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DP lied

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No1toldmeaboutit · 02/05/2024 07:41

Met my DP after work yesterday, he was with a client so he told me to come and meet them and we had a quick drink. On our way home he asked if I had my lunch, I said yes, i had made butties that we had took to work, he then told me he had one bite of his butty and then ate all his crisps and then finished the butty.

Later on in the evening he mentioned having met the client for lunch and that he didn’t have his butty. I called him on this and he started deflecting. I have no issue with him meeting people for lunch but I am so annoyed that he actually made up a complete story about his butty. I hadn’t even brought up lunch, he did.

he’s now telling me I’m being stupid, it’s just over a butty but alls I keep thinking is what else does he lie about. I know it’s just a butty but AIBU to be annoyed?

OP posts:
takealettermsjones · 02/05/2024 14:49

CactusMactus · 02/05/2024 14:33

Butty? Is that a regular sandwich?
I have only ever heard it used with chips... 'chip butty'.

Yep. I had a tuna butty for my dinner. 😁

CactusMactus · 02/05/2024 14:33

Butty? Is that a regular sandwich?
I have only ever heard it used with chips... 'chip butty'.

earther · 02/05/2024 13:56

I think you overthinking it tbh.

But nora batty keeps popping in my head now batty butty.

AnneShirleysNewDress · 02/05/2024 12:39

takealettermsjones · 02/05/2024 11:10

This thread is like peak Mumsnet!

Language snobbery, LTB, he must be cheating... All we need is a tinkly laugh and some ducks in a row and we'll be laughing!

Don't forget the naice ham on the butty.

Wishimaywishimight · 02/05/2024 12:29

I keep seeing 'butty' as 'bitty'...

takealettermsjones · 02/05/2024 12:17

savethatkitty · 02/05/2024 12:03

Ok. 1/ what is a butty? 2/ why is it called a butty?

  1. A sandwich
  2. It comes from buttered bread
PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 02/05/2024 12:06

On butties - my husband is sure it can only be called a butty if it has a hot filling. There are so many things he doesn't understand.

NeverEnoughPants · 02/05/2024 12:05

TheseLegsDefinitelyUsedToBeLonger · 02/05/2024 12:03

It counts! And now I really want one of those... not sure about the ketchup though Grin

You know, I'm not a big fan of ketchup, but somehow it transforms a chicken butty...

TheseLegsDefinitelyUsedToBeLonger · 02/05/2024 12:03

NeverEnoughPants · 02/05/2024 12:01

I love me a chicken butty using leftover roast chicken. Does that count?

This is probably outing, but I put tomato ketchup on it...

It counts! And now I really want one of those... not sure about the ketchup though Grin

savethatkitty · 02/05/2024 12:03

Ok. 1/ what is a butty? 2/ why is it called a butty?

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 02/05/2024 12:03

I've been reminded of a man I used to work with. He met his wife for lunch, came back to the office and got a plate of chips because the sushi she chose hadn't been enough. He told us to promise we wouldn't tell her. He didn't want her to think he was greedy or ungrateful.

I can imagine telling a white lie about this sort of thing if I thought someone would think I hadn't liked what they'd done for me.

SpringerFall · 02/05/2024 12:03

Maybe he lied because he feels you overthink things?

NeverEnoughPants · 02/05/2024 12:01

TheseLegsDefinitelyUsedToBeLonger · 02/05/2024 11:32

Excuse me but we've some way to go yet... the Mumsnet chicken has yet to arrive... Grin on a frustrating note, I fancy a butty now...

I love me a chicken butty using leftover roast chicken. Does that count?

This is probably outing, but I put tomato ketchup on it...

softslicedwhite · 02/05/2024 11:55

You lost me the fifteenth time you said 'butty'

onwardsup4 · 02/05/2024 11:55

Also on a low carb diet and never wanted one more

onwardsup4 · 02/05/2024 11:54

NeverEnoughPants · 02/05/2024 07:49

Has the word 'butty' gone all weird for anyone else?

"Butty" is ruined forever for me now

tennesseewhiskey1 · 02/05/2024 11:35

Im not from here and just Googled 'butty' hahahaha.

AliceKyteler · 02/05/2024 11:32

One thing I've learned with compulsive liars/fantasists is that they lie about the tiniest things with no reason at all (They're not necessarily covering something up)
It can turn out they did indeed serve in the foreign legion but for no reason at all they lied about seeing an elderly neighbour and helping her to retrieve a box from the back of her garage. That stuff does my head in and I can't be around it.
Before we set fire to him though as an offering to the Butty Gods maybe he just didn't like it?
In which case he's just an ungrateful bastard.
Oh let's just burn him anyway

TheseLegsDefinitelyUsedToBeLonger · 02/05/2024 11:32

takealettermsjones · 02/05/2024 11:10

This thread is like peak Mumsnet!

Language snobbery, LTB, he must be cheating... All we need is a tinkly laugh and some ducks in a row and we'll be laughing!

Excuse me but we've some way to go yet... the Mumsnet chicken has yet to arrive... Grin on a frustrating note, I fancy a butty now...

MonsteraMama · 02/05/2024 11:30

NeverHeardOfSuchTosh · 02/05/2024 11:23

And I don't give a shit about your comment either.

The irony of you calling OP hard work when you apparently don't know how to have a conversation like a normal person 😂

I'm with you OP, I hate people who lie for no reason about shit that doesn't matter, it feels so juvenile.

gamerchick · 02/05/2024 11:28

NeverHeardOfSuchTosh · 02/05/2024 11:23

And I don't give a shit about your comment either.

Bless your heart man. I hope your day gets better so you don't snarl your way through the day. Better one tomorrow.

NeverHeardOfSuchTosh · 02/05/2024 11:23

gamerchick · 02/05/2024 11:22

But why bring it up in the first place? The OP didn't ask nor gave a shit.

And I don't give a shit about your comment either.

gamerchick · 02/05/2024 11:22

NeverHeardOfSuchTosh · 02/05/2024 11:18

He lied about eating his sandwich because he didn't want you to be upset that you hadn't eaten it. I think you must be quite hard work, OP, if a thing like that bothers you

But why bring it up in the first place? The OP didn't ask nor gave a shit.

NeverHeardOfSuchTosh · 02/05/2024 11:18

He lied about eating his sandwich because he didn't want you to be upset that you hadn't eaten it. I think you must be quite hard work, OP, if a thing like that bothers you

UnctuousUnicorns · 02/05/2024 11:15

Amx · 02/05/2024 07:54

Yes I was just thinking that.

Butty is a dreadful word in any context let alone when repeated endlessly in a couple of sentences.

Isn't it just; I've always loathed the word, and I speak as someone originally from Merseyside. It just makes me cringe. If that makes me a snob, so be it! 🤷‍♀️ 😅

"Shall I change it to sandwich so you can all rest easy 🤣"

Yes, please do! Just don't make it "sarnie" as that's just as bloody bad! Brings back memories of primary school, with the dinner lady screeching "SARNIEEEEEES!" all over the playground, to call in the packed lunches kids for their sitting! 😅