
I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short and in the end none of it will matter anymore.
Is life really meant to be full of problems and worry?
Is there anything wrong with just living more relaxed and care free? I feel like it's made out to be an irresponsible trait.
Is there really anything wrong with not worrying about what other people think or what others might say, I just don't get it, it seems like we're all out to make each others lives as difficult as possible because we hate anyone who isn't suffering as though they're not living in their idea of a stressful real world.

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gingerbreadbunny · 03/05/2024 16:14

I guess that's a choice you make at the end of the day. I guess ignorance is bliss.

BirthdayRainbow · 03/05/2024 16:13

Said someone who it appears has led a charmed life or had incredible family support and upbringing or is goady.

citymove · 03/05/2024 16:11

While I do agree, the government isn't going to let us take our foot of the gas so onwards we go, we can't even retire this day and age and I'm not religious but I'm sure whoever created this life didn't intend it to be the way it is.

rainraingoaway6 · 03/05/2024 16:03

I've got to admit I sometimes come home late really tired after a nightmare or a day and look at my cat chilled on the sofa and think that's the life, bring me back as a cat please.

creatureofcomfort · 03/05/2024 16:00

My MH would be a lot better if I could care a bit less about things but not everyone is able to, inside my head is constantly running even when I'm trying to sleep.
I'd love to be able to unwind.
I have also worked with a couple of can't be arsed colleagues and had to pick up the slack and it's not fun.
On contrast I've also worked for jobsworths who make life bloody miserable.
Somewhere in between would work.
I do worry how people keep up the pace when they get older, I'm exhausted now.

VulvaArmy · 03/05/2024 15:49

Some people worry excessively, but then some people have a lot to worry about.

There are actually things that happen in life that people need to be concerned about.

bodminbeast · 03/05/2024 15:47

I think it depends really, there are some things that you have to take accountability for, for the sake of others and to be a good person but that doesn't mean you can't live a more carefree life without stress and burn out.

It's all a balance, when you're lying on your death bed you're not going to wish you'd been a bit more stressed at work.

vanillaclouds · 03/05/2024 15:41

Oh yes absolutely, but we've been brainwashed by marketing companies to believe that material things bring happiness so we're constantly chasing the latest trends and working harder and longer hours because we believe we need it all.
If people stuck to the basics they'd be just as happy because things don't buy you happiness, just a temporary buzz until the next time.

cookiehannah · 03/05/2024 15:07

I agree people over complicate life, it's meant to be an experience to be enjoyed, we've become over materialistic.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 03/05/2024 14:45

I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short

This life is too short phrase is used so often but I beg to differ. I think life is long, very long and that's where half the stress comes from. People worry about 'the rest of my life' all the time, the finances, relationships, health etc. If we all knew we were going to drop dead at 55 we would be probably happier and more relaxed.

JamSandle · 03/05/2024 14:45

Tbh you're right. Most things in life are overcomplicated.

We live, we die. Might as well enjoy the in between as much as possible.

JacquesHarlow · 03/05/2024 14:34

I'm a laid back person by nature

ok..

but all around me I see stress and worry about things that will usually resolve in time.

Describe those things in more detail. For me, I see people stressing about money, health and work. Those things don't necessarily resolve in time.

I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short and in the end none of it will matter anymore.

This is nihilism. Look it up @purpledreamsicle . People actually have to live and care about things, they need a purpose.

Is life really meant to be full of problems and worry?

Of course not, but worry is a mechanism people sometimes revert to when they really care.

Is there anything wrong with just living more relaxed and care free? I feel like it's made out to be an irresponsible trait.

Who makes you feel like this?

Is there really anything wrong with not worrying about what other people think or what others might say, I just don't get it, it seems like we're all out to make each others lives as difficult as possible because we hate anyone who isn't suffering as though they're not living in their idea of a stressful real world.

OK, I'm out at this point...

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