Aibu to ask DH to come home immediately from business trip?

What massive circle of arseholes you have married into, and I include your "D"H in that.

When you are better and he is home I suggest a fucking great row. Normally chatting would help but this level of selfishness and lack of care, its time to lose your shit (no pun intended).

Thinking of you. I am in the East Midlands and happy to assist if I can.

Ahh bless you. My friend suffers with this from time to time. She’s tough but finds these flare ups so debilitating. She’s having keyhole surgery next week so there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, ask him to come home. If you feel it’s too much to manage you’re probably right. Don’t feel bad. You’d do the same for him. He might be glad to get out of the meal. 😉 x

By definition, it’s IBD not IBS if your inflammatory markers and faecal calprotectin are raised during flares

@Sosomuchpain I wonder if some of this is stress due to DH being so uncaring. I once had terrible pain which went when I ditched my then boyfriend years ago. I say now my body was trying to tell me he wasn’t right for me.

Have you been tested for coeliac disease? Including camera down your throat? The bloating and mucous make that sound possible. Problem is a blood test can show a false negative l.

Also could be more than one thing and they are looking for 1 big thing.

Rambling a but here but have you kept a food and period diary so you can see if there are any links, no good for this flare up but would be good to take to the dr with you next time.

Why don’t you find emergency childcare/nanny or use an app like bubble?

You poor love 😢 hope you get some sleep and feel a bit better tomorrow 💐

@Sosomuchpain I'm sure you've done this, but have you kept a food and drink diary for 4-6 weeks?

Have you tried Yorktest.com ? They do a food intolerance test and an allergy test. My DD had them done, it confirmed something that we knew, but also confirmed something that we had no idea about. It's approx £200 for both. I'd definitely recommend them.

Also, have you tried buscopan? I get awful stomach cramps and bloating (9months pregnant bloating) and this works.

Lastly, do you have alternatives to milk/dairy? Cut them out if so and see if there's any difference.

Wishing you better.

Have you been tested for coeliac?

I once posted on social media from ICU.

Wowwwww smh

Sorry if this has been suggested, but have you tried a really strict food diary?

I have minor intolerances, legions and endo. Intolerances were severe as a child, but mild as an adult unless I hit on the wrong things then at worst it's absolute agony and bloating relieved only by dyhorria and vomiting.

Then a couple of weeks of tenderness and repeat flare ups at the tiniest thing. Then a couple of months of extra sensitivity.

My worst things are nuts, beans, chick peas, dairy, soya.

Elevated inflammatory markers + calprotectin usually means ulcerative colitis or chron's.

Could it be gallstones? I was in a and e over the weekend with horrendous pain and had a scan which confirmed this. It doesn't answer your question but your symptoms sound similar to mine. I'm awaiting surgery.

It's not just Quorn, anything can be your individual trigger. Common ones are gluten, dairy and meat. Have you tried an elimination diet to see if there are safe/trigger foods?

Also endometriosis pain sounds a bit like what you're describing - on/off and leaves you weak afterwards, as if the problem is systemic and weakens you.

The pain from endo actually comes from the peritoneum being inflamed; since you have a grumbling appendix - which is essentially chronic low level appendicitis - could this be aggravating your peritoneum?

Could you ask for the appendix to be removed?

Don't be silly. People manage to text when they're at death's door.

Sorry you're having such a rubbish time op

When things were really tough for us, we ended up buying in support in the form of a mother's help. Could you look into a local babysitter or similar who could help you out on days like this?

@Terrribletwos I have something similar ( diagnosis chronic IBS) when it gets bad I also vomit with the pain, it’s genuinely like childbirth

I’ve had adhesions and they are extremely painful. I couldn’t stand upright or lie down comfortably. I couldn’t walk with them. Mine were gynae related after an ovarian cyst but they were hard to diagnose. I had to insist on a scan and they were seen but they didn’t know what they were and I was wrongly treated with antibiotics for months. They also came and went.

You should not be working at all.

If you’re too ill to look after your kids, then you are 100% too ill to work.

You don’t owe your workplace anything.
Your health is more important than a job.

Not really comparable to looking after two small children 😵‍💫

i am so sorry to hear. Being alone with young children is surely tensing you even more and not helping at all. You absolutely need to ask your husband to come home.

I am separated from my ex husband and am often alone with my child for lengthy periods of time; every bit of sickness-illness-anxiety is so much amplified when you are alone and sick worried you may have to go to hospital and who to ask looks after your child. If i have my parents visiting all ghealth issues subdue or disappear; periods are less painful and so on.

You need someone next to you if you feel so unwell.

I've got as far as 15.48 in the thread but MUST post asap. @Sosomuchpain "Something the consultant said is if I have adhesions from years of a grumbling appendix? That can cause the severe vomiting pain and the adhesions could cause the prolonged symtoms"
I've had exactly these symptoms after abdominal surgery. I'd had previous surgery with no problems then, after this last one, I very quickly got severe stomach pains, being sick from pain, couldn't even drink water without being sick. The only theory is that it's due to adhesions but no-one really knows. I used to get it about every six weeks and the only way to deal with it was to stay in bed and eat nothing at all for two days and it would recede. I didn't have young kids to look after, although DD was still at school, and I didn't work so it's much tougher for you. This went on for a couple of years then, after a really bad bout, a doctor friend suggested I consult a dietician. She suggested that I go low fibre, low brassica etc and low FODMAP. it has transformed my life. I've had bouts since but much less often and I now can't remember the last time. Sadly, no more sprouts, beans on toast, brown bread etc for me but it's worth it.
Please look into it, lots of luck you poor thing.

The most ludicrous comment of the week so far.

Brainless, unpleasant AND pointless at the same time, you little multi-tasker.

Op did any one see you crying in pain on the school run? Do you know other parents?