If money was no object would you leave?

If I wasn't happy, I'd end my marriage regardless of financial circumstances. Luckily for me, my husband the best! :)

No

No but I am not married and deliberately so because I don’t ever want my finances enmeshed with someone else’s again.

We do share a mortgage but this is contractually ringfenced.

I have no plans to leave my partner at the moment but I want the freedom to know I could without having to split everything down the middle.

Two people I know well detest each other. Their daughter actually said to one of them "Why not leave?"

The answer? He can't afford to.

So true

My thoughts exactly and that of several friends also

I stay for my children. Financially it would be very tough and I won't put my kids through that. When all children are old enough I'll leave. If I came into money it wouldn't be so hard, so I'd leave, yes.

No, I wouldn't.

However, I think you should also factor in how many couples could be happier if money wasn't an object. If you had a nice big house, a cleaner, a chef, a nanny, plenty of money and time to pursue your hobbies and interests, none of the stresses of work. My husband and I don't often argue but when we do it's only ever because we're exhausted with the daily grind of maintaining a house and working all the time. If we could spend our days skipping along a sunny beach with DD4 and then coming home to a spotless house and dinner on the table, I cannot see why we'd ever squabble.

Yes, but it’s just too complicated and I worry about money. I grew up in a house where we never had enough money and I don’t want to live like that again.

Yes, I think I would have left. I didn't because I didn't think I could cope, financially or practically. In the end, he cheated on me and left and I've managed ok and am 100% happier.

No because any tension in our marriage would be solved by the large sum of money anyway... we'd just be out doing fun things together and not having to worry
Majority of arguments we've had could've been solved with money. It's the biggest source of stress isn't it?
Saying that, getting thru that type of stress together can make a relationship stronger.
You see some of these celebrity couples with incredible wealth from the get go, just splitting up in a matter of months etc
I think it's different if you've been thru difficult financial times together and come out of the other side. Deepens the bond and the trust.
I wouldn't just swan off and leave the man whose supported me thru so much and vice versa... we'd be enjoying the money together.

Maybe. It would definitely alleviate feeling "trapped" & not having many options.

This is me! Things aren’t terrible aren’t great either 3dc two business that we run from home. It would be impossible for either of us to leave due to DC/ finances / business. We get on okay but are definitely more roommates than hubby / wife. Makes me sad as we genuinely were so happy I do love him definitely don’t hate him but if I won the lotto I think we’d both agree to spilt and we’d both be happier.

No parent would inflict being actually "poverty-stricken" on their child/children if you knew what it could entail and the wider implications.

Those who stay in bad marriages are probably well aware of this and would do anything to avoid a return to that situation. They don't lack your principles, however they understand that you can't put independence, pride or personal dignity in the pre-pay meter.

and water is wet.

we sadly do not emphasize strongly enough to young people that entering into a relationship isn’t mandatory. Having a financial exit plan should be a prerequisite to living together in the first place.

how often do we see posters on here suggesting young adults move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend to save money. This is especially true if there is an unexpected pregnancy. It is utter madness. Once you are in that house together without any money left, you are trapped.

If I came into a lot of money I’d buy us 2 houses next to one another. I think that would be perfect for our marriage.

No definitely not. If I wasnt happy I couldn't stay. The last time I left an unhappy relationship I had no money, no job and nowhere to live. So I'd take the money and enjoy spending it with DH.

I think it is worth reflecting that you do have an element of financial privilege if you are able to say that financial issues would not be a barrier to you leaving a relationship. For lots of women they really are. I know of a couple that have split but are still cohabiting unhappily because affording two separate homes will be so expensive.

Yes I think it is fairly common for couples to stay together to keep their home, family and lifestyle at the financial level they are used to.

I am happy (second marriage) and if I won the lottery, I'd be very excited for all of the adventures I could share with my husband.

A large sum of money came to me not long ago. I wouldn't dream of leaving my husband. It hasn't been plain sailing the whole time, but I would not want to share my life with anyone else. The money went into the family pot, and then we decided together what to do with it. I would fight tooth and nail for my marriage and I'm pretty confident my husband feels the same, otherwise he'd have left me during those stormy days.

notacooldadI didn't mean your marriage in particular. I was giving an example
Ah, OK. I took the statement as a question!

But if you're okay with your marriage then you're not going to be looking to leave?! So any money would be a nice bonus, not a means of escape.

notacooldad I didn't mean your marriage in particular. I was giving an example.

...so surely all opinions matter, to get a more balanced idea of how many would stay and who would go, otherwise there is nothing to compare?

@Nightscroller1 Just seen your comment. Can't believe someone else is in same boat. You have my sympathies.

Yes, I would. We live in London and although earn the same, I would only just be able to rent a one bed flat on my wage, definitely couldn't afford to buy a two bed place. To be fair, he's only staying because we have a child together and he doesn't want to live apart from him. It ain't great but it is what it is.