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happypickle · 03/05/2024 06:37

Off the back off another thread and doing a few searches of the benefits calculator, it seems the sweet spot for a lot of families will be to be renting, have a low/medium earning (typically) husband and an unemployed mother who stays at home. This seems to yield the highest return for UC, no childcare expenses and a happy mum who gets to stay at home and be there for her children.

It doesn't seem to be fair that UC system supports this whilst middle earners will be expected to both work full time in order to pay their mortgage and pay extortionate child care fees to probably be in a worse financial position than those on UC.

I know the theory is that long term, the working couple will be better off as they will have better pensions and career progression. But is that really the case?

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Kalevala · 03/05/2024 07:23

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 07:09

That’s the point of benefits though to tide you over. Sorry don’t know much about it but personally would not be comfortable taking money I hadn’t earned myself on a long term basis unless I was in genuine need. Doesn’t seem to bother anyone else so maybe I am the old fashioned one.

No, the point of benefits is to subsidise employers.

Kalevala · 03/05/2024 07:21

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I already work full time. I wouldn't work overtime unless I was desperate as I'd keep about 30p in the pound. So £4 something an hour on overtime rates.

How about workers being paid enough to live on?

Itsnamechange · 03/05/2024 07:19

What these threads often come down to is “working class people shouldn’t breed”, which really isn’t the flex you think it is.

The people literally keeping the lights on in this country aren’t earning enough to have children without their salary being topped up by in work benefits. Isn’t that a disgrace?

ilovesooty · 03/05/2024 07:18

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 07:09

That’s the point of benefits though to tide you over. Sorry don’t know much about it but personally would not be comfortable taking money I hadn’t earned myself on a long term basis unless I was in genuine need. Doesn’t seem to bother anyone else so maybe I am the old fashioned one.

Sorry don't know much about it

Evidently.

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 03/05/2024 07:18

The issue with relying on benefits is that you're at the mercy of landlords/HAs , you're at the mercy of the government and their policies etc., and more often than not they're not enough to live on.

If you think it's that great, give it a go.

Vettrianofan · 03/05/2024 07:14

I do not need to work as I am classed as being in training and education. Coming to the end of my first of six years studying part time for my degree. I might end up doing a Masters afterwards. I will see how it goes closer to the time.

Blackcats7 · 03/05/2024 07:12

Do all you benefit bashers work for the daily wail? Or is this purely your own prejudice which you have nurtured all by yourselves?

conniecon · 03/05/2024 07:12

What is unfair to me is that if you rent then UC pays it for you. If you have a mortgage it doesn't.

So it's fine to pay a greedy landlord's mortgage but not a homeowner's.

I don't think the state should be paying anyone's mortgage but it's unfair that if you fall on hard times your rent is paid but you're shafted for the mortgage!

Obviously I don't think state should be subsidising mortgages of people who choose to not work but where's the safety net for those who need the housing support for a while.

Vettrianofan · 03/05/2024 07:12

Not this again 🙄

DH works full time, I am an OU student part time and we are in receipt of UC. We have four DC ranging from 17 to 6. Youngest is in receipt of CDP and I receive Carer's Allowance. I am his main carer when I am on not studying and he isn't in school.

I have been a SAHM for 17 years now.

MississippiAF · 03/05/2024 07:10

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This is my SIL when she’s pleading poverty.

God knows what she wants anyone to say.

Flufferblub · 03/05/2024 07:09

I think it works out about £2 an hour for carers or something.

I suppose if you have a mortgage, then you have an investment.

I rent and will have nothing to show for it or anything to leave for my dc

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 07:09

That’s the point of benefits though to tide you over. Sorry don’t know much about it but personally would not be comfortable taking money I hadn’t earned myself on a long term basis unless I was in genuine need. Doesn’t seem to bother anyone else so maybe I am the old fashioned one.

Sirzy · 03/05/2024 07:08

DramaLlamaBangBang · 03/05/2024 07:06

If anything needs to be fixed urgently it's carers allowance. It's a disgrace that it gets taken off UC and wages at all. Carers are saving the taxpayer millions in care costs

The whole carers allowance system is shocking. But the goverment have yet again shown they have no respect for carers.

OneCyanKoala · 03/05/2024 07:07

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Itsnamechange · 03/05/2024 07:07

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 06:48

Doesn’t anyone feel guilty taking money from the state? I would unless I was in dire genuine need or had a disabled child or something. Able bodied adult bumbling along on benefits - I couldn’t look myself in the mirror taking money from taxpayers to support myself.

No I didn’t. 50% of the country claims some kind of in work benefit. I’ve never had a period of unemployment since I was 16. Even at uni I worked 2 jobs and paid tax.
When I unexpectedly became a single parent at 32, claiming tax credits was the only thing that actually allowed me to work because putting my daughter into nursery was costing over 1/3 of my salary - and the only reason it wasn’t even more than that is because I worked 4 days, one of those being every Saturday, so my daughter was with my mum.
I no longer claim benefits and own my own home. The fact i was able to dig myself out of that situation was purely as a result of receiving support for the first few years of my daughter’s life.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 03/05/2024 07:06

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 03/05/2024 07:00

We get UC, I'm a sahm my husband works full time we have a mortgage, 2 of the 3 children in this house are physically disabled I'm a carer to them both, I get one lot of carers allowance which is deducted from the UC despite me running on 2-4 hours night sleep for the last 10 years there is no respite. No I don't feel guilty I feel exhausted.

If anything needs to be fixed urgently it's carers allowance. It's a disgrace that it gets taken off UC and wages at all. Carers are saving the taxpayer millions in care costs

Kikisweb · 03/05/2024 07:02

UC is set up to give you the most if both parents work. It's mow a requirement that you need to be available and looking for work or working if your child is over 3 (I think) for 30 hours a week. As a family we claim UC, both of us work. Husband is self employed driving instructor and also works 15 hours for a coach firm. I do 3 days as a TA for special needs children. We have 3 kids, 2 of which are SEND and registered disabled, so I get the carers element which removes the 30 hours requirement.
Renting is not stable at all unless it is through the council or housing association. No fault evictions are common, deposits are huge. We were evicted before because the landlady wanted to move in, we had to stay months after the date because we couldn't find another place to live, it was incredibly stressful. We live in a housing association house now and it is such a relief to be out of private renting. I do think that UC should take mortgages into account in the same way they do for rent, it feels like the government is saying you cannot own a home because you are poor !

HaPPy8 · 03/05/2024 07:00

Well you chose the mortgage. If you think the sweet spot is what you describe there is nothing to stop you. Except of course you realise that actually is not that perfect after all and you want “more”.

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 03/05/2024 07:00

We get UC, I'm a sahm my husband works full time we have a mortgage, 2 of the 3 children in this house are physically disabled I'm a carer to them both, I get one lot of carers allowance which is deducted from the UC despite me running on 2-4 hours night sleep for the last 10 years there is no respite. No I don't feel guilty I feel exhausted.

cookiehannah · 03/05/2024 06:58

happypickle · 03/05/2024 06:46

It is if they have a secure tenancy.

By secure tenancy, I assume you mean social housing? Which is like gold dust and the waiting lists a ten years or more if you're even considered and not all social tenancies are secure only council houses have secure tenancies and they all sold their stock to housing associations who do a variety of tenancy from / years to assured at best.
I worked for one of these H/As and most people are on the waiting list and bidding until they are no longer a priority and are forced to look for private rentals.
Also staying at home on benefits until a child is 3 living in poverty isn't my idea of the dream but you can aspire to that if you choose.

Sirzy · 03/05/2024 06:57

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 06:48

Doesn’t anyone feel guilty taking money from the state? I would unless I was in dire genuine need or had a disabled child or something. Able bodied adult bumbling along on benefits - I couldn’t look myself in the mirror taking money from taxpayers to support myself.

Surely a big part of the issue there though is that people aren’t paid enough to give them a decent standard of life? People working full time shouldn’t need to be supported by the state. That is a sign something is going wrong in society surely?

FrogsWormsandCaterpillars · 03/05/2024 06:56

happypickle · 03/05/2024 06:53

No I don't as I have a mortgage and UC won't cover mortgage housing costs.

Plenty of poker with a mortgage claim UC. If your income is low even with both of you working you can claim.

ilovesooty · 03/05/2024 06:55

TheaBrandt · 03/05/2024 06:48

Doesn’t anyone feel guilty taking money from the state? I would unless I was in dire genuine need or had a disabled child or something. Able bodied adult bumbling along on benefits - I couldn’t look myself in the mirror taking money from taxpayers to support myself.

Why should people feel guilty? There are plenty of working people having to claim universal credit. What a horrible post

Lizzypet · 03/05/2024 06:55

LittleBooThang · 03/05/2024 06:46

Everyone has the same choices. You are free to quit working to SAHM too.

And if everyone made this choice, where would the UC money come from?

happypickle · 03/05/2024 06:53

LittleBooThang · 03/05/2024 06:46

Everyone has the same choices. You are free to quit working to SAHM too.

No I don't as I have a mortgage and UC won't cover mortgage housing costs.

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