Aibu to ask DH to come home immediately from business trip?

Exactly. I've had flu all week. Couldn't get up to sit downstairs, just enough energy to eat food prepared for me. But even I could look at the internet and post a few things.

Some people just love to put the boot in. Not sure if it's just for the wind up or because they feel everso superior when they put down someone who is feeling vulnerable.

Anyway back to the OP, as an aside I wonder if you are struggling with low self esteem as you seem to be surrounded by people who aren't kind to you, even your DH. It is worth working on this in the longer term. People who make it all about them can be easy to spot if you start looking out for it. You deserve people around you who are there for you as well as you for them.

Keep battling to get the investigations you need OP. Don't be fobbed off. It all sounds desperately hard with two small children to manage as well. I wouldn't discount the endo diagnosis though as it is one that takes years to get a diagnosis for. Look at the NICE guidelines which show what diagnostic investigations you're entitled to and how you present your symptoms to access them (I'm not saying to lie, just not leave anything relevant out). Good luck.

He's back tomorrow but you want to arrange temporary foster care?! Get a grip for gods sake.

Do the two friends who have just had babies have partners who could help?

"knowing someone well enough" would not be bar for me in helping someone in your situation. It wouldn't have to be someone who knows the children, as they could come with you to A&E (in fact they'd need to drive you).

Honestly.....I've had my years of asking for favours. Now my son is older I am able and willing to help others.

So is your problem related to appendix or IBS??

In all seriousness, I am surprised you and DH had not worked out what you could/should do in this scenario. You clearly need a childminder to rely on when these things happen, relying on the other parent alone (whoever is the parent) is a bit risky for kids that small and your condition.

But then, I always have plan B, Plan C and even Plan D. Plan D would be to call DH back from work for a pre-existing condition.

"In sickness and in health"... Get well soon op, so you can really lay in to your useless husband and put your back into it! I'm so sorry he didn't come through for you either ☹️

My first reaction too. lol

Anyone mentioned Crohns yet, sounds very much like the episodes my son has.

Are you under a gastroenterologist? If all tests are negative ask them if you could have chronic intestinal psuedo obstruction (cipo)
And/or SIBO x

I kept going to the drs with wanting to drink salt water. The dr kept saying all my tests were fine but this almost fascination with drinking salt water…..she then started with the mental health etc. I was like that’s a strange symptom of mental health.

abyway I had to fight for two years. I couldn’t even stand I went very tanned and couldn’t barely walk. Turns out I had a super rare condition!

wasn’t till I nearly died they finally worked out what it was.

I have Crohn’s disease in my small bowel. My blood work never shows when I’m in a flare. This is common with small bowel Crohn’s. You need to push for a colonoscopy and a small bowel MRI.

Yes sorry just saw this. I thought I had bowel problems my whole life and it was endo and adenomyosis

Have they investigated endometriosis? Do you have problems with your period?

Picking up your phone is a lot easier than looking after two small children…

I’d ask my DH to come home in that scenario OP.

apparently it’s thrown him off a huge presentation now, my ‘drama’.

Fucking hell.

I’m sure you’re aware that a bastard for a husband stress can make symptoms much worse, @Sosomuchpain.

I need hardly say what I think …

https://crohnsandcolitis.org.uk/?_gl=11m9g4i7_upMQ.._gaMTU0NTY4MDI2LjE3MTQ0OTU1Mjk._ga_5THF1XE73Q*MTcxNDQ5NTUyOC4xLjAuMTcxNDQ5NTUyOC4wLjAuMA..

Does it feel really really good when you do this to people? Do you rub your thighs?

It sounds a lot like Crohns or possibly ulcerative colitis. They can be difficult to diagose. A friend of mine went through all the (unpleasant) tests for inflammatory bowel disease, was told it was irritable bowel syndrome; and was finally diagnosed with Endometriosis.

Oh good god. What a stupid response. OP, get him home.

I get how you're feeling OP and it's shit that you haven't friends and family who can pitch in. But if your DH is somewhere like Aberdeen or Shetland and you're in Bristol or Southampton, and there are no flights, what seriously can he do?

Yeah, Dd was told this and went back armed with nice guidelines for endometriosis. They told her she didn’t have symptoms of endometriosis but she ticked every single symptom 🤷‍♀️. She’s now waiting for a laparoscopy. I’d look at the nice guidelines and see what you think.

How can you compare the two??!! Constantly picking up two crying children (babies in this case), changing nappies, wiping bums, preparing food, clearing up after dinner, running baths, changing for bed, dealing with tantrums, meltdowns, squabbles, piss, shit and vomit and all the other things 18 month olds bring or……tapping on a phone. Go to any hospital ward, every patient will be on their phones. It doesn’t mean they’re bullshitting.