To forcibly ask why you pulled out?

People are utter cunts

Including some of those commenting on here.

Sorry to hear the seller and EA behaved so badly. Hope you find somewhere suitable soon

Humble brag alert 🙄

It's not resentment. It's simply that this is the kind of frustration that faces thousands of house buyers every year, the exact same scenario. The cost of the property and whether the purchasers are cash buyers are not is irrelevant. OP putting it in the first sentence of her OP indicates that she feels she is in a special (call it entitled?) position.

It's really quite easy to understand why some posters have picked up on this - if you think about it.

I don't get the resentment of the op having a 'wad of cash'. It's not as if she robbed a bank to get it.

She is naturally disappointed because she was so sure of moving to a house that she liked, had made plans for it. This will pass but we would surely all feel like that, regardless of how much money we had.

Sour grapes is such an unattractive characteristic, plain nasty.

considering you'd risk getting arrested and a harassment warning if the vendor calls the police.

Surely it would have to happen more than once to be anywhere near harassment?

Oh yes, because you have never, ever been upset about something that wasn't a major social or humanitarian crisis.

This is unnecessary and really sarcastic!

Oh for goodness sake. Why are you even complaining about this? There are people out there who are grateful for a sleeping bag and a cup of tea. Look around you, MyPeachLion❤

Yes, infuriating, but perfectly legal. Even if it wasn't, confrontation is not the appropriate form of redress, considering you'd risk getting arrested and a harassment warning if the vendor calls the police.

It could be so much worse: you could be buying somewhere on a £90K mortgage as a struggling first timer and just lost the survey costs, rather than have ten times this amount relaxing in a bank somewhere.

Crappy thing to do. But it’s a dog eat dog world out there. No-one really gives a stuff about anyone else but themselves. Just look at the positives - at least relatively early in the process - ie before exchange. I’ve known people pull out just before exchange. Things happen for a reason - something better will come along.

First of all wow 900k you mean people have that sort of money???….It must be upsetting being kept in the dark and with all the plans you have made already,you will find something else the property market is rich.
I voted you are being unreasonable as the owner has the right not to sell and does not need to give a reason.Going over there seems much please do not do it least it turns into a police case.

It's not worth it - they don't have to give a reason
Going to their house would be weird and potentially harassment.

This is so rude @NeverDropYourMooncup

You are not the only one!
I was going to suggest condoms- ''Pulling out'' is notoriously unreliable.

THIS . They will have undoubtedly been offered more.

Your beef should be with your EA, it’s their job to keep you updated, and to be quite honest, if I was the seller and you turned up at my door with the sort of “I’m better than the other buyers because I have cash” attitude, the door would be firmly closed in your face.

The puzzling thing about it is that they'd already moved into the new house. Perhaps they just hate it there?

Of course you would be unreasonable. The last time I heard of someone pulling out of a sale at the last minute, the husband of the couple had suddenly dropped dead. The vendors may well have a very good reason. Leave them alone.

I thought this was going to be a thread on birth control.

It's absolutely none of your business why the buyer pulled out.

For legal transactions just stick to solicitors to do the communications.

I would ask. You have nothing to loose. Many years ago my estate agent stopped communicating after my offer was accepted. I went to the house, rang the doorbell and asked if they changed their mind selling. The lady seemed surprised and said: no we accepted another offer as I was told you are in no position to move quickly! Turned out 2 agents in the same agency were competing with each other and my agent was junior so was told to back off I think. I got invited in for a coffee, the owner listened to me and was horrified that we already spend money on solicitors and thank god she told the agent to proceed with me. I wasn’t in a chain and they were keen to go as quick as possible

I've been in a similar situation twice. There is simply no point in you getting angry at them, you can't change things and you will just hurt yourself. Take a bit of time, lick your wounds and get going with a new purchase. The situation is shit, and conveyancing laws are rubbish, you are suffering because of it. The best you can do is move on.

I know it’s disappointing, but you really have no right to go there and question them.

Things like this have a funny way of working out for the best in the end.

This time last year we had to pull out of a sale and purchase. Our estate agent sat on it for a few days just incase anything changed and he could salvage it. The buyers were devastated and kept asking our agent for a better explanation.

With £900k cash I'd be asking my solicitor not mumsnet. Just saying.

I nearly withdrew from a sale once when my solicitor (who was a colleague - I didn't do conveyancing) reported that the buyer's solicitor had asked for the fourth time to see the planning permission "for the conversion". He had been told, in writing, the previous three times that no such document existed, as it was a purpose-built maisonette. Everything else was ready to go!

I composed the reply, copied to the estate agent, enclosing copies of the three previous letters (highlighted in yellow) and saying that "my client" had said that unless contracts were exchanged by the end of the week, I would be withdrawing from the sale. And lo, as if by magic ...

Mind you, with hindsight I wish I'd kept it!