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To leave UK due to weather and cost of living

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Blossompink · 02/05/2024 20:04

We are absolutely fed up of this constant cold, wet and dreary weather and are seriously thinking it's time to leave the UK. It's not just the weather which is making us miserable but also the cost of living is just ridiculous simply trying to keep the house warm and do simple tasks like drying clothes outside.

We are late 50's, no mortgage, have some savings, but would probably need to have an holiday let type set up to bring some money in or a small business.

AIBU to have had enough of life in the UK and want to move elsewhere?

OP posts:
notimagain · 05/05/2024 09:14

While Europe may have better weather in the winter then us in the UK, what about the summer when it so much hotter then here.

But there isn’t some sort of EU legislated standard European weather..

It’s perfectly possible to find parts of Europe where there very definitely UK style seasons, it’s cool in winter (including snow) and not inevitably boiling hot for the whole summer.

Bululu · 05/05/2024 09:11

The weather will never be better here or the prices would come down. This is considered mostly a rip off. Even before the crisis of 2008, Brexit or the inflation the cost and taxes have always been very high. However, you need to see what is more important for you. I know that safety and weather are my priorities so there are much better places than the U.K for retired people. However, you need to embrace the local culture and language to make it a successful move. It is worth it in my opinion.

Clutterbugsmum · 05/05/2024 07:37

While Europe may have better weather in the winter then us in the UK, what about the summer when it so much hotter then here.

Also have you not seen the recent news reports from various places in Europe where the locals are up in arms about how the locals are not able to afford to live in there towns because of all the Expats. They have the same issue as we have here where the locals can not afford to live in their towns, the cost of living is the same all around the world everything is much more expensive.

While the UK is not great at the moment, it no better then anywhere else in the world. Everywhere has it's own problems.

BlastedPimples · 05/05/2024 07:07

Not all British people obviously!

BlastedPimples · 05/05/2024 07:07

@nothingsforgotten yes, I agree with you about the insular attitude of the British.

I mean, do most people still live near their families in the U.K. ? Surely friends and family are spread out over the country?

They'd have had to move away for work etc and forge new networks in their new place. Perhaps people move several times within the U.K. over their lives, to different places, new people etc. They cope and even thrive.

It's the same as when you live abroad. You do it all over again. It's hard work. Of course it is. But people do it all the time, enjoy it and make good lives for themselves.

And if the shit hits the fan, well they can return to the U.K., or use support networks via technology same as they might if they were already in the U.K.

nothingsforgotten · 05/05/2024 06:50

Polishedshoesalways · 05/05/2024 06:36

It’s not the same at all. Just a bunch of random strangers in one place is not the same as a loving family, life long friends and kindly neighbours and community.

Its only when you are in real need do you realise being a thousand miles away from those that love you is not such a smart move after all.

When you move to another country and become part of a community then those people are no longer "just a bunch of random strangers". What a strange attitude.

I find a lot of British people really odd about moving to another country, and rather insular. As I mentioned, people have been doing it for generations, and mostly seem happy enough. The majority of people I know who have moved here appear to have no intention of ever going back to where they came. A thousand miles away is nothing really, especially in this day and age.

Rhi987654 · 05/05/2024 06:49

I lived and worked in New Zealand during my 20s. I'd give anything to go back, but life is a little more complicated for us than it was 15 years ago unfortunately. Quality of life was fantastic, had a lot of crisp blue skies during the winter, the proportion of wages and living costs were much better.

Polishedshoesalways · 05/05/2024 06:36

nothingsforgotten · 04/05/2024 23:02

Living in a country which has many immigrants, from all corner of the world, it seems to me that there are a lot of people who manage quite well being away from "home". They make a new home, as others have been doing for many, many, years.

It’s not the same at all. Just a bunch of random strangers in one place is not the same as a loving family, life long friends and kindly neighbours and community.

Its only when you are in real need do you realise being a thousand miles away from those that love you is not such a smart move after all.

Densol · 05/05/2024 01:53

I dream of living in Spain sometimes. I could easily move as I have a substantial pension income, but every time I seriously think about it, I then reject it because of my kids and grandchild.

I agree about the weather. Im currently in Florida and sunshine just makes me feel a million times better........but then again I like the seasons

Good luck with whatever you choose

echt · 05/05/2024 01:48

BMW6 · 04/05/2024 11:14

I thought it was pro Brexit voters who are allegedly Stupid?

I voted in part to end Free Movement. Not No Movement

You do understand the difference don't you? 🙄

And whose manifesto proposed this?

I'll save you the effort: no-one's.

KeeeeeepDancing · 04/05/2024 23:35

But you cannot. Brexit rules stopped the free movement of people from
Uk to EU.

Jeannie88 · 04/05/2024 23:24

Go for it! That's our plan when we retire. Early 50s and with young DC still as older parents so need to be here for school etc. As soon as we can we want to move. Xx

nothingsforgotten · 04/05/2024 23:02

Polishedshoesalways · 04/05/2024 10:14

Op I will say this as someone who has lived in many countries.

You can not replace the love, security and support of your adult children, extended families, friends and communities all around you.

When the shit hits the fan there is nothing more comforting than home. The NHS for all its faults is world leading in terms of medical breakthroughs, developing medicines and vaccines. We are a decent, reliable and trustworthy nation from which you can explore the world if you wish. You have forgotten how precious it is to live your life safely without fear of corruption.

Wherher it is beautiful, sunny summer days like today with fields of buttercups and butterflies. Or snowy days in mid winter, the misty gloom and comforting fires of autumn - it is Home. Home can’t be replaced or replicated.

I hope you are enjoying the sunshine today and marvelling at the stunning colours of spring - with picnics, bbqs and beach days all ahead to look forward to and how lovely to have a family to share it all with.

Living in a country which has many immigrants, from all corner of the world, it seems to me that there are a lot of people who manage quite well being away from "home". They make a new home, as others have been doing for many, many, years.

fungipie · 04/05/2024 22:26

BMW6 · 03/05/2024 22:56

I voted Leave in the Brexit vote.

I don't give a damn about Free Movement being ended. In fact it's one of the reasons I voted to leave the EU.

You sound delightful. Hope your children and grandchildren forgive you - mine wouldn't!

Any other wonderful benefit/s of Brexit you could quote for us, perhaps?

Papyrophile · 04/05/2024 22:19

Re the whole thread. I think some people think there's a perfect place, and there isn't. There are lovely places, but you can't afford to live there, or the rules stop you living there. No country is going to import elderly expensive burdensome residents, especially without a support network. A reminder that in most of southern Europe you wont eat in hospital unless your family bring you food.

Runningoutoftime99 · 04/05/2024 21:46

life’s too short - find a way and make it happen !!! Still hundreds of very cheap properties in France . Good luck

Bernardo1 · 04/05/2024 21:15

Skimming through quickly, I saw only 1 short mention of Malta, which I think is a blindingly obvious possibility.

Pretty much the warmest place in southern Europe, southern Spain close, Turkey cooler.
English language, English electric plugs. English food, pubs widely present, but also great Maltese and European Cuisine.
Great scenery, history, art and some lovely beaches.
Non stop flights, many airlines Inc easyryan.
Last 2 February's, eating breakfast outside cafe at near 18 C whilst 0 C here.

Downside, I think you'd find it too hot in mid summer, best be in rainy U.K.

Mauritius was mentioned it certainly is a lovely island, but again think you'd find too hot in their summer. Tax is low, but property could be a problem as operate the Napoleon system. Can't leave to whom you wish.

But I think maybe you should just consider escaping for couple of months somewhere each mid winter. If you get an abnb or negotiate short term lease, and keeping yr U.K. property on frost free, could be financially viable.

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/05/2024 21:03

tillyandmilly · 02/05/2024 20:36

I love the changeable seasons ! Would hate to live in a country where its hot all the time - I walk in all weathers- The Lake District would be my go to place to live - would never leave the UK

We aren’t all the same though. I love warmth and sun and the Lakes for me are dramatic but cold, bleak and wet. This doesn’t help OP merely illustrating we like different things and I absolutely would leave the Uk.

Papyrophile · 04/05/2024 20:33

I can't disagree with the motorhome option but a mechanically reliable comfortable version is not really cheap to buy. And fairly thirsty on fuel. Several friends have them and use their 90 days in the winter to avoid heating inefficient houses. But a close chum set off for a couple of months in France and Spain in mid-December and between bad. cold weather and mechanical issues was back in the UK before mid January, broke, to live in her less cramped dry home.

At one stage, we had a canal boat (shared ownership) in Southern France and we half-planned to spend the winters there and cruise north in summer. But there was then a big winter that froze everything right down to the Meditteranean coast. That deep freeze damaged hulls beyond repair. At which point there's only insurance. Luxury dreams, mostly.

tiredofitall99 · 04/05/2024 20:13

Hire or buy a motor home and travel round Europe to get a feel for different places. Not exactly the same as living somewhere permanently if course, but if somewhere doesn't feel great - then move on sooner. I have a friend doing this right now :-)

rlouisa · 04/05/2024 19:27

Go on fb, there are loads of groups for ppl who feel like U do. I'm in a group and I just watch and learn how others are doing it. Good luck huh, the weather really gets me down too but there's a lot to consider with relocation but it's doable

Dinosaurhearmeroar · 04/05/2024 18:53

I don’t think it’s case of grass is greener. Move to somewhere where there is better weather which in my eyes instantly means happiness and easier life quite frankly. Do it! X

MrsChambers40 · 04/05/2024 18:51

You could perhaps go to a country such as Malta, which is pretty much like the U.K. but warmer! I loved it there.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/05/2024 17:58

Riverlee · 04/05/2024 09:07

Maybe watch some if tv programmes ‘Bargain Bruts abroad’ or the one about people doing up chateaux’s and running them as businesses. One featured a cafe owner, and due to forest fires, they didn’t gave any trade for a week as no tourists came to their area.

Programmes about ‘doing up chateaux’ - as if anyone can, do make me wonder! A relative of dh has one, nothing like as big as some, but even several years ago he told me that the heating oil alone cost €50k a year. Chateaux are ‘cheap’ for a reason - there are an awful lot of them and you need exceedingly deep pockets.

Moreorlessmentallystable · 04/05/2024 15:21

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 03/05/2024 20:28

Greece’s golden visa is now set at 800,000 EUR for places like Attica, Thessaloniki, Mykonos, Santorini, and islands with a population of more than 3,100. 400,000 EUR everywhere else. You get a permit for up to 5 years which is renewable upon application and payment of a further fee. you need to have private health insurance, the golden visa doesn’t give you access to the labour market, your kids can come in on it up to a certain age.

Beware the cost of living is no joke here either though!

Edited

This is great info. I agree with you, cost of living is terrible everywhere not just in the UK. I have friends and family in Mexico, USA and Canada and they all are in the same boat.

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