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The ‘average’ mum on mumsnet

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Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 21:04

So, I am sat wondering , as I have on many occasion … is the ‘average’ Mum on Mumsnet
living in an fairly expensive house
working part time
pondering their marriage
burnt out
and ?….. what else ?

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ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 03/05/2024 06:10

Earns 6 figures
Works full time
Does everything at home as dh is useless
Goes to the gym 5x a week
Hates her mil
Creates meals from scratch
Has a group of friends

Josette77 · 03/05/2024 06:07

Why do you ask? ( Head tilt & tinkly laugh )

Chirawehaha · 03/05/2024 04:15

betsisherman · 03/05/2024 03:42

You mean not like these other websites where the 'average' person is pro-porn, pro-infidelity and rave about their MIL?

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Lots of people don’t have a problem with porn; lots of people quite like or don’t mind their MIL; and I’ve never encountered the obsession with (and fear of) infidelity to the extent it’s found on MN.

So, yes. Not like other websites.

betsisherman · 03/05/2024 03:42

Chirawehaha · 02/05/2024 21:15

Extremely anti porn, perpetually terrified about possible infidelity, doesn’t like her MIL.

You mean not like these other websites where the 'average' person is pro-porn, pro-infidelity and rave about their MIL?

marshmallowfinder · 03/05/2024 03:24

I am sat... Oh please, no. I am sitting...

Relaxd · 03/05/2024 02:45

Unable to deal with basic disappointments without going no contact, unable to work through difficulties without diagnosing narcissism, is permanently gaslit by everyone apparently. Secretly is a gaslighting narcissist themselves. (Apologies to those genuinely truly awful situations - this post is of course tongue in cheek and not about you!).

HospitalStayNHS · 03/05/2024 02:41

I wondered when the fucking chicken joke would be rolled out. Took longer than I expected this time. I don’t think that was ever said and is the most unamusing, made up anecdote ever.

Teenagerantruns · 03/05/2024 02:29

I have been on here for many years, my kids are now in their late 20's. I just browse now when I'm bored, l have been a really poor single mum with no money at all, loved how supportive mumsnet was then, the whole Christmas giving lists. Someone once sent me curtains when l had none. Now I'm no 60, comfortable in my life, but don't have the massive pension most people seem to have.
the same tropics come up every few weeks, although there seem to be more about interhence and pensions

coxesorangepippin · 03/05/2024 02:27

I reckon the average age is definitely between 40-45, given the 'how was your 80s childhood' threads

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 03/05/2024 02:19

CremeBruleeLove · 02/05/2024 22:32

Makes 6 cupcakes which takes her family 6 months to eat.
Shuns toilet brushes.
Never irons.
Drinks one glass of wine a year.
Finds Boden a bit naff now, she's more Scamp & Dude.
Likes to live dangerously by leaving washing out overnight to get darked on in the garden.
Mostly lives on massive salads & HRT

You missed the spider's willies and the never-ending chicken that could feed the 5000 with leftovers to spare.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 03/05/2024 02:15

Abracadabra12345 · 02/05/2024 21:34

Are usually large of nork

I agree about the mopping of floors and are horrified that anyone may enter with outdoor shoes on, since of course said interloper would have trudged through a muddy, faeces-filled track

Although - lots seem to live very rurally.....

Oh that reminds me of the thread about not putting kids in trolleys because apparently parents are unable to tell when their kids shoes are covered in dog shit and kids sitting in trolleys befouls them.

I'll put my hand up to the should be doing something else, here procrastinating.

EmilyTjP · 03/05/2024 01:47

Definitely ND, lives in Scotland, big boobs, short hair and wears no make up.

fieldofclover · 03/05/2024 01:01

Doesn't answer the door - because someone might be wearing shoes.

HcbSS · 03/05/2024 00:19

Hates her MIL
usually got an awkward SIL
claims her DH/DP ‘doesn’t pull his weight’
Passes off her children’s bad behavior as SN

Justleaveitblankthen · 03/05/2024 00:11

Judging purely on the links to clothes and sandals, awful fashion sense and money to burn.

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Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 23:10

CremeBruleeLove · 02/05/2024 22:32

Makes 6 cupcakes which takes her family 6 months to eat.
Shuns toilet brushes.
Never irons.
Drinks one glass of wine a year.
Finds Boden a bit naff now, she's more Scamp & Dude.
Likes to live dangerously by leaving washing out overnight to get darked on in the garden.
Mostly lives on massive salads & HRT

‘ lives on salad and HRT’ ha ha

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cabbagenotpatches · 02/05/2024 23:03

SAHM pondering returning to work and insisted on marriage before she got married because her husband earns more and sees marriage as a pre-nup, but would advise another woman to not marry if that woman earned more.

lightisnotwhite · 02/05/2024 22:59

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 21:48

Yes I think there are polar opposites.

What they have in common is a loathing of “middle class-ness” : one group because they aspire to be above and beyond it, and the others because they think it is pompous but enviably free from all concerns.

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Agree about the two camps.

I disagree about the middle class thing. Everyone seems determined to be as middle class as possible.

Snugglemonkey · 02/05/2024 22:55

bradpittsbathwater · 02/05/2024 22:10

Has a £1m pension pot by 45.

God, I wish. I would retire.

JadeSheep · 02/05/2024 22:47

Whitewatergrafting · 02/05/2024 21:20

I think there are a few types including...

SAHM with husband who earns upwards of £200k and considers this an average salary for families "in our circle". Also very conscious of being sufficiently middle class. Prone to stealth boast.

Hardworking low-average earners who enjoy slating the SAHMs.

People who like takeaways and start threads asking everyone what their favourite items are.

Competitive under eaters.

I swear half the boasts aren't even stealthy, and you've forgotten the 'competitive under 'h'eaters' - you know the type:.
"I don't turn the central heating on until I see icicles on my daughters eyelashes".

Welovecrumpets · 02/05/2024 22:47

44 with a 5 year old and a 3 year old. Burned out and perimenopausal but wouldn’t change it because having children in your 20s or early 30s is a bit lower class. Lives in a Victorian terrace in a Home Counties town somewhere, works part time in HR and hasn’t had sex for 2 years but her husband would definitely never cheat. Walls painted in Farrow and Ball and children are named Emma and Rory. Ultra left wing on paper but is secretly pissed off with the vagrants who are starting to fill up her town and is pondering the local indie for her children because she ‘doesn’t believe in private education but they’re so bright and sensitive’. Is NC with most of her family because they once suggested sharing a room with a sibling didn’t mean she was neglected as a child. She can’t be doing with toxic narcissists. Is wondering whether shaving her legs for summer means she’s a slave to the male gaze and hairy legs would be a better display of her feministic principles.

Snugglemonkey · 02/05/2024 22:44

Chirawehaha · 02/05/2024 21:15

Extremely anti porn, perpetually terrified about possible infidelity, doesn’t like her MIL.

I see this a lot, and it is quite hard to relate to.

Blueplantpots · 02/05/2024 22:39

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 22:30

Prone to dealing with frustration or negative response to a post by throwing out a string of 🤣🤣🤣🤣 or saying “you’ve made my day!!!!”

Overly fond of the terms gaslighting, passive aggressive, abusive and narcissistic - all delivered with the high seriousness of a diagnosis.

Unable to comprehend the connection between doling out the much loved LTB advice and the much abhorred outcome of The Blended Family.

You forgot the “I’m curious”, “perhaps engage some critical thinking” or “use your words” phrases trotted out daily like they’re some some kind of MN cool girl.

Cantrushart · 02/05/2024 22:37

Winetastingtimewasting · 02/05/2024 22:08

I don’t think it’s meant derogatory . I think it’s capturing the ‘ easy life ‘ v ‘ the struggle’

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This whole thread is derogatory.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2024 22:34

HauntedBungalow · 02/05/2024 22:33

You won't get the chance to meet her because she doesn't answer the door and has gone NC with everyone she ever knew.

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