To ask if you think it’s a lot to eat/drink a day?

I think you need to batch cook meals for the week because your on your own, even if its just dinners. I am struggling as well with losing a couple of stones (menopause) I don't do calorie counting or weigh myself ( I don't think it's healthy for mh). Porridge and fruit for breakfast, lunch- salad baked potato dinner chilli, lots of water in between and get up every hour and run up and down the stairs. I am guilty of getting in from work and just sitting watching TV but am trying to move more.
Good luck x

It sounds sweet, light and sad tbh.

I'm a healthy weight and I eat a lot more dense food. A salad for me is avocado, olives, grain, tomatoes, cucumber, hummus, cheese, peppers, something hot like butternut squash, seeds on top, something leafy (the mumsnet massive salad), butter beans.

I do skip breakfast or lunch but the other two meals are dense, like a yoghurt, oats, flax and chia, almonds etc or a sweet jacket potato and beans.

Food is nourishment, it should make you happy. You don't sound happy, you sound sad 😔

MyNetDiary app is really good for food logging. If you input your stats it will tell you how much you should be eating to gain, maintain or lose.

I also recommended using MyFitnessPal or another app to count calories

I would lose weight if I ate your diet

It's not a lot of actual food but the calories could be high for that amount and it might not better swapping stuff around.

Whilst some things aren't the best (like the wine) we are human and we want to be able to have something we like, life would be miserable if we lived only on stuff that was good for us. Just be mindul that you don't overdo it (too often, sometimes we need a good eating/drinking session!)

I find it easier to follow a calorie tracker and stick to x amount of calories. I've noticed that if I have eggs for breakfast I get hungry later and I'm less likely to reach for a biscuit. If I have porridge I factor in that I'll be hungry and have a mid morning snack.

I struggle to run without eating but I can lift weights without having breakfast and if I eat later in the morning I can get away with 2 meals vs 3.

I get that you are a healthy weight but could do with losing a tiny bit more and still be healthy. It's also worth noting that exercise can really shape your body too so you can look smaller but still be the same weight or even heavier.

Just be careful not to eat too little or lose too much because neither will be good for you long term.

But she wants it to. 🤷‍♀️

It's not a huge quantity of food by volume but it's mostly foods that are pretty calorie-dense, like nuts, honey, cheese, Greek yogurt, chocolate, wine, etc. You're basically just picking at things that are high in calories and won't fill you up. You're basically living on dairy, sugar and a few nuts.

You need to eat proper meals. Protein, wholegrain carbs, lots of veg. Fish and lean meat if you eat those things. Eggs, pulses, tofu etc if you don't.

Agree about the cereal bar. They're not good for you. Like previous poster said, nuts and seeds would be good

That is definitely not enough food IMO maybe for one day but not every day

I did slimming world a few years ago and it worked well for me, but now I know more about UPF I don't agree with everything they push being "low fat"

and a mumsnet chicken

It’s not enough food. It’s counter productive to starve yourself- you’ll slow down your metabolism and it will affect your hormones.

Breakfast looks ok but I’d switch out the cereal bar and up the nuts/seeds in the Greek yoghurt.

You need more protein and carbs at lunch and dinner (where is dinner?).

It doesn’t sound enough to me (although depends on Greek yog and walnut potion sizes). I’d also aim to up protein. So measure the Greek yoghurt and walnuts and add a proper lunch - salad/sandwich/wrap etc with protein (cottage cheese/chicken/tuna are good).

I would be starving on that and I am a 5.1" size 8.
You need some good protein - salmon or chicken + some brown rice or lentils.

You could have

Greek yoghurt and berries for breakfast

Salad and a protein for lunch

Easy meal like stir fry or an omelette for tea or do some batch cooking?

Or soup for lunch and have the salad for tea

That's 3 proper meals that don't have to be high calorie

It sounds fun to be fair, but very unsubstantial and not healthy in the long term. Are you veggie?

no one can help you in terms of cals…for example how much yoghurt, how much honey, how many walnuts, how big was the glass of wine, which chocolate was it, etc

just cook for two like you were before and eat one portion for dinner and one portion for lunch the next day…..

This isn’t about food, as with most peoples issues around food you’re not addressing the source of it. You’re punishing yourself through food because of how awful your family were. Thats what you need to work on, because having narrow and rigid diet based on past perspectives is the least healthy thing here. Even if you were a stone (even 2!) heavier you’d still be healthy, and quite frankly a lot happier. Food is not the enemy.

I think your weight is perfect.
On the food front, if you find cooking for one depressing why don't you check out ready meals. If you look at the ingredients, a lot have no upfs and are really nice, including the budget range ones.

She doesn’t need weight to fall off though.

That's ridiculous OP.

I'm 5' 3" and I'm on a diet.

My goal weight is less than your current weight. And I'm four inches shorter than you.

You have a disordered relationship with food.

For me that is not enough food and not right kind of food.

Maybe exercising will help tone you up. I've used Lucy Wyndham-Read's YouTube videos to tone up before.

Remove the cereal bar, Actimel, wine and honey and that’s decent low carb. You need to add in more protein and veg/salad and the weight will fall off. The Greek yogurt is fine as long as it’s unsweetened.

Definitely too much sugar as you're not eating much else to balance it out, you must feel hungry constantly eating just that?

I don't think it seems like enough food, but mainly it's very carby/sugary, no substance. You need say, eggs and veg and fruit for breakfast, or salmon, roast veg, lentils and salad for dinner. Cut out the sugary yogurts, chocolate, cereal bars and alcohol and eat more protein, healthy fats (avocado), fruit/veg.