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That colleague made comment about ginger babies

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CheesexCrackers · 02/05/2024 11:30

To be annoyed about a colleague making comments about ginger hair?

A colleague has recently come back from maternity leave and was talking about her dd.

She said she's so glad she's got brown hair, it would be the worst to have a ginger baby, I would of hated to have a ginger baby it would of been horrible.... she then glanced around the room and noticed my hair and made an awkward face.

I'm pregnant with my first and may well have a red haired baby, which I would personally love.

Is it the pregnancy hormones talking or am I right to be pissed off that she's targeting red hair.... and even red haired babies??

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PontiacFirebird · 02/05/2024 14:14

I really don’t think the weird thing in Britain about red hair is an anti Irish thing because the French are also insulting about gingers for some reason. I think it IS a form of racism though, because red headed people tend to have specific physical characteristics aside from just hair colour- pale skin, freckles etc.

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Thevelvelletes · 02/05/2024 14:12

Heided.😃

Myonlysunshine123 · 02/05/2024 14:12

@Borgonzola I do the same, people must think I'm mental when I'm not actually with my son when I'm smiling like mad at a ginger child 🤣

Thevelvelletes · 02/05/2024 14:11

My niece and nephew are reid heeded not uncommon in Ne Scotland.
Don't understand the hate for ginger hair.

Toastjusttoast · 02/05/2024 14:10

I think your colleague was talking out of her arse.

my DD is red haired and there’s lots of it in my family. It looks great.

Myonlysunshine123 · 02/05/2024 14:10

I have a very handsome ginger 16 year old lad, everyone comments on his lovely hair. I can always pick him out in a crowd too. Shes a twat and treat her as such from now on.
Also my friend has the same colour hair but all 3 of her kids are brown/mousy. I think its terrible people are still mean about ginger hair,.you can't say a word about people's skin colour, religion, sexual preferences, but this hair colour is still fair game.
I hope you get the ginger baby you want, 😊😊xx

Borgonzola · 02/05/2024 14:10

What an absolute tit she is. My partner and I had a surprise ginger baby (neither of us are) and were thrilled. A few people have said 'she'll probably grow out of it' but I really hope she doesn't as it's a beautiful colour. She's nearly 2 now and no sign of it changing. I don't understand people like her.
It does mean that when I see another ginger child i give them extra Smile as they remind me of my little one

coxesorangepippin · 02/05/2024 14:09

Absolutely pathetic

She sounds awful

I live abroad and no-one ever mentions red hair, it's such a non issue

Doyouthinktheyknow · 02/05/2024 14:08

Yanbu! I don’t understand why it’s acceptable for people to be rude about ginger haired people.

I am ginger although greying now and has a lot of teasing as a child. As an adult I got loads of compliments, it was most odd!

Ds1 is bright ginger and has never experienced much teasing! His hair colour is incredibly beautiful and he has blue eyes so he’s really unusual.

Ginger hair is interesting and unusual, society needs to embrace it!

VivaciousRadish · 02/05/2024 14:07

My daughter has a 7 week old baby. His dad is ginger. At the moment his hair is brown, but my daughter and I delight in seeing hints of red in it. Will he go more ginger? Probably, and how wonderful. I’m more interested in whether he’ll have freckles. I really hope so

Congratulations on your pregnancy

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 02/05/2024 13:55

I have 2 ginger haired kids and while my daughter gets nice comments from time to time, my son has had some vile comments at high school. Boys seem to get it worse for some reason. I think you’re right to feel this way. It’s a lame, outdated, childish reaction and she sounds like a prick.

Nanny0gg · 02/05/2024 13:48

Shopper727 · 02/05/2024 11:45

She sounds ridiculous, my eldest son is a red head with brown eyes and he is beautiful, it’s such a lovely colour and each person has a different shade of red. However my mum and sister did say to me in hospital that if he came out red headed we could dye it - so were a bit apologetic when I had him, his grandmother (on dads side) and all her brothers were redheads. He’s now 23 and really gorgeous, people are ridiculous about red hair it is so vibrant and beautiful he’s got lovely freckles too. My other sons are dark haired so he’s the only one.

Unusual colour combination - must look quite striking

RedRobyn2021 · 02/05/2024 13:28

It's really out of order, I hate comments like that

My mum used to say she was so glad I wasn't born with ginger hair and that she's worried about it. Honestly the shit people come out with.

I actually think ginger hair is beautiful

Washingtonmachine · 02/05/2024 13:26

I'm hoping my baby has ginger hair, I think times have changed. Red is seen as beautiful in the newer generations.

BertieBotts · 02/05/2024 13:24

I live abroad and am literally slightly famous for being "that woman with the red-haired children" 🙈😅🧑‍🦰 EVERYONE comments on their hair, usually positively. I get a lot of "Oh, Prince Harry/Ed Sheeran!!" too which I find bizarre but they always mean it nicely.

I would prefer it if someone called them Weasleys Grin But it's quite nice really.

Inyourwildestdreams · 02/05/2024 13:20

She sounds like a joy @CheesexCrackers 😬 that would have pissed me off too and I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself saying something so well done you for not 😬

I grew up wishing for red hair 🙈🤣 I just love it! I always wanted to be the red headed girl in Atomic Kitten 🙃😂 DH has red hair and I secretly prayed the whole time I was pregnant that baby wouldn’t have red hair purely because I’d be so jealous being the only one in the house without 🥲😂

BlastedPimples · 02/05/2024 13:18

I love red / ginger hair.

Your colleague is a halfwit to say anything like this, op.

Furrydogmum · 02/05/2024 13:16

I'm a redhead, my mum is a redhead. She spent both my pregnancies worrying I'd have a redheaded son! Apparently "it's worse for boys" 🙄

Pieceofpurplesky · 02/05/2024 13:12

My gorgeous DS is an unusual colour redhead. I always say he is the colour of Autumn - russet/gold/red.
He's 20 now and handsome!

Fourfurrymonsters · 02/05/2024 13:12

I’m a redhead and was bullied stupid for it at school in the 70s. My son is also a green-eyed redhead, the most striking and beautiful thick, shiny copper colour - he’s now 20, 6ft 2 and rocking the full Viking look with longer hair and big beard etc. Luckily he’s never been bullied for it as I think (in Scotland at least, where’s its way more common tho still rare) times have changed a little. But I would have given your colleague a long, hard stare for her cheek.

SquirrelRed · 02/05/2024 13:09

I have 2 ginger haired children who I'm obviously very protective over so would not be happy at all if someone made a comment like this. I will say though that since they were born I have had so many comments from random strangers over how beautiful their hair is, my daughter is now 11 and even last week a gentleman stopped me in Tesco to compliment her hair. Your colleague just sounds like a nasty woman who hasn't grown up.

Dartmoorcheffy · 02/05/2024 13:08

I'm a brunette but I love ginger hair. Have always fancied blokes with ginger hair too.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 02/05/2024 13:06

sorry posted too soon. I have to pay £110 every 10 weeks to have red hair!

PuppetQueen · 02/05/2024 13:05

It just so happens that I'm sitting at my kitchen table right now, with my hair covered in gloopy red hair dye just so I can have a bit of what your colleague despises so much! I have always loved all shades of red and ginger hair. It's the rarest hair colour on earth and I think it's stunning. Nicole Kidman, Professor Hannah Fry, Isla Fisher, Ed Sheeran, Damian Lewis and Jesse Tyler Ferguson - all very attractive, in no small part because of their glowing locks.

A tiny little shout-out to the guy who presents the safeguarding training video that I watch for work each year - I don't know what he's called, but his fiery hair and ice blue eyes make it much more enjoyable!

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