That colleague made comment about ginger babies

ginger hair is absolutely beautiful. My very rude midwife said when my daughter was being born “don’t worry, it’s not a ginger” which was a horrible thing to say in front of my redhead mother! My son has the most beautiful red hair and he gets compliments daily, walking around with him its ridiculous how many people come up to us and say lovely things about him. Your colleague is an idiot!!

No it's not pregnancy hormones it's stupidity about red hair, which is lovely, and I wish I had it. My late DH did and it looked wonderful (he became resolutely 'ash blond' as time went on). It's also a bit racist since ginger/red hair is somewhat associated with the Irish and the Scots. But I'd ignore her, she's stupid. Or you could be nasty and say you are so glad you don't have mousy (brown) hair.

Your colleague left her sense at home with her manners. To say what she said in front of somebody with red hair and pregnant? Not knowing how many other people in the room might have red-haired partners! I think your response should have been "I hope my baby doesn't have a thick, gobby mother. Imagine growing up knowing your mother has no self-awareness. That would be horrible."

You're being just as ignorant and prejudiced. Why not just be proud of your own child without the need to pull somebody else's child down?

That's what I meant about posturing. I can see where it comes from, attack being the best form of defence but it's pointless and it sounds hollow. Celebrate your colouring any way you like - but just yours and your own. Everyone else can sort themselves out.

The cheek! I'm a redhead, but my dad had black hair and my mam's was brown.
It's a recessive gene, but l had a ginger grandparent on each side, grandma on my dad's side, grandad on my mam's, so double whammy!
I'm the only grandchild out of about two dozen with red hair, though, so the rest likely only had one gene.
My mam's brother was ginger, but all three of his kids have dark hair.

I've never once had a negative comment about it, quite the opposite!
She's just ignorant, OP. At least your baby won't have a twat for a mother. 😁

I've never understood negative comments about red hair, I think red hair is gorgeous. I was a boring brunette before turning grey and for years I died my hair various shades of red and loved it. When my son married a girl with glorious red hair I was hopeful of red headed grandchildren, but it was not to be, one is brunette and one is blonde, ah well.

Our DD(18) has long, thick, flowing red hair and is tall and pretty with it. She stops traffic. I bet Brown Hair baby won't do the same in 18 years.

I wanted a ginger baby and got one. (husband was a ginger baby)
She grew up being called ginger ninja. When she got to school she was used to hearing the word ginger so the insults went over her head mostly.
She's 17 now, absolutely stunning and my little ninja is now a 6ft tall black belt in karate.
The few that did tease her are absolutely jealous of her gorgeous auburn hair.
The last laughs on her.

She’s a ridiculous ass, but I find redheads absolutely gorgeous 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I don't either, I cringed when I read that post.

I also don't agree with the glorification of it as a defence. That's just as daft. People who don't like red hair won't give a fig and they won't believe you anyway, they'll see it for the posturing it is.

Disdain is the way, total disdain for their stupid ignorance.

I don't have red hair but I always say something to thick-wits who comment on it, along the lines of 'Why are you perpetuating the dislike of a hair colour?'. Anybody who speaks of 'gingers' or 'red heads' in a derogatory manner needs pulling up on it.

I think if your hear it and say nothing then you're no better than them.

We're fucking crap with anaesthesia, though.

On the positives, there's no grey hair to worry about, as it all goes pure white instead...

I really don't think it's ok to compare anyone to poo, regardless of how shitty the parent is.

If the mum said 'I'm so happy baby is lovely and tanned' rather than pale, you won't call the baby poo skinned. I know that brown hair is different to brown skin but I have to raise an eyebrow.

Just take the high ground and ignore, or call them out properly

To be fair, you hear a lot less of this nonsense in Scotland and N Ireland where there are more red heads. My youngest has beautiful red hair and has never had any negative comments about it, he had two other redheads in his class at Primary and it just wasn't a "thing".

It comes back to anti-Irish discrimination mostly, and before that anti-semitism as red hair was associated with Azkhenazi Jews. It's pure ignorance and to be honest just makes the people making the ridiculous comments sound utterly thick and bigoted.

I will never ever ever understand the anti redhead thing. It's the most vibrant, eye catching colour going. It genuinely baffles me.

Having said that, personal preferences aside; it's disgustingly rude to make these sorts of disparaging remarks and a good indicator that the person is a twat.

I am a redhead and I know people tend to find it funny and harmless but I find comments like that so hurtful.

I went through school with people making stupid comments about my hair, so to have it revisited in the work place just reminds me of it all.

Recently a colleague of mine said something had been 'a bit of a redheaded stepchild for the team' and people laughed???? Just unbelievably rude.

I am ginger, honestly, thought this sort of thing should be over by the time you leave school.
I personally don't want my child to inherit my colouring, but not because of how it looks (couldn't give two hoots about that). It's more that my skin is so fair, burns so easily that I have a lifetime of being careful in the sun, going red easily and frankly it's a pain that I'd rather they didn't have to put up with. But for looks? oh jog on, silly colleague.

I dye my hair bright ginger every 6 weeks. I would kill to have it grow out of my scalp naturally!

We have many red heads in our family and I had felt that these stupid comments on red hair had started to become less common.
In fact many people say how beautiful the colour is.
Your colleague is a rude, unthinking woman!

I used to work with a guy who was anti ginger and who has two little ginger nuts for kids. Sweet!

The ginger gene runs rampant in my family and I always regretted missing it. I simply don't get this prejudice. Ginger hair is amazing.

Wow! That's the kind of comment I'd be reporting to HR. That kind of prejudice is not acceptable. Neither is insulting a pregnant colleague's unborn child.

I have to say I absolutely hate the ‘red hair is so beautiful’ and ‘red hair gene’ lot, not as much as the bullies obviously.

I’m not some freak of nature or exotic bird. Sometimes white people have red hair, it’s not unusual, it’s not special it’s just normal and when it’s on your head every day of your life it gets rather tedious when people keep pointing it out.

So it's not OK for me to be proud of carrying the ginger gene?? I'm quite proud of my red headed ancestry thanks!

I don't get the anti-ginger thing either. Dp is a rare strawberry blonde with grey eyes and it's such a lovely combination. He's had someone in the past say considering he was ginger he was good looking....very rude and odd. And when I was pregnant people would ask what I'd do if dd came out ginger which always baffled me. My response was always it'd be amazing, mixed race children with red hair are so unique. She didn't though lol.

Well, you've clearly led a charmed life, because it's a very real (and bizarrely, still broadly acceptable) prejudice.