Aibu to ask DH to come home immediately from business trip?

Have you been checked for helicobacter pylori?

I had swelling like I was pregnant, loads of mucus, pain so bad I couldn't walk.

I had endoscopy and colonoscopy. My bowel was inflamed. I had one incident with a lot of blood but coincidentally I had bad sinusitis and had antibiotics and that cleared up the mucus and blood for a short time so the consultant thinks it might have been an infection.

I moved house and got a different GP in 2021 and he sent me for an internal scan where they found advanced endo and adenomyosis. I'm 51 now so I haven't opted for any surgery. Tbh I just feel better that a) someone took me seriously and b) I know what it is! The pain is excruciating.

I read that this morning. The woman in the article had problems quite soon after the c section, but I guess it could flare up at any point after a birth. It sounded horrendous what she went through, not to mention being parted from her newborn for so long.

Ok. Noted. But it is a regular fixture (no matter the frequency) of his work life, so just a day at work, albeit in another location, with a meal and overnight stay.

My dh was recently diagnosed with diverticulitis after having a week of extreme pain, feeling very sick, swollen stomach, and could barely stand up or walk. He saw two gps in that week which thought he had a uti and then wasn't sure so referred him to the hospital. Sadly he didn't say or write the correct things in the referral so my dh was told to go and sit in a&e. Well, he didn't fancy that so phoned 111 the next day and went to the surgical assessment unit where he had a ct scan and discovered it wasn't the kidney stones we thought but a very inflamed bowel. He does have to go and have a colonoscopy in a few weeks to make sure it has healed up ok.
When your husband is home can you go through calling 111 and see if you can get referred to the hospital for a scan just in case it isn't a ibs flare up? My bil also had the same thing as my dh but didn't get treated as quickly and he has had a stoma bag for a year now to help his bowel repair.
Things he he found helped were a hot water bottle held over the area, drinking water and peppermint tea. I really hope you get help soon. I have never seen my dh in so much pain even when he was having angina attacks.

Your symptoms are a lot like what a family member went through. They couldn’t diagnose anything at all for so long. Every test under the sun, turns out he had ulcerative colitis.
sorry to hear you feel so unwell. I’d definitely get my dh to come home if I couldn’t manage.

I know. And there's similar on every thread. Many years ago now I was posting on MN when, unbeknownst to me, I was slowly dying of a pulmonary embolism and multiple DVTs waiting in the wings. There's me on MN banging on about ooh can you get asthma in later life, it's a bit hard for me to breathe ... and some fabulous MNers came along and saved my life.

Not a single one of them said nonsense like 'if you can post on Mumsnet you're not sick'.

The x4 consultants and the registrar I saw from A&E through to the Respiratory ward said I had a few hours left max.

Good luck OP - your situation sounds gruelling right now

your partner sounds nasty and self centred, and his parent even worse.

I think it is the use of the word 'business trip' and not 'work day away at the office' that confused pp.

business trips are usually planned for something specific that requires the attendee to be there for the duration. being at work, albeit far from home, is a bit different and I would call dh to return without a further thought.

Poor you, OP, it sounds horrendous. You've also reminded me of an article I read just two days ago in the Guardian where someone had a load of tests which came back fine after being diagnosed with IBS as a teenager, but it was triggered by a C section I think so probably not what you have.: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/apr/28/i-felt-myself-split-into-before-and-after-how-giving-birth-triggered-a-life-changing-illness

Also, have you tried Guts UK, which is the only charity I think that's dedicated to all that area: https://gutscharity.org.uk/

Also ignore the hecklers, of course a quick post on MN in a moment of your choice is not comparable to caring for two under fives round the clock. I mean, I never thought that would need spelling out but here we are.

I’m so sorry you’re suffering OP, it’s scary when you’re responsible for little ones and don’t know where to find help.

I don’t if this could work for you it partly depends on money and what’s available where you live, but nanny or childcare agencies can often send someone out within a few hours. We had a difficult episode when dd was tiny and they were able to send someone out to be with us within a few hours and she stayed overnight on the sofa. Also childcare.co.uk may have someone. You’ll be home yourself to oversee but they can help with the children and it’ll be reassuring to have another capable adult there.

If at all possible you need to get to know two of three people who provide ad hoc or emergency childcare, meet them and have them over every so often so that when you need them hopefully one of them will be available.

Bloody hell some people are being horrible on here!! OP I hope this goes away quickly for you, it sounds dreadful. If there's anyone on your street with kids or a neighbour, do ask for help - I don't know many in my area but if there was a poorly mum nearby struggling I'd help out even if I didn't know them well. Get well soon

Jaffa she said they took biopsies last time, which, I presume would have shown microscopic colitis? She doesn’t mention chronic diarrhoea which is the main symptom?

@Sosomuchpain no comment on this then? Hope you feel better. As another poster said, your title made it sound more serious than your descriptions in your update posts.

Sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time, OP. Having small kids just adds to it all. It’s tough.
someone above mentioned they’d had a colonoscopy which saw nothing. But had a specialist gastroenterologist do a SIG (I presume flexible sigmoidoscopy) and then saw diverticulae and adhesions.
A flex sig is just a shorter version of a colonoscopy, it’s the same test, you just don’t go in as far. Any trained person will see diverticulum if they are there, they are not hard to see. You can’t ‘see’ adhesions, they’ll be outside the bowel. But the bowel would be more ‘fixed’ and difficult to pass the scope with diverticulum and adhesions. If a Dr performed your colonoscopy I’m not sure another one would see anything different? Who did the first one? Biopsies would have shown inflammation.
IBS can be extremely debilitating. And stress (2 young kids, in law drama, working mum!) will certainly aggravate symptoms.
I hope you get relief OP, it’s no fun for you.

No, that's not what she said at all.
IF it was a hospital case like appendicitis, she would have to arrange foster care. It's not, so she doesn't.

so what are you going to do right now ?

are you going to get his parents to have the children whilst you go to a+e

or are you going to take the children with you to a+e ?
and yes if you are rushed off for an operation or something, the hospital will kick in and arrange childcare even if it is emergency foster care until daddy gets home tomorrow.

I’ve been able to use the internet as a distraction when in HDU. HTH.

Have you had biopsies to look for microscopic colitis?