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The ‘average’ mum on mumsnet

156 replies

Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 21:04

So, I am sat wondering , as I have on many occasion … is the ‘average’ Mum on Mumsnet
living in an fairly expensive house
working part time
pondering their marriage
burnt out
and ?….. what else ?

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HauntedBungalow · 02/05/2024 22:33

You won't get the chance to meet her because she doesn't answer the door and has gone NC with everyone she ever knew.

CremeBruleeLove · 02/05/2024 22:33

wizzywig · 02/05/2024 21:25

Their ducks are in rows

Oh deffo.

CremeBruleeLove · 02/05/2024 22:32

Makes 6 cupcakes which takes her family 6 months to eat.
Shuns toilet brushes.
Never irons.
Drinks one glass of wine a year.
Finds Boden a bit naff now, she's more Scamp & Dude.
Likes to live dangerously by leaving washing out overnight to get darked on in the garden.
Mostly lives on massive salads & HRT

ByUmberViewer · 02/05/2024 22:31

wompwomp · 02/05/2024 21:32

No idea why this stereotype of middle class relatively well off woman comes from. Most people seem to be single mothers with at least one if not 2 SEN dc, living I. Social housing and on UC. They buy all their clothes off Vinted and think Biden is a)something to aspire to b) too expensive.
If not second hand they buy clothes from the supermarket and think people who shop at Waitrose are snobs. Private schools are derided

I couldn't agree more.

Mainly single women on low incomes and UC with SEN kids.

Am also flabbergasted as to where the middle class Mumsnet myth originated. Maybe it was - for the first month.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 22:30

Prone to dealing with frustration or negative response to a post by throwing out a string of 🤣🤣🤣🤣 or saying “you’ve made my day!!!!”

Overly fond of the terms gaslighting, passive aggressive, abusive and narcissistic - all delivered with the high seriousness of a diagnosis.

Unable to comprehend the connection between doling out the much loved LTB advice and the much abhorred outcome of The Blended Family.

BreakingAndBroke · 02/05/2024 22:25

Has trouble parking on the street they live on

Blacknosugarplease · 02/05/2024 22:22

Fizzadora · 02/05/2024 21:09

A total bitch given some of the responses on here these days.

This made me giggle 😂

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 22:15

Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 22:08

I don’t think it’s meant derogatory . I think it’s capturing the ‘ easy life ‘ v ‘ the struggle’

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Apologies if I took it the wrong way I just don't think mentioning disabled children is right on a thread that's laughing at people.

Librarybooker · 02/05/2024 22:10

Now here’s one :

A surprising number of women who are not Mums and don’t plan to be

I’ve no problem with this and commend them for going on a forum with ‘mum’ in the title

bradpittsbathwater · 02/05/2024 22:10

Has a £1m pension pot by 45.

MsMuffinWalloper · 02/05/2024 22:08

All husbands wear lycra and block country lanes on weekends but this is a Secret Hobby they will not divulge because it is too outing
All kids have regular visits to NT houses and museums on weekends
Mum's out in all weather cheering on kids who are county team players/riders and love dryrobes
There has been an issue with inheritance at some point

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Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 22:08

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 22:00

No need for the comments on sen children that's below the belt.

I don’t think it’s meant derogatory . I think it’s capturing the ‘ easy life ‘ v ‘ the struggle’

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Librarybooker · 02/05/2024 22:02

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 21:12

I actually think quite a lot of the regulars are in their 60’s.

And some of us have kids still in school 🤣 and are over 60

ichundich · 02/05/2024 22:01

Perimenopausal, mum of a ND kid, into wide-leg jeans and trainers, Taylor Swift fan, anti-private school (but worships the 'true upper class' and'old money'), anti-Brexit, hates the words 'moist' and 'picky tea'.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 02/05/2024 22:00

tracktrail · 02/05/2024 21:37

100k plus a year
Super bright kids
super sporty kids
twat husband or single parent or conversely Peter Perfect husband
twat MIL

20k a year
SEND kids trying to negotiate the educational system
lives in rental
twat ex
twat ex MIL

Reality is anyone can be anyone they choose online.

I agree

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 22:00

No need for the comments on sen children that's below the belt.

ZenNudist · 02/05/2024 21:55

There's probably certain demographics on here but a fair mix from mums and dad's to those who are child free and all manner of lifestyles and circumstances

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 21:54

Abracadabra12345 · 02/05/2024 21:34

Are usually large of nork

I agree about the mopping of floors and are horrified that anyone may enter with outdoor shoes on, since of course said interloper would have trudged through a muddy, faeces-filled track

Although - lots seem to live very rurally.....

How do we know the nork bit?!

Thepeopleversuswork · 02/05/2024 21:53

All human life is on Mumsnet. That’s the beauty of it (much as it winds me up at times).

The “typical” Mumsnet mum doesn’t exist, despite the attempt to push various stereotypes.

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Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 21:52

KeyboardWhinger · 02/05/2024 21:50

I am surprised by how many posters aren’t parents.

Yes me too! But then there is a lot posted that’s for all really !

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CulturalNomad · 02/05/2024 21:51

They're married to the 0.001% of the male population who doesn't ever watch porn, has never even seen porn and gave up masturbation the day they laid eyes on their partner

And their husbands keep their phones locked and carry their laptops with them from room to room....😂

ZippyZappyZoo · 02/05/2024 21:50

Hmmm. I dunno. I do have a fairly expensive house, it’s true. I do not work part time. I am not burnt out. I am not pondering my marriage.

KeyboardWhinger · 02/05/2024 21:50

I am surprised by how many posters aren’t parents.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 21:48

Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 21:42

This has nailed
it for me ….
thank you…
it seems to be the polar opposites that I am noting … but almost like there are two clear ‘
camps’

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Yes I think there are polar opposites.

What they have in common is a loathing of “middle class-ness” : one group because they aspire to be above and beyond it, and the others because they think it is pompous but enviably free from all concerns.

Original poster
Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 21:42

tracktrail · 02/05/2024 21:37

100k plus a year
Super bright kids
super sporty kids
twat husband or single parent or conversely Peter Perfect husband
twat MIL

20k a year
SEND kids trying to negotiate the educational system
lives in rental
twat ex
twat ex MIL

Reality is anyone can be anyone they choose online.

This has nailed
it for me ….
thank you…
it seems to be the polar opposites that I am noting … but almost like there are two clear ‘
camps’

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