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Its a fence one .

259 replies

pavillion1 · 03/05/2024 08:00

We are having our garden landscaped the fence between our neighbours and ours was falling apart so even though it is actually neighbours fence we let them know that we are willing to replace . They said fine but can we make sure its like for like we said yes no problem.

I admit i didn't specify to our landscaper the fence had to be exactly the same i just said same height and we have chosen to replace the wooden post with concrete.
This hasnt come cheap . Upshot is the neighbours have gone mad about the new fence and demanded they at least get the better side of the fence which we have agreed to but im now feeling abit hard done by as yes ok its not exactly the same fence panel but it is a. stronger panel with concrete foundations .

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Whinge · 03/05/2024 08:09

It really depends on how different it is. Yes the height may be the same but there's a huge variety of fence panels, so it could be very different from what they were expecting. You agreed to replace like for like, but it sounds like you've change the design without talking to them, and the first they know about it is when they've seen the new fence?

Hereyoume · 03/05/2024 08:07

Put up your fence inside your boundary and let your neighbours do what they like.

Although, if the original fence was theirs, then legally you may be in for some issues as you had an agreement to replace like for like. They may take civil action. They won't realistically get anywhere in court, but a dispute could potentially affect the sale if you needed to move.

Who owned the original fence?

pinkpinkeverywhere · 03/05/2024 08:04

If the fence is strictly theirs I’m sure you should get the good side. I’m sure the owners always gets the bad side, so in your case I’d definitely want the good side as you are also paying for it! Don’t let them get a free fence and the good side. I’d have asked to go halves too.

GinForBreakfast · 03/05/2024 08:04

You should have asked the neighbours about the new fence before putting it in. It doesn’t matter that you think the new fence is better.

Toomuch44 · 03/05/2024 08:04

It was a genuine mistake on your part, but I get their point of view. Fencing should have been delayed until you could chat with them.

Scousefab · 03/05/2024 08:04

If you’re paying you usually get the nicer side. Think it’s pretty ungrateful of them for be honest and think they are being cheeky!

DrJoanAllenby · 03/05/2024 08:02

Why on earth would you do that?! 😂

The easier thing to do would be to put your own fence up an inch under the boundary so it's in your garden!

Unfairtravel · 03/05/2024 08:02

How different is the new and old fence? Dark wood to bright pink plastic or a slightly different shade or look?

SharedAccountWithMySister · 03/05/2024 08:01

How much different is it?