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To worry I sound boring

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milkonesugar35 · 03/05/2024 06:16

On paper.

If you were to judge me off this list solely, does it make me sound boring? I'm nearly 36, three kids , work full time btw...

T-total
Don't go out
In bed by 9
No specific hobby
Few friends

Instead...
I holiday abroad 2-3 times a year with husband and kids.
Walk the dog
Have days out with my kids
Enjoy my job
Get on well with colleagues

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Didimum · 03/05/2024 07:40

To me, ‘boring’ has always been based on personality, not on lifestyle traits.

Regardless, firstly your husband sounds quite awful. Secondly, surely you see a sexless marriage in your 30s with someone who isn’t happy with a sexless marriage isn’t going to work?

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milkonesugar35 · 03/05/2024 07:23

Thank you for your replies. Not to drip feed but this came up because my husband isn't happy with our sexless marriage (my choosing, always had a low sex drive since we first met so I've not changed, but he's understandably frustrated). In conversation with that he brought up the above list, adding in no sex and said I'm "quite the catch".

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Freakinfraser · 03/05/2024 07:03

That’s not really what boring is about, boring is about your personality.

it isn’t a very exciting life as such, in bed by nine, no friends, no socialising, never going out, and you’re only in your thirties, but so what, if you’re happy that is all that matters.

however what has prompted the question?

Beeebabababom · 03/05/2024 07:01

Who cares if you're boring...to who anyway? Who cares what boring is, it subjective anyway.

But I can't imagine how you are fulfilled with no hobbies and no friends.

Can you carve out one evening a week to start a new interest? It could be at home or not.

AgentProvocateur · 03/05/2024 06:57

None of that makes you boring.

Do you read?
Do you keep up with what’s going on in the world?
Do you contribute your opinions?
Are you interested in finding out about things?

If the answer to these questions is yes, you’re not boring.

NewStartNowish · 03/05/2024 06:56

Some of the most ‘krrazy’ people can be the most boring to be around.

And people’s lifestyles are not what makes them boring.

We can’t answer this question! But I am sure you aren’t boring to those who care about you.

HeadNorth · 03/05/2024 06:53

You live your life in the way that works for you. That would not fulfil me, but it fulfils you - so you are blessed to be content by the simple things in life.

Catza · 03/05/2024 06:53

I have no idea whether you are boring or not but it does sound as though you have no interests besides your family. And I generally find there is very little to talk about with a person who can only talk about their husband and kids.

ThePoshUns · 03/05/2024 06:30

Your lifestyle might be boring but you might be an interesting person.
A boring person to me is someone who talks about themselves all them time or has nothing to say at all.

Josette77 · 03/05/2024 06:21

None of that tells me if you are boring or not?

You can walk a dog and be boring. You can be nice and boring.

You can go bed at 9 and be hilarious charming company. You don't need to drink alcohol to be eccentric.

That said if you're happy with your life who cares? Enjoy being yourself.

Hoglet70 · 03/05/2024 06:19

Everyone's idea of boring is completely different! To some people, your life is great, to others it doesn't float their boat. Live how you want to live and don't worry what others think.

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