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To forcibly ask why you pulled out?

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MyPeachLion · 01/05/2024 19:25

I am (was!) a cash buyer of a 900k property. We were due to exchange next week. And complete after 2 weeks. We went 30k above asking and 20k above another bidder. No other bidder was a cash buyer. We are about 10 weeks into the sale.

My solicitor informs me this afternoon that the seller pulled out with NO reason given.

Can I turn up to the seller's house and ask the seller face to face why they pulled out? AIBU?

The estage agent did not even bother to inform me, despite the seller telling them last weekend that he was cancelling.

No chain on the seller's end - they have a new build they have already moved into! Seller moved out of their property early last week. We know because we visited the house for kitchen measurements last week!

I rang the EA this morning to get dates so I can get carpet quotes for next week and the EA was on board! Not once did he mention that the seller pulled out.

I am pissed off for not knowing why he pulled out, and for the EA to not inform me of it, and then proceed to play me like a fool by humouring my requests for carpet tradesmen to enter next week.
Were they meant to enter through the cat flap?

Again, is it unreasonable to just face this time-wasting seller and ask them why?

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Waspeater · 02/05/2024 14:13

MyPeachLion · 01/05/2024 19:25

I am (was!) a cash buyer of a 900k property. We were due to exchange next week. And complete after 2 weeks. We went 30k above asking and 20k above another bidder. No other bidder was a cash buyer. We are about 10 weeks into the sale.

My solicitor informs me this afternoon that the seller pulled out with NO reason given.

Can I turn up to the seller's house and ask the seller face to face why they pulled out? AIBU?

The estage agent did not even bother to inform me, despite the seller telling them last weekend that he was cancelling.

No chain on the seller's end - they have a new build they have already moved into! Seller moved out of their property early last week. We know because we visited the house for kitchen measurements last week!

I rang the EA this morning to get dates so I can get carpet quotes for next week and the EA was on board! Not once did he mention that the seller pulled out.

I am pissed off for not knowing why he pulled out, and for the EA to not inform me of it, and then proceed to play me like a fool by humouring my requests for carpet tradesmen to enter next week.
Were they meant to enter through the cat flap?

Again, is it unreasonable to just face this time-wasting seller and ask them why?

I think you’re entitled to an explanation, I am sick of modern culture where by something doesn’t suit someone so they think it’s ok to blank you. Turn up at their door and slap them in the face with a wet fish if you need to.

Netball01 · 02/05/2024 14:07

@BigButtons absolutely agree with this ! It’s hard enough saving up for a deposit as it is. When the sellers pulled out of selling their house to us, we lost thousands of pounds which equated to months of savings. So depressing and I do think a financial penalty would make people think twice about if they really want to sell.

BigButtons · 02/05/2024 14:00

The system in England is shit and not fit for purpose. Sellers who pull out for no good reason should have to pay a penalty and repay the legal fees for their purchaser. Sellers should be responsible for the surveys on their properties- I believe they have to do this in Scotland?

haveaniceday321 · 02/05/2024 13:52

Can I turn up to the seller's house and ask the seller face to face why they pulled out?

Urrrrrrrrrm NO

TempersFuggit · 02/05/2024 13:37

This happened to us once, very upsetting, but the ‘vendor’ did send us a cheque to cover our legal fees which was decent of her.

HCHQ · 02/05/2024 13:31

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/05/2024 19:28

They don't owe you an explanation.

But I'm sure your massive wad of cash will get you something soon.

ouch! (but funny!)

ChickyBricky · 02/05/2024 13:21

Personally I'd just firebomb the house!

AnxietyLevelMax · 02/05/2024 13:21

I was expecting something different when i saw the tittle😂😂😂😂

MimiGC · 02/05/2024 13:20

This happened to me about 20 years ago. I had to pull out of buying a house, because I lost the buyer for the house I was selling and the chain collapsed. The man I had been hoping to buy from came round one evening (thinking back on it I don't even know how he got my address...the EA I suppose). He said he was desperate to sell, offered to reduce the price and asked if I would consider getting a bridging loan to enable me to proceed. I really wanted his house, so that's what I did. It all worked out well and I am grateful he did come round, though I was a bit taken aback at the time. He wasn't at all pushy or aggressive, just offered a solution.

Combattingthemoaners · 02/05/2024 13:19

Wasn’t sure what direction this thread was going in from just the title! 😕

fungipie · 02/05/2024 13:17

Gazumping I imagine. But there is little you can do. The English way of buying and selling is just dire and unfair.

When we were selling, the buyer asked for a huge amount off the price, after everything agreed for months, just after we signed our contract. We told him to (lots of *) - but it was devastating.

Beddgelert · 02/05/2024 13:15

Higher offer. Much higher offer.

Itloggedmeoutagain · 02/05/2024 13:14

catwithflowers · 02/05/2024 10:08

This happened to us twice before we ended up buying our home a few years ago. The first time was a few days before exchange and the sellers told their agents they had changed their minds.

The second time (we were v pissed off with the agents at this one) the sellers pulled out after 7 months saying they had decided against moving but it turned out that they hadn't even instructed a solicitor which the agents must surely have known.

Both times we had paid for expensive £2k surveys as the houses were old. Plus solicitors fees. Naturally that money was simply lost.

You have my sympathy OP. It feels such an unfair system ☹️

Was the name of the solicitor not on the memo of sale? This is one of the first things you get

Ofcourseshecan · 02/05/2024 13:06

Sandwichgen · 01/05/2024 19:31

i imagine they have reprehensible accepted a higher bid. Let’s hope they have chosen similarly morally-challenged people to sell to who will try and cut the price at the last minute or post survey

I agree.

Mirabai · 02/05/2024 13:04

It could have been a reluctant sale and they found a way to avert it or you were gazumped. Many reasons. Annoying but unfortunately all’s fair in love and conveyancing.

BloodyHellKenAgain · 02/05/2024 13:00

YANBU
I'd be really hacked off as well OP. I wouldn't go round. I might say some choice words to the EA though.

As for pp saying you're entitled/self centred etc WTAF.
No one should treat someone like OP has been treated. The EA clearly new the seller had pulled out and was stringinal OP along.

I would have more sympathy for the seller if they and the EA had just been upfront about things.

I'm sorry this has happened to you OP.

chaticat · 02/05/2024 12:50

They could have just been told they have months to live

chaticat · 02/05/2024 12:49

Can I turn up to the seller's house and ask the seller face to face why they pulled out?

No you fucking can't. Leave them alone.

poetryandwine · 02/05/2024 12:43

TheOriginalEmu · 02/05/2024 12:35

Their new house could have suffered catastrophic damage.
their relationship could have broken down and they need another house for the other person to live in.
someone could have died and they suddenly need to look after a family member and that house is much more suitable.
they could have had a life changing injury and the new house is no longer suitable.

there are a million reasons that are horrible for the seller that would make the OP look a right prick of she went steaming round there all guns blazing.

she’s perfectly entitled to be upset and angry, but it doesn’t mean they’ve been deliberately shitty necessarily.

I would be getting a different EA though. They have been unprofessional.

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I understand all of this. At a minimum, not conveying an apology for reneging on the agreement is just awful, however. Even if grieving, one can write a couple of lines for the EA to forward.

Do remember I am also against confrontation

Gonners · 02/05/2024 12:39

@MyPeachLion - Maybe their new build is crumbling within a week and they need to move back while it's repaired or while they sue the developer. Having seen what's going up locally, that wouldn't surprise me.

TheOriginalEmu · 02/05/2024 12:35

poetryandwine · 01/05/2024 19:52

The OP said in her initial post that the sellers have moved out already. They aren’t postponing for reasons of health, bereavement, their finances, etc.

I agree she should not confront them but considering this information it was a shitty thing for them to di, and the EA has been a coward

Their new house could have suffered catastrophic damage.
their relationship could have broken down and they need another house for the other person to live in.
someone could have died and they suddenly need to look after a family member and that house is much more suitable.
they could have had a life changing injury and the new house is no longer suitable.

there are a million reasons that are horrible for the seller that would make the OP look a right prick of she went steaming round there all guns blazing.

she’s perfectly entitled to be upset and angry, but it doesn’t mean they’ve been deliberately shitty necessarily.

I would be getting a different EA though. They have been unprofessional.

Lookingoutside · 02/05/2024 12:34

I wouldn’t do that. You might end up with a slap or worse.

Move on and enjoy looking for something else.

Inyournewdress · 02/05/2024 12:32

Ps you could ask the estate agent though, but they may not know or be willing to share.

Inyournewdress · 02/05/2024 12:30

You are definitely not owed an explanation of any kind. So I would certainly not ask. What you should be is informed as soon as possible and the estate agent is outrageous for not doing that.

Anonymous2025 · 02/05/2024 12:28

Go for it , what do you have to loose ? Obviously politely and in a nice way