Posting here vs parenting as want a range of views and happy to be told IABU in my postpartum haze.
We have x3 DDs, DH works, I am on ML. Youngest is 11 weeks old. DH is fantastic with the older two, and was when they were babies, but I am essentially a single mother with our youngest. He will do stuff but only if I ask. I EBF so all the feeds are on me. It’s exhausting and a bit depressing.
Before anyone suggests “he’s not psychic” and that I should ask/explain, I have asked and explained several times how I feel but nothing has changed. He seems completely unable to think “oh I’ll change her nappy”. I’m a data weirdo and have an app that he has access to on his phone which has every nappy change, feed and sleep, so he has all the info there.
For example, this evening he sorted laundry outside the bedroom (helpful, I know, but it’s his laundry too) whilst listening to me rock and shush the baby for 30 mins as she cried and cried. I’ve been rocking/shushing/feeding/changing her all day whilst doing the food shop, and looking after/feeding/wiping x2 toddlers. I cannot imagine a reverse where I’d feel comfortable letting him struggle for 30 mins whilst I did something else. Sorting laundry in peace feels luxurious at this point 😂
AIBU to be frustrated by him?