That colleague made comment about ginger babies

That's also a horrible thing to say.

You should have just said quite loudly 'I'll just be pleased not to have an ugly baby' then throw her a look.

Yes you could say that, I was thinking don’t they get gingers in southern Spain- don’t think my boyfriend was too impressed when he saw him doing that 😂

God that sounds creepy! 😱😂

Oh great stuff 🤣

Which country? Went to this Spanish bar, this really nice Spanish bloke started stroking my hair & asked did I come northern Spain ☺️

Probably jealous of your hair or something else about you

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That is such a shame!

Should be sacked

Bushra, I'm not coming at you, honestly. Your post was one of the last that I read and it was kind of the last straw. I really do apologise if it seemed that I was singling you out, I wasn't, but I can see how it seemed. Sorry.

There are many, many posts on this thread fetishising ginger/red hair, wishing that they'd had ginger babies and the like. Wrapping up criticism of people with any other colour hair in their posts also and that's not on.

I had ginger hair as a child, then it went an auburn brown colour but not enough to warrant name-calling, there were other things for that. If people didn't make comments on appearance themselves and taught their children not to either -with consequences if they did - all of this would have been stamped out eons ago. Hair colour is just that, a colour, one of many. This really isn't a lighthearted subject because at the root of it is bullying.

Most parents don't allow their children to vocalise insults on skin colour, it's not acceptable and decent people challenge it. So should it be for red hair, it doesn't deserve comment but nor should it need elevating, it's like marking a child as different and putting target on them which is surely the last thing anybody wants or needs.

I’m not fetishising anything … my last few comments were lighthearted , I’m sure most people got it . I love my dark brown hair. So no need to come at me.

It is really hard to read this thread knowing that most if not all of you are women and you probably have children who have to put up with your 'protection' and judgements, in equal measure.

All you're doing is ensuring that this nonsense carries on and you will achieved the very thing you say you don't want. How ridiculous is that?

and there we are... you're doing the same thing. What's so amazing about x y z colour? Just stop it. You're giving arseholes every reason to come back at whatever you're making a fetish of and really denigrating it. You're part of the problem if you do that.

All hair colours are acceptable. Why would anybody think anything else? That's the message that needs to be dinned into people's heads.

Your SIL is a stupid woman

Yes I saw a few years ago a young girl hung herself in the woods, she was stunning, if she could have learned to love her red hair ( because I hated mine when I was younger) where would she be now? a model perhaps 😩

Yeah that's the lazy "it's just banter" thing that people come out with when they are being really offensive and don't care who they're offending. "Slagging off" people because of their nationality or hair colour really isn't acceptable, is it?

I think it’s because it’s a rare colour we are picked on- I always had a red, shiny bob, loads of compliments, best compliment,a woman said to my boyfriend at the time, your girlfriend has the best head of hair I have ever seen on female 😊huge green eyes too.
I remember a girl in my class, stuck a lump of chewing gum in my hair, had to have it cut out.. jump to yrs later, same girl now with a shiny, red bob 🤔said I thought you hated ginger hair? Well her reply was she was so envious of my hair all along😩you can’t say certain things about ethnic minorities, it’s deemed a hate crime but people can say derogatory things about us gingers & it ok- well it’s not ok! I will never dye my hair to fit in with what is deemed to be normal. Love, love my hair 🤩

My baby boy has ginger hair and vivid blue eyes- he is so striking and gets (lovely) comments wherever we go.

However, my MIL frequently laments his hair and has made comments about dying it since he was born. His thick, red hair fell out about 2 months after he was born and then she became convinced he was going to be blonde. It grew back the same colour and she was gutted.

She HATES the fact that people ‘always have to comment on his hair’ when she takes him out and I love that it winds her up! He’s totally gorgeous and she’s a prejudice cow.

Both my DC have ginger hair and I’ll be honest, I struggled a bit at first. DC1 was born strawberry blond and DC2 was born white blonde. Over time they both went incredibly vibrant ginger. Almost orange. Nothing subtle about it. I had to teach myself to like it if I’m being hand-on-heart honest. I think they are both absolutely gorgeous and I love them more than I could ever express. But it’s taken me a while to truly love their hair, and I do have moments where I really worry they’ll be picked on at secondary school. They go to a lovely primary school right now where they both have lots of friends and nobody has said anything negative about their hair. I also agree with a previous poster who said the tide seems to be slowly turning and ginger hair is not seen as quite so negative as it was maybe 15-20 years ago.

However I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before some idiot says something to one of my DC, and all I can do is build their self esteem up now so that when it happens, they can be brave enough not take it to heart. It makes me so upset and anxious though to think of them experiencing this kind of bullying.

I’ve had moments in the past where I’ve felt it’s a shame that they have ginger hair because they’re both so good looking, that was the one thing that “let them down”. I have also felt guilty that it was mine and DH’s genes that have caused them to have an appearance that might cause them to be ridiculed in future. I feel terribly ashamed of myself for thinking like that now, I have never and would never say out loud any of the things I’ve said here, and I’m intentional every day with the compliments I give them both for their hair but also for their character traits. I hope they grow up knowing that their looks are the least important thing about them.

Same at dd's school thankfully. Ginger bullying isnt a thing. They see it as something older generations did. They are more tolerant in many ways than when I was a kid.
I assumed that was the norm among young people, but it looks like some posters are saying they live in areas where there are still thick/nasty people bullying kids for characteristics they have no control over. Poor them.

I don’t think it’s dying out at all. If this thread had (somehow) existed 50 years ago, I’m sure it would have had similar responses.

Erm… I’d think the responses to this thread were testament to the changing tide? I didn’t think what I’d said was that controversial?
There is a changing opinion to red hair. My kids don’t know anything about taking the piss out of ginger haired folk and I’m sure we’re not the only ones.

What tide?
people having negative views of ginger hair is no lessor more common than 50 years ago.
my grandma as a red head
a school friend in my preteens was red headed
2 other school friend in my secondary were red heads, but one of them had 4 red headed sisters, all of different shades from copper to strawberry blond
One of my son is red head and now red bearded

all had negative comments by some people,and other people comment on how lovely it is. Those people span 4 generations!

red hair is rare so always gets noticed and some people seem to think it’s ok to make comments, stereotypes or judgement about.

now If you’re talking back to pre 1200 century, particularly women, then fair do, but even Elizabeth I was red haired and generally admired for it, as was her father.

She might be eating her words soon. No guarantee her child will keep their dark hair.
My Dd was born with a mass of straight dark hair. It then fell out and grew back in curly and Ginger.