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To feel sad at my child’s activity today?

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Newe · 30/04/2024 20:37

My child started a new activity recently and today I saw other kids from his class and their mums. I said hello to them all but I felt a deep feeling of jealously / sadness because they all are so close and I’m not. He’s in year 1 and like me they all met each other over a year ago in reception class. I have always found hard to make friends or maintain friends so I know it’s me not them but it just really hurts as he’s my youngest and I had the same with the eldest one and still do. I really thought I would make more effort but I just can’t.

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Bushmillsbabe · 30/04/2024 21:08

Can you get involved with a school group like the PTA? Having a focus can help if (like me) you sometimes struggle with knowing what to say. I also found volunteering with our local girlguiding Rainbows group helped me get to know more local mums, and now my husband jokes 'see you in an hour' if I walk 5 mins to local village shop for some milk as I always see several people to chat to along the way. But it takes time and it takes effort.

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Newe · 30/04/2024 20:47

@Kittenkitty yes I would like friends. Tbh it’s very hard to make friends here (London) everyone is stressed at work and they rush off. School mums are the only people I see 5 days a week and they do say hello and

@beenoutontheopenroad I have had most of that group around my home one at a time but it never goes anywhere! I’m so rubbish at making friends

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beenoutontheopenroad · 30/04/2024 20:44

Gravitate towards one from the group that you can hold a conversation with. Then it’s more natural to be welcomed into a group.

I met many of my friends through other friends.

Kittenkitty · 30/04/2024 20:43

Do you want friends? What would you like friends for? Is there another way to meet your needs?