Teacher bought an ex students only fans?

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I am unsurprised @BernardBlacksBreakfastWine that you've decided to dismiss arguments about grooming and dangerous sexual behaviour by sneering at women expressing concern and calling them prudish

Why are you ‘unsurprised’? Do you know me?!

Didn’t call anyone prudish at all. I am actually pretty ‘prudish’ myself based on the actual definition. This has nothing to do with my argument.

This has baffled me too:

Well, you have never been a schoolgirl facing the 'creepy teacher', you haven't got the slightest fucking clue about what women and girls experience

How could you possibly know this about me? I am a woman! I was a schoolgirl in the 90s so I probably have more idea than you. Most of us have been there. I also know what made/makes me uncomfortable about male behaviour. I’d be uncomfortable if a man talked to me about OF or any other porn, or if he watched it in public.

But a grown man accessing legal porn in private? Not interested.

Porn is largely depressing and not something I am into. But you must know it’s widespread in our society? And not every man who watches porn is a predator, not by a long shot.

Everyone (almost) has sexual urges, men and women alike. Not everything sexual is evil.

The only potential anomaly in this particular case is the grey area over the time period he should have observed following the student leaving school.

I am unsurprised @BernardBlacksBreakfastWine that you've decided to dismiss arguments about grooming and dangerous sexual behaviour by sneering at women expressing concern and calling them prudish, mocking them, implying they're frigid - it's a very familiar and very depressing approach. The problem isn't a man who might be dangerous to the teenage girls to whom he has a duty of care; it's those boring uptight women who faint at the thought of sex!

No. I have encountered men who groom and men who are dangerous, men whose sexual fantasies are a fucking problem actually because they decide to act them out on unconsenting women. Well, you have never been a schoolgirl facing the 'creepy teacher', you haven't got the slightest fucking clue about what women and girls experience. And you don't get to berate women who point out the warning signs of a predator by calling them frigid.

I think some posters aren't joining the dots that what has likely attracted this man to this woman's OF is the thrill of seeing a young ex-pupil performing sex acts.

Possibly, possibly not. It’s actually none of our or anyone’s business what gives him a thrill. The only potential problem (and I’m not saying it’s a trivial one) is whether he is in breach of the school’s policy about online contact with ex-students.

You can wring your hands all you like about the horror of a teacher fancying an ex-student and having sexual thoughts about someone who used to wear a school uniform, but you don’t get to police people’s sexual fantasies.

There’s a lot of (what I asssume to be faux) outrage about men’s sexual thoughts on this thread. It baffles me. We live in a world where people openly admit to being turned on by dressing as a dog and being led round on a lead FFS. An adult man getting turned on by younger women on OF is pretty fucking tame.

Don’t get me wrong; I absolutely take issue with offensive male behaviour; you can see on other threads how I will defend women and girls until I’m blue in the face. But I will draw the line at getting upset about what I suspect might be going on in a man’s head. That’s his business.

I don’t pretend to understand Only Fans but I think I’m right in saying it’s legal and for adults. I am not a fan of porn and am actively against the porn industry which clearly abuses and damages vulnerable women. But, again, OF seems on the tame end of this spectrum since it’s controlled by individuals who reap direct monetary rewards.

As I said, if the school has a clear 5 year policy - easy: he’s done wrong. Otherwise, it’s a total non-issue.

What grates about some of these responses is all this fainting with shock at the idea of a grown man having sexual thoughts; it’s just absurd to me. Men have a lot of sexual thoughts. Hell, sometimes women do too. About people other than their husband!! People are allowed thoughts that you don’t like.

Did the porn feature any recent ex-students? No? Then not relevant, we don't care about your night out thanks. You seem to have missed the crucial point.

Teachers can of course drink, have sex, use porn and I'm not, as a pp suggested, being so sanctimonious as to suggest they should never let a sexual thought cross their mind. Go on OF if you want. But finding an OF page of a student you taught four years ago and subscribing? Wrong, creepy, sinister and potentially predatory.

I think some posters aren't joining the dots that what has likely attracted this man to this woman's OF is the thrill of seeing a young ex-pupil performing sex acts. And by subscribing, he's made sure she knows he's watching. That's the fucking problem, not teachers having sex. It's involving their students in it that I'm objecting to.

She could work in a supermarket, like many others, but prefers the eady way out by spreading legs for cash on Of. Tbh they ate both didgusting. OF is hardly a must to make some money for people these days.

Everyone has a safeguarding responsibility. He's accessing adult material - not children's.

You'd be breaching his privacy - possibly illegally.

And if the sexual material being viewed by an adult is creepy then don't make the material.

He is no longer her teacher. She is no longer an innocent child student but an adult sec worker,

I'm sure many will be shocked to the core, but teachers are human and do normal human things, I'm reminded of a very bawdy "lads night out" where a motley crew of us male teaching staff ranging in age from 24 to 65, including the head and deputy - hit the town - the head (who was very straight laced) got horribly pissed, wolf whistling at girls outside a club and took a pee against the bar in a pub.

Totally rat arsed we ended up at the head of sciences house, consuming more beer, before a young NQT suggested "putting a porno on" - so there you had it, the entire male staff more or less, all legless, watching porn and being sick on the poor head of sciences carpet whilst cheering ar this darned film like a football game!!.

Was a memorable night for sure! - sober they are a right boring group!! That was 10 years ago, so not that long.

Is OP coming back or is she busy?

But if their science teacher right now is masturbating to OF footage of a young woman who four years ago was sitting in her school uniform in that classroom, I don't want him around my children. I wonder that anyone else could be comfortable with that.

The OF bit is dodgy, yes. And if the school has a 5 year policy, then he’s in breach and it’s a genuine issue.

But, come on. What’s with all this sanctimonious nonsense? An adult male having sexual thoughts about a (presumably attractive) adult woman in various states of undress does not make him a pervert.

The online issue complicates things. But it is normal to find people - yes, even people younger than you - sexually attractive. Children grow up. Once they are adults they are, you know, not children any more. Most of us wore school uniform at one time. It doesn’t make us eternally vulnerable. You cannot control who people wank over FFS.

Does she definitely know it’s him there 5 of us with exactly the same name in my works directory and it’s not particularly common
name

could be same name different person

Anyone who buys onlyfans should have their careers ruined.

Having just read a bit more and can't find a way to delete my last comment. I thought it was just a coincidence but if knowing the only fans woman as being an ex student then absolutely no! This is not ethical and yes creepy. Sorry for previous comment, totally out of order, ugh what teacher would do this, whether male or female. They are former students, you see them as that and nothing else! I do actually feel repulsed now.

Ah I see, so you think he was actually seeking her out? That makes it much more sinister, I just thought it was anonymous. No that's not right at all.

He's subscribed to an adult porn site, and just so happens to be that she knows him. The next police officer, lawyer, someone you work with, your manager, could also do this? Private life, trade and buy! Teachers are humans too, why start ruining his career because he's doing what millions of others do?

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Did Op say he looked her up because she was an ex pupil?

Because we still live in a patriarchal society where men have more power.

Why ?

So who do you feel it is ok to sign up to only fans? Who do you think it’s ok for these women to sell to? Cos you know they ain’t doing it for free? And do you even know the age of the teacher? Do you know if he’s 26 or 46?

Yes. I think this is probably one of 'those' threads.

On Only Fans does it say the person's real name and location?. Eg. If their name was Lucy Smith and they lived in Leighton Buzzard you'd be able to find them by searching for that?
Also, given that secondary school teachers teach 100s of kids each week, it's not unreasonable to ask if he'd know he taught the girl. That's not people excusing a man, it's a reasonable question.
I've not used Only Fans, so I don't know how easy it would be to look up a specific person he may not even remember

I suppose she made a choice of selling her 'content' on OF, and no one forced her. It's a pretty frequent thing I guess that someone you know will find your profiule eventually- are people actually so thick and think they will only be weatched by some unknown members of the public.

No sign of the OP returning - another wind 'em up and watch 'em go thread.

Firstly a young woman in her early 20s is probably just trying to make ends meet.the dearth of jobs that pay well enables this. There is a cancer in our society that means men always seem to be excused" he probably doesn't remember her" or "she has put her bits over the Internet " suggests that she is to blame somehow.Hes a dirty old man .would he like his DD or neice sister drooled over by men with a hard on in their bedroom? Why does he feel able to perv over a young girl he used to teach FFS