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DC at nursery put in front of a laptop watching Peppa Pig, AIBU?

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Breathedeeper · 01/05/2024 13:14

Went to collect my DC from nursery the other day and she was sat watching Peppa Pig on a laptop with 2 other toddlers in the baby room while the other babies and children were still asleep. 2 members of staff there, am I out of line for thinking this is not right and one of them should have taken them outside or to another room to play while the rest were asleep? Never seen this before but I walked in to collect DC rather than her being brought out to me as usually happens. I think the nursery owner was off that day so possibly something the staff have done without her knowing? Not sure whether to approach the owner about it or just let it slide…

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hockityponktas · 01/05/2024 19:33

There was probably a good reason for it and I couldn’t get worked up about it personally. however if you don’t like it just politely explain that you prefer your child not to have any screen time🤷‍♀️

Applescruffle · 01/05/2024 19:31

And am I really paying nursery fees for DC to be watching Peppa Pig when that’s something I can do for free at home

no you're paying nursery fees to receive childcare.

Applescruffle · 01/05/2024 19:28

There was probably a perfectly good reason for it and it was probably to do with ratios.
For example if the children were under two, the recommended ratio is 1-3 so fir four children, you need 2 members of staff.
You might think this means they can take two each but if one staff member is an apprentice who is not yet qualified, then the qualified member of staff needs to be present so they can't separate. This might also be the case if both are qualified but one is waiting for their DBS to clear, they can't be left alone.
Therefore they've settled one of the children down with a quiet activity so that they can be in the same room as the sleeping children without disturbing them.
If a member of staff is off then they are probably doing things they don't normally do in order to make sure they are following the rules, which are there for safety.
So I wouldn't worry.

DragonGypsyDoris · 01/05/2024 19:27

Spoiler - nursery staff cannot engage every child with an educational activity every minute of every day. Much the same as parenting.

Needmorelego · 01/05/2024 19:21

@Breathedeeper a nursery's daily schedule will be very planned and organised and they will keep to a timetable.
If it's a scheduled nap time then the staff may use that time to do (pre planned) tidying up, some cleaning and admin work (all those photos parents expect to be on their child's online portal...).
If some children wake up during that time the cleaning/admin still needs to be done - so they will let the children have quiet time by watching a few pre school programmes.
If you want a more personalised and easily adapted schedule for your child then sorry but you need to hire 1 to 1 care like a nanny.

RedHelenB · 01/05/2024 19:20

dotdotdot22 · 01/05/2024 13:34

I can't understand the mock horror on this thread. Of course this isn't ok. You are paying for a service which by the sounds of it is woefully inadequate.

Total over reaction.

Createausername1970 · 01/05/2024 19:19

Overthebow · 01/05/2024 14:47

At nursery age my DC doesn’t have tv on first thing in the morning, no. Later in the day for a bit of quiet time yes, but no need at breakfast time. When she’s school age it’ll probably be different of course.

If you have a routine of no TV in the mornings, then don't introduce it, especially not on school days.

One less distraction when you are trying to get them out the door.

Breathedeeper · 01/05/2024 19:13

CharlotteBog · 01/05/2024 16:32

Can you tell us what your concerns are? I can then respond to them.

My concerns are primarily that I’ve not been told DC is having any screen time at all, and on the days when they’re in the baby room (they put toddlers in with the babies on the day when there are not many kids at the nursery), they’ve gone to get DC to bring to me which makes me wonder if they have been trying to keep this from me. Other days I just get her from the toddler room and she’s usually reading or playing quietly with other kids/staff and the rest of the toddlers are still sleeping right there.

Having had no clue they’ve had screen time I’ve not been factoring that into the amount they have at home. If DC only sleeps 30mins but the other babies/toddlers sleep 1h30, does that mean they’ve been sat there for an hour watching a screen until I’ve come to get them?

And am I really paying nursery fees for DC to be watching Peppa Pig when that’s something I can do for free at home (as others on this thread have mentioned)? DC doesn’t do a full day, just mornings, and is still having a nap at lunchtime albeit a shorter one than most there. So I’m not really swayed by the argument that they’re so pooped they need a bit of screen time to relax. DC is very content just with a book most of the time, why are they resorting to screens, and without checking with me first or telling me when they have?

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blushroses6 · 01/05/2024 19:07

I’d personally be complaining or at least querying if it was an emergency situation, i’m not anti screen time but our nursery is extortionate - i’d not expect them to be plonked in front of peppa pig! Surely they could be doing circle time with nursery rhymes or stories instead if it was a ratio issue and they had to be in the same room.

TheMarzipanDildo · 01/05/2024 19:00

God, I watched Peppa Pig as a child. Is it still going or are they repeats?!

hottchocolatte · 01/05/2024 18:59

I have assumed my toddler doesn't watch tv at nursery and I don't think I'd be happy with this either unless it's a one off

Gruffallowhydidntyouknow · 01/05/2024 18:54

I wouldn't send my child to a nursery that used Tablets. Guidance says no screen time under the age of 2 and every 30 minutes over 1 hour screen use can affect language snd communication.

It's incredibly lazy of the Nursery. Read to them. Expand their minds.

CrispieCake · 01/05/2024 18:32

YANBU. TV's my slack and I'm not paying nursery to steal it.

PeppaPigIsQAnon · 01/05/2024 17:46

My plan is working….

Nottodaythankyou123 · 01/05/2024 16:43

I can’t say it would bother me really - DD1ms nursery is wonderful, they spend ages outside, do crafts/jigsaws/imaginative play/trips out etc, but after lunch they all sit and watch an episode of Peppa or Ben & Holly or something while the younger ones nap, for some quiet time before the afternoon activities start. It’s never occurred to me to be upset about it tbh, it’s a full on day for them so 20 minutes sat calmly won’t do them any harm.
I’d be more bothered about them watching it closely on a laptop to be fair then on a tv on the wall, just for their eyes!

ButterCrackers · 01/05/2024 16:35

That’s unacceptable. Have they agreed screen time with you? What rubbish tv as well. Can you find other childcare?

CharlotteBog · 01/05/2024 16:32

Breathedeeper · 01/05/2024 13:14

Went to collect my DC from nursery the other day and she was sat watching Peppa Pig on a laptop with 2 other toddlers in the baby room while the other babies and children were still asleep. 2 members of staff there, am I out of line for thinking this is not right and one of them should have taken them outside or to another room to play while the rest were asleep? Never seen this before but I walked in to collect DC rather than her being brought out to me as usually happens. I think the nursery owner was off that day so possibly something the staff have done without her knowing? Not sure whether to approach the owner about it or just let it slide…

Can you tell us what your concerns are? I can then respond to them.

emmypa · 01/05/2024 16:31

Surprised how many people voted YABU. I don't think the issue is whether any damage was done or not. Being at home with your own DC and popping them in front of the TV for a bit while you cook dinner isn't the same as a nursery setting. I'd expect a higher standard because it's a service OP is paying for and involves childcare professionals.

WittyFatball · 01/05/2024 16:03

If it's bothering you then I would just ask the manager how often or in what circumstances they watch TV.

CantSeeTheDifference · 01/05/2024 16:02

Thank god I'm leaving childcare soon

EricHebbornInItaly · 01/05/2024 15:59

Under WHO guidelines they shouldn’t. I don’t allow screentime, many parents don’t. If they were going to use screens in their setting parents should be told of this so they could factor that into their choice of nursery.

Surprised they are allowed to under ofsted, I would have thought that the advice isn’t to give young children any screen time would apply to nursery settings.

I understand that childminders are different and that’s precisely why I went for a nursery.

SquawkerTexasRanger · 01/05/2024 15:52

I have nothing against a bit of screen time for children but I’d be pretty annoyed that I’m paying them to look after my children but they’re letting them watch cartoons which I could do at home myself free of charge. The thing is, you don’t know how often they are giving them the screens to watch. Childcare costs a bomb and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect childcare providers not to resort to screens for children for entertainment during the day.

SetTonguesWagging · 01/05/2024 15:42

No this wouldn't bother me. Age-appropriate TV for a short period in an otherwise long and tiring day. I really couldn't get worked up about it at all.

Needmorelego · 01/05/2024 15:36

Oh good grief 🙄
They wouldn't have been able to separate the sleeping children and the non sleeping ones due to adult/child ratios.
They have to keep the children together in the same room. A bit of pre school TV is fine while the others are still sleeping.
If you don't like communal style child care then you will have to get a nanny instead.

Chirawehaha · 01/05/2024 15:29

cuckyplunt · 01/05/2024 13:19

i would gouge your toddlers’ eyes out, they have been polluted so it’s probably best.

I guffawed and now my baby is awake! You owe me the sum of one nap! 🤣🤣🤣