If money was no object would you leave?

Absolutely not. I am still head over heels in love with him, even after all these years.

Lol

I was thinking 'oh she sounds like poor Mrs Collins' and then I clocked the username.

Probably but I just try to ensure he’s in the garden for most of the day.

No. I'd leave if I was unhappy regardless of the money.

But if your marriage broke down ? I think that's what the question is.

Absolutely I would leave in a heartbeat.

Well it's slightly more relevant then! Your marriage has gone stale and you're not expecially happy, you suddenly come into money which would enable you to set up by yourself, would you leave my marriage is happy but the op said It got me wondering how many people would actually leave their spouse if they came into a large sum of money so there's no financial difficulties to encounter going it alone. I'm guessing a lot People replied sharing their own expierences.
It's good to see a lot of positive relationship stories to be honest.

Yes and my OH is staying because of our child. I'm under no illusions. It's really quite sad. Although I've considered and said about leaving many times. He doesn't want to. Would make it easier if I didn't need to worry about money. Unfortunately not everything is so clean cut.

Well it's slightly more relevant then! Your marriage has gone stale and you're not expecially happy, you suddenly come into money which would enable you to set up by yourself, would you leave?

All I'm trying to say is the posters piping up, 'No, I love my husband to bits, I'd never leave, Id share it all with him,' well, it's a bit pointless in the context of the OP.

The OP seemed to be opening up a discussion about how many people stay in unhappy marriages because they can't afford to leave, not how many people are unhappy vs happy.

Agreed. I won't leave until my kids have left to live their own lives. I get on with my husband fine, I just don't love him anymore. I can muddle along another 5 to 10 years if it means the children have a stable home. (I can't afford a house big enough for me and the kids)

And no, the kids aren't affected, I have a good life, I'm not unhappy, I don't have to.pretend, there is no bad atmosphere. I actually enjoy my husbands company sometimes! I just don't want to spend the rest of my life with him 🤷‍♀️

Some days, I would without a doubt and some days I think " he's alright "😉... I wouldn't be able to leave financially and that worries me at times.

Well in those cases, the man often does have the financial means to leave and is also choosing not to. He may not know the relationship is unhappy but quite often he does and stays for the childcare, domestic work being done and contact with the children; his own benefits.

I assumed this was about jobs not husbands.

No, definitely not. But I love my husband, so it isn't an issue I have to contend with.

Job? Not sure. My job brings me a lot of purpose and satisfaction, even though, at times, it is stressful and inconvenient. I wouldn't leave without a plan. So the 'money is no object' scenario would have to involve enough money for me to enact a plan: retraining; setting ups business...

I'd leave work!

It’s also not fair to burn the man’s time, even if they’re too selfish / stupid to leave.
But I bet it happens a lot

Although I count myself among the ones who wouldn't leave (and financially I could; I'd have to make some changes but I wouldn't be destitute), I do think it's easier to imagine the reality of poverty and say you'd do it, than to actually do it. Having no money is one of those things that you really can't understand unless you've been through it, and it's easy to imagine that it's not as dreadful and constantly anxiety-inducing as it is. People have been known to take their own lives over unmanageable debts and money troubles. Money is the thing couples argue about the most.

Erm, no.

I out-earn my husband and always have. I could comfortably buy him out of our house and afford to run the house alone.

I stay because I love him.

My ex brings home 10k a year more than I do.

I didn't stay for money. Poor and free (and make no mistake I am definitely poor) is a better life than a gilded cage with a man who had no respect for me, no love for me, and no appreciation of all the shit I did for him and our son

Yes of course it opens about unhappy couples because they're very relevant and prompted the question... but the actual question asked was: How many people would actually leave their spouse if they came into a large sum of money so there's no financial difficulties to encounter going it alone?

Or: If money was no object, would you leave?

So if you wouldn't leave your spouse even if financially you can/could, you are included in the question. She's essentially asking how common it is, so people on both sides are relevant.

Perhaps she didn't mean to ask that, but she did, so until she returns to rephrase the question...that's what the question is. And that's why so many of us who aren't staying for financial reasons have responded.

I would maybe leave if he then refused to move into a beautiful dream house by the sea!
Otherwise not.

Why would someone in a happy, loving marriage leave?!
Not every one is in a happy or unhappy marriage.
I know quite a few couples over the years that just tick over. They stay out of habit and can't be bothered doing anything about it.

Exactly!

No, I'd stay. My DH frustrates me sometimes but I've loved him for 30 years and my life would be very dull without him.

As it happens I out earn him x 4 and I'm likely to get inheritance before him. I'll be investing it to make our life more comfortable.

Yes, the opening paragraph was about an unhappy couple. She refers to people staying in unhappy, unfulfilling marriages. She asks would you leave your spouse if money was no object. It's a no brainer to deduce that she means if you're in an unhappy relationship would you leave if you came into money.

Why would someone in a happy, loving marriage leave?!