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That colleague made comment about ginger babies

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CheesexCrackers · 02/05/2024 11:30

To be annoyed about a colleague making comments about ginger hair?

A colleague has recently come back from maternity leave and was talking about her dd.

She said she's so glad she's got brown hair, it would be the worst to have a ginger baby, I would of hated to have a ginger baby it would of been horrible.... she then glanced around the room and noticed my hair and made an awkward face.

I'm pregnant with my first and may well have a red haired baby, which I would personally love.

Is it the pregnancy hormones talking or am I right to be pissed off that she's targeting red hair.... and even red haired babies??

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abracadabra1980 · 02/05/2024 11:51

CheesexCrackers · 02/05/2024 11:30

To be annoyed about a colleague making comments about ginger hair?

A colleague has recently come back from maternity leave and was talking about her dd.

She said she's so glad she's got brown hair, it would be the worst to have a ginger baby, I would of hated to have a ginger baby it would of been horrible.... she then glanced around the room and noticed my hair and made an awkward face.

I'm pregnant with my first and may well have a red haired baby, which I would personally love.

Is it the pregnancy hormones talking or am I right to be pissed off that she's targeting red hair.... and even red haired babies??

I'm a lot older than you and picking on people with ginger (red) hair has always been a 'thing'. Why, I don't know, but it is just as bad as being racist, or any other predjudice, making others feel uncomfortable or upset (could also go as far as bullying) and the perpetrators should be called out in the same way.

JaneyBlueEyes · 02/05/2024 11:51

How rude of her!

I personally think red hair is beautiful!

I hope your work colleagues are of the same opinion.

reallytimetodeclutter · 02/05/2024 11:51

She's just embarrassing herself with comments like that. Makes her sound stupid and old fashioned. Try not to worry about it. I have a colleague who slightly jokes about gingers but I think it's just a way for thinking of shit to day, or a habit from the playground. I think these days it's passé to laugh about red hair.

Sev3nWonders · 02/05/2024 11:50

I have the most beautiful red headed dd who’s nearly 4 and it’s this kind of crap from grown adults that honestly worries me for her. I am blonde and now dye my hair red to match her ( can’t get anything close to her beautiful natural colour no matter what I try!! though ) because I don’t want her to feel any type of way about her beautiful red hair.

I hope your colleagues next sh!t is a jaggy hedgehog.

IdaGlossop · 02/05/2024 11:48

Ginger solidarity! We are in a minority - c.2% of the global population - and precious because we are rare. My DD has brown hair though 😊

Jasmin1971 · 02/05/2024 11:47

Silly woman. Red hair is gorgeous, and we have a higher pain threshold!

AnotherNightAnotherName · 02/05/2024 11:46

Absolutely love all shades of red hair. She sounds absolutely horrid.
People can have preferences, but how unbelievably rude and thick to vocalise it like that.

Shopper727 · 02/05/2024 11:45

She sounds ridiculous, my eldest son is a red head with brown eyes and he is beautiful, it’s such a lovely colour and each person has a different shade of red. However my mum and sister did say to me in hospital that if he came out red headed we could dye it - so were a bit apologetic when I had him, his grandmother (on dads side) and all her brothers were redheads. He’s now 23 and really gorgeous, people are ridiculous about red hair it is so vibrant and beautiful he’s got lovely freckles too. My other sons are dark haired so he’s the only one.

Faduckssake · 02/05/2024 11:44

You should have looked her in the eye and said "I'd rather ginger than rude".

Damnthedieteatingdoritos · 02/05/2024 11:44

I'd pass comment on how you'll be so glad if your DC inherit your celtic heritage/colouring!

Lush red hair runs through my maternal line (from Irish great nan) and I was very disappointed when my DC took after their DF with dark hair. However grown up DNephews have full on wild red beards and are rocking the Viking look so hopefully the gene might continue into the next generation!

Peonies12 · 02/05/2024 11:43

Of course YANBU. I'm pregnant and we're both blond/gingery so likely to have a ginger baby! I would have said something if it were me. It's also insensitive of her if other colleagues are having issues with fertility or miscarriage, she should be grateful she has a baby.

AhBiscuits · 02/05/2024 11:42

What a ridiculous comment 🙄
Is she 10 years old?

SwingTheMonkey · 02/05/2024 11:41

Of course YANBU! I feel like the tide is slowly turning with regards to people’s perception of red hair but there are still assholes about. My husband has red hair and I was over the moon when my daughter was born with similar colour but it’s now light brown!

Nicebloomers · 02/05/2024 11:39

Ginger solidarity. My kids ended up blonde, but I did hope I’d get red heads. Fingers crossed you do!

Jamiedodgers · 02/05/2024 11:38

I don’t get why people pick on gingers. I’m not Caucasian and I think it’s fun that you guys have various hair and eye colours. Personally I think gingers are absolutely stunning and striking.

She’s being mean

MonsteraMama · 02/05/2024 11:36

I'm petty (and also ginger) so I'd probably just have a loud conversation within earshot about how I really hope my baby has lovely, rare, firey red hair like me and not gross common poo brown.

But again, I am petty. Probably best to just ignore her and secretly hope little Brown Hair is a shit sleeper 👀