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Nursery hair dilemma

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mfbx5sf3 · 01/05/2024 18:29

2 year old dd has wild corkscrew curls. They grow up rather than down so her total hair length is only collar bone when dry (half way down her back when wet). It does tend to get in her face so every day before nursery I will plait it back/ do pigtails/ buns/ pony tail/ clips- various styles to move it back from her face- using soft bobbles and snap hair clips. I’m assuming that throughout the day it must work loose as every time she comes back from nursery it seems to have been tightly braided into intricate plaits that are bound with a small cheap plastic bobbles that I cannot get out of her hair as they are wound in so much. I am sick of spending 15 mins each evening battling an angry toddler/ trying to pick her hair out so we can bathl her. AIBU to ask the nursery to either leave her alone or tie it loosely back in the nice soft bobbles have sent her in with?

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PotatoPudding · 01/05/2024 18:44

I think you need to find bobbles and styles that stay in her hair. I don’t think they are unreasonable to find a solution to stop her hair falling in her face as long as they’re giving you your original bobbles back.

Have you tried invisibobble?

Readingsloth · 01/05/2024 18:41

Yes if it was falling out you’d expect them just to pop it back up again, not faff around with intricate plaits!
Re the little plastic bobbles, I use those quite a lot in my daughter’s hair and just snap them to get them out. Saves the tugging and the tangling.

Alwaysalwayscold · 01/05/2024 18:40

I think you need to have a conversation with them. Obviously the styles you're doing are not lasting which is annoying and you should do something else with her hair or try a headband instead. They're also not mind readers so unless you ask them not to use elastics then they won't know not to.

JacksonAverysEyes · 01/05/2024 18:39

This happened in my child’s nursery. In our case, it was because one of the staff liked playing with her hair because ‘it’s so gorgeous and curly’. I was not impressed and spoke to them about this. The white children all went home with the same hairstyle as they arrived with and it was only my daughter whose hair changed. I explained very politely all the reasons why they shouldn’t be messing with her hair and it didn’t happen again.

Booksoverbros · 01/05/2024 18:35

Citrus essential oils or tea tree will dissolve the little plastic bands...

But I worked in a nursery and would of had no issues with a parent politely asking we do something different.

If it is causing you a hassle then you are perfectly entitled to speak up!

This may or may not be the case with your nursery, but often doing hair is a convenient way to get out of clean up times lol.

Used to give me the rage.

Footinturf · 01/05/2024 18:33

In my nursery they take the girls hair things out for naps, but they use the same ones to put it back up after the nap. I'd definitely ask them to tie it back loosely, maybe send in a packet of your hair ties?