Husbands search history

So if I saw this I would just ask my partner, about it, we would first laugh about it and he would probably tell me I did talk too much and he was looking for advice on what to do. Then we might discuss how we can solve the issue and I might agree to try to recognise when I might be overdoing the talking, but ai would also tell him something that annoyed me about him to make it fair. Then for the rest of his life I would bring up 'remember that time you googled I talk too much' and he would regret ever googling it as it would be perfect ammo, especially if he ever started going on about something really boring, I would use the 'remember that time you googled why does my wife talk too much'.

Trust takes a long time to build and a moment to lose. Why are you looking up your DH's "search history"??

I think this is hilarious and definitely something I could see my oh searching too. I'm a talker too op

I'd bring it up in a jokey way - oh dh I saw your search history and I've ordered you some ear buds darling

I always end up googling the title of Reddit threads because I've seen screenshots posted on Twitter or Instagram but you have to google the exact title if you want to read the whole thing.

Well if you’ve said to him “I talk to much don’t I?” And he’s said no then you’ve tried right 😂.

In actual life it’s probably best to just raise it (maybe don’t say you saw the search history- or do I dunno) if you’re bothered.

in actual fact I’d search - ‘why doesn’t my husband tell me if he thinks I talk too much’😉

I dread to think people seeing my search history . I search all sorts. Would t sweat it x

Take the hint and wind it in.

Love it. Seriously though, just ask him
about it. I talk a lot too, not monologues, I just love chatting. I do watch for cues that I’m blabbering on too much 😂. One of my DDs is the same and my DH does bring it up light heartedly, but we must drive him nuts!

Very good point I think alot of that stems from if you've been on your own most of the day you just want to talk and it ends up going off at 100 miles an hour.
I can be quiet and then next min I have so much to say I do wonder if I have ADHD at times but I wouldn't want to label myself .
Tbh my husband is more a chatterbox than me anyway lol

Hi @schoolie258 , I could be your husband.

My DP talks a lot. Her brain constantly seems to be going at a million miles an hour, and a lot of what she's thinking about gets talked about. I know everything that has happened in her day without about 15 minutes of getting home, and then I'll hear it again when she tells DD, and then there'll be a conversation with the cat, and then she'll tell me about all the conversations with her friends that day.

And I love her for it. I really genuinely do. I'm not a chatty person, but she brings me out of my shell in a way no-one ever has. She just loves a conversation.

But sometimes, like once or twice a month, I'll have just woken up, or just got through the door after a spectacularly hard day at work, or have a splitting hangover, and I'm 10 minutes into a 3 volume epic on her day, and I'll just think to my self "Oh will you please just shut the fuck up!"

I'd never say it though. I just give her a kiss on the forehead and say "Shhh, honey", and go hide somewhere for a bit. Because I never want her to feel like she can't talk to me.

Your husband didn't ask you to be quiet, he just quietly had a bit of a moment, and looked online to see if he was alone in feeling like this. Forget you ever saw it and move on.

I would in future only half finish sentences 😂

I would be a little miffed seeing that, more so if my husband didn't actually say it to my face lol.

If mine is annoying me for whatever reason I would just tell him. Some men though are crap communicators so it could just be that.

I wouldn't be too upset tho as his search history could be alot worse lol.

What's wrong with sitting peacefully together? I'd say that's a hallmark of being comfortable and happy.

DH talks a lot, he sort of articulates every thought he has out loud and it got me to the point I felt like I had no headspace to ever think my own thoughts. He's getting better now and I have learnt to find ways to take myself away (long baths etc) but I doubt that was a coded message, but could easily be something he is struggling with and looking for help with, as it can feel really hard to bring up on conversation

This absolutely!

That's not really asking him directly though. He's not going to want to hurt your feelings by admitting it.

Maybe leave a search on how to deal with small penises...see if he questions it? 😆

If you are aware that you're talking too much, you definitely are. Your husband sounds like he is trying not to hurt your feelings. It can be really, really exhausting when people drone on about essentially nothing, especially after a long work day.

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Why doesn't my husband ask me to stop talking so much?

Then leave it for him go find and maybe you can have a messaging thing going...🙄

Just ask him!

My husband sometimes checks out when I'm talking to him. It's obvious to me when he does because he'll grunt or say "yeah, ok, huh?" too often during our conversation. I usually call him out right then and there asking him why he isn't listening (usually I am just babbling, not entirely important topics when this happens). He told me, "I might not be listening, but I love the sound of your voice."

Is it possible maybe your partner doesn't really mind your talking, he just wants to see if others could relate. I mean in the same way we're on this app together. We're here to get insight and advice.

@schoolie258 was the conversation a bit heavy for first thing in the morning/early/pre breakfast?
I take a coffee or two to get going, maybe he was gathering his wits and not up to it. I could absolutely see myself googling 'how do I get 15 minutes peace in the morning'

It's a bit odd that he googled that. Some people just talk a lot, and others know that and comment. My DD (16) is an absolute chatterbox and we all joke about lovely and quiet it is when she's not there. She knows she is noisy and chatty, sometimes that's lovely and sometimes we tell her to give it a rest. It's all lighthearted and not a problem. Her brother is much calmer and we laugh how quiet it is when we have him and she is away.....

Grandma is the biggest chatterbox ever. She can't bear a quiet interlude so will fill it with chat even if it is the same thing repeated a number of times. We do laugh gently about this but it's just her nature. And now she is old and widowed she probably makes the most of anyone to talk to.

We're all different. There is no right or wrong, and if you're on mat leave you are probably keen to chat. But I agree with PPs - you should ask him about it! If he is trying to chill and wanting some peace he should be able to say. Equally if you are climbing the walls having no-one to talk to you could tell him that. If either has a problem you need to work towards a solution - such as you join a club while he minds DC, or whatever? But do discuss it with him - randomly searching info on google is never going to replace actual conversation.......

I doubt it was a hint. Doesn't sound like something he is necessarily unhappy about. The question is one of curiosity, not frustration. He didn't type "how do I tell my wife she talks too much?" Or "how do I make my wife stop talking so much?" No he thought huh I wonder why and then looked it up. I think you are overthinking the situation. I'm a major over talker and my husband definitely struggles to listen at times. He's even fallen asleep on numerous occasions, he's says it's soothing. He's probably BSing me but I don't care.

Why?

At least you are developing self awareness. Keep working on that. You don’t need to fill every silence.

Ive had 2 friends who never stopped . I’ve got a current neighbour who never stops.

It’s exhausting and I’ve had to distance myself from those friends and the neighbour. I hated riding in the car with my friends. They never ever stopped talking. I’d get home after a trip out, shopping etc and feel like I had to lie down in a darkened room with an Aspirin.

Sounds like you talk AT him rather than to/with him. My husband is like this sometimes, he now knows to stop as he can see my eyes glossing over sometimes - it is very draining to just listen to someone rabbit on and on and on, we have stuff we want to talk about to.