DDs Classmate smashed a Window today - Would you expect the School to tell Parents?

I am surprised people are saying it’s not the parents business.

If it happened at home and an angry sibling put the dining room window through or an angry dad put the kitchen window through with his foot and the 7 year old was in the room but uninjured would the school see it as their business?

Yes I would be emailing the school. I would want to know how they would safeguard my daughter going forward.

Yes it is. That sounds dangerous and potentially traumatic for the other children.

Very!
It is a normal procedure to evacuate a class because another pupil is behaving dangerously.
I have done that this week with my class.

Maybe if services were funded properly and schools had money and space to support these pupils, early help could be there to support these pupils and their parents before they start school then we’d be in a better position.

Then there’s the shock over why they can’t recruit enough teachers.

Very. Us teachers have been telling others that for a long time but apparently we moan too much...

How broken is our society when a child smashing a window in anger is no big deal.

The parents of the kids who were present are likely to hear about the incident from them, possibly with embellishments in some cases, and I assume the school will notify the parents of the child who broke the window, but I don't think the school needs to contact every parent every time a pupil kicks off.

Primary school teachers and TAs are being assaulted by children on a fairly routine basis - I know primary school teachers who have been told that in their job they should expect to be hurt by the children.

So a smashed window possibly isn't that big of a deal.

I would absolutely want to know about this, so I could speak to my child about it. That is a really scary thing to witness. If someone had smashed a window in anger at home it would be a safeguarding issue that would need to be dealt with. Bizarre that just because it happens at school (where children should feel and be safe) it is not necessary to communicate about it with parents/carers.

I’m surprised by the responses here to be honest.
you’re talking about a seven year old right? So year2 or 3 in primary school?
I would expect contact from school yes, my seven year old would have been really upset and need lots of reassurance afterwards.

If it were secondary I wouldn’t be so bothered but surely this isn’t common behaviour in any school, particularly in primary school?!

No, I would only expect the parents of the child involved to be contacted.

This is a difficult one for the school. On one hand, if it was my child that had broken the window then I wouldn't want further attention drawn to it by the whole class getting a message. Some parents can be very judgemental and gossip, making life difficult for that family/child.

On the other hand it is helpful to know something happened in class just in case children are anxious the next day or following the incident.

Your child has told you so on this occasion you weren't out of the loop but I'd probably feel differently if it popped up in conversation a few weeks later. Hopefully the teacher will debrief the class and reassure them they are safe in school.

Indeed. Can you imagine a child saying the next morning: mum I’m scared, I don’t want to go to school. And the mum not realising why - saying don’t be silly, school is fine, let’s go. And the child just not saying anything. Children are famous for replying that they did “nothing” when asked what went on at school.

Definitely not expect the school to tell the parents.
Why make more of a drama out of it? No need and it would only complicate an already difficult situation.

I’d expect school to communicate, but in a way that tried to calm the situation.

I’m just astonished at this lack of communication and the posters who are ok with it. We have fallen so far as a nation.

At the very least, that would be an upsetting thing to witness. And possibly pretty scary. But you don’t want to know what your kid’s seen?

FGS TV shows that have violence in are unsuitable for kids. Ok for them to witness it live tho?

wtf. Glad my kids are grown up.

and the talk of expulsion. Well good luck with that. It costs £££££££.

You can try all the strategies and de-escalation, but sometimes they are ineffective.
Sadly, as a teacher, one of the only ways I can protect students from another student is by putting myself between the attacker and their target. And blocking if I can. And it hurts.

My school would have likely sent out an email explaining that an incident had occured, a window was smashed and no one was injured, situation was contained quickly etc. I'd probably be peeved if they didn't. It's a fairly serious incident in a primary school! We had an email out recently because some one brought a water gun into school and it was deemed inappropriate as it was a replica weapon 🤣

No. What reason would the other parents have to know? Dc can go home and say "Bryan went ape shit today and bust the window in the history classroom so we all got out of history". I'd then expect school to deal with Bryan by suspension or other means and if he continued to be disruptive then I'd expect him to be expelled. The school only has so many windows.

And we wonder why children don’t want to go to school.

The teacher is crying out for help, she’s hoping that by telling the children to tell their parents the parents will complain and something will be done to support her and the child.

id guess this has been going on a while and SLT haven’t been overly supportive.

And if you class a weapon as a pencil or scissors or objects being thrown, it is a regular occurrence in primary schools.

GentlemanJay

Doesn't need to be an email. Teacher can mention at school gate would do. Not for every behaviour incident but for something exceptional that might upset other DC.

Also the school are fucking stupid not to manage the comms on it.

If you say nothing the DC just talk with highly variable degrees of accuracy and the rumour mill is kept fed. Kate middleton all over again.

Better to say something brief/boring/innocuous but factual and honest. Its this sort of thing that makes people mistrustful. If there's nothing to hide, don't hide it.

Would you expect to be informed every time there was a major behaviour issue in school? Your email would be red hot.

No I wouldn’t expect the school to contact other parents. However, it the teacher has told them to tell their parents then the teacher probably wants management to do something and the only way sometimes is for parents to ‘cause a fuss’ to SLT.