Do boys stay in touch as adults?

I have two adult ds's - 34 and 33.
The eldest does keep in touch fairly regularly, but because of his job it isn't always the easiest. I'm very close to his dw, so if I don't hear from him then I just ask her how he's doing. We text most or every couple of days.

Ds2 works for me so I see him everyday!

What I am particularly proud of is that both of them, and my two younger dc's who are still at home, all know that they can call me at any time of the day or night if they have an issue, no matter how small, and I will help them. It's always been like that.

My ds is 22 and lives away from home but in the same city. He phones every couple of days, quite often it's every day, when he's walking home from or to work, or uni.

He's here for dinner every 1-2 weeks, quite often when he has a large amount of laundry!😂

My DB is late 20s and still lives at home with my DPs.

My cousins are early 20s - lives at home with his DPs. And late-20s, lives half an hour away and still usually comes home most Sundays for lunch.

DH is NC with his surviving parent but obviously there's a lot of background to that. His DB who is mid-30s sees/contacts the parent a couple of times a month I think and lives about 20 mins from them.

DB has lots of male cousins in their 20s. One of them lives at home with a parent, another lives about 5hrs away and contact us only maybe a text once a month and a few times a year visit, another lives between two cities and sees his DP in one of those cities about once a week/once a fortnight, another lives about half an hour away from their DPs and sees them similarly once a week/once a fortnight.

So in general, the males in both our families yes have maintained quite a high level of contact for the most part.

Why the fixation on their sex? They are individual people, they will make the effort if they want to and you also make the effort. As will females. I hate all this stereotyping based on sex. but they will be adults with their own lives. my DH speaks to his mum much more than i speak to mine, as his mum makes more effort and we live nearer them.

Text every day. Meet up at least once a week.

He phones if he needs advice. He sends me at least 3 photos/vids of his adorable cat every day. It’s a group with me, ds and dd on. And the cat😁

Some do, some don't.
MIL has 3 sons including DH, she sees all three all the time, probably several times a week and is close to them, their wives and their children.

My brother didn't even bother to tell my mum when he moved to a different part of the country.

I fear this too!
2 teenage boys. I think the saying is, ‘a daughter is for life a son just until he gets married’
This scare me.

My husband texts his parents a lot more than i text mine.

Surely it's a personality thing? My H has a brother. H is a cold fish (but so am I so no complaints) and does not phone his mother more than weekly, and visits a couple of times a year. BIL on the other hand talks to MIL daily, and is thrilled that she's just moved round the corner so she can pop in several times weekly.

I have teen daughters, and strongly suspect that when the eldest leaves we'll barely see her, whereas the younger is apparently going to come for lunch every Sunday.

My uncles(DM's brothers)both married women who made sure contact with my grandmother was kept to an absolute minimum.

To a point. Sadly I personally know of at least 5 cases of men with previously very good and close relationships with their parents who sunder or otherwise weaken their relationship with their parents once they get into serious relationships if this is what their partners want. Some of these are absolutely heart-breaking and a huge source of grief for the parents..

Surely this is like asking 'do girls like cheese?'

It depends on so many things whether your adult child actively keeps in touch with you once they've moved out - mainly it's the relationship that you have with them and the way you engage with them as a parent that informs whether you remain close or not.

My brothers didn’t that often

Yes. Mine at 18 and 23. One at uni one at work. I hear from them nearly every day. My eldest phoned for relationship advice only this week. Build the bond, love them, be there when they need and want you. Give them roots and wings and they will always want you.

My brother's do with my parents. My dh doesn't live in same country as his mum but he video calls her most days, more than I would chat with my mum

My DS is only 7 so cant comment on him yet. But my brother is very close to our mum. He sees my mum at least once a week, they go out for meals together a lot and they message every day. Me and my sister are also very close to her too.

My DH, in his 50s, still talks to his parents pretty much every day, in person now we live near them, partly because they take our dog for a walk every day.

Talks to his dad about football, work, politics - talks to his mum about stuff.

Been on holiday with them, go out for dinner regularly, they come round for dinner. He pops round for a cup of tea with them. Fortunately I really like them.

My sons are in their 40s. They didn't go away to university, preferring to stay at home and get jobs. One left when he was 25, the other 28. Both stayed locally. Different girlfriends came and went. Now, both sons are very settled, both live within a few miles from us, and we all meet up about fortnightly

My brothers are in their late 50s. DM is in touch with them most days.

I rarely hear from my DS. Not seen him in almost a year, if I message him he can take weeks to reply. My DD however is more regular with messaging and I see more of her, but not loads.

My son is 25. We're very close. He o0ved out a couple of years ago.

We message several times a week for a chat or to tell the other something. He comes round to the house every couple of weeks and we quite often go out to see bands or to the pub together.

We don't call each other often but that's because we'll be on the phone for a couple.of hours if we do 😅

I think I'll see far less of my daughter when she moves out tbh.

Why wouldn't they? My DS and I are incredibly close and see each other all the time. He's 42.
Wish it was the same with my own mother - we have nothing in common and almost never see each other. She has always seen me as some kind of rival which is ridiculous.

DS is 24, moved out about 3 years ago, but only a few miles down the road. He is constantly in touch, always asking for help/advice, asking to come over to watch the footy, or I'll come home to find him making a bacon sandwich in my kitchen.

I reckon it will be DD2 who I never hear from again once she leaves!

I can't even get mine to move out.