Do boys stay in touch as adults?

Depends on many factors. If you have created an atmosphere that will facilitate that then don't worry. Even then, they may want to live a busy life, so it is out of your control.

My DH (51) hasn’t lived close to his parents for years, but he speaks to them at least once a week and visits every few months. He took them on holiday last October ( just him and his parents), I stayed at home as DS had school. He’s very fond of them.

DS is 31. Went to a University miles away, went abroad for a year and is now a HOD at a secondary school about 2 hours from us. This lead to a pattern of seeing each other about every 6 weeks, basically in half term and end of terms. He usually comes for several days at a time sometimes with but usually without his partner. She is lovely.
Rings fortnightly and texts whenever, usually about sport.
To be honest I wish they lived closer so they or we could just pop in without the need to arrange and stay over.

My husband visits his mum n dad weekly, sometimes we all go, sometimes just him.

There's an old saying about how a daughter is a daughter all her life and a son is a son until he takes a wife

......oft quoted on MN, but it is a load of sexist nonsense.

My ds messages me more than my dds - which I accept is anecdotal data from one family - but, amongst people I know of all ages, it is still nonsense.

DS24 has just come for part of our holiday abroad. He often comes or meets up with us on holidays. Comes for Christmas and Easter, and we meet up with him in London while doing other things several times a year. We message at least every other day.

husband sees his mom nearly every day because he drops our son off there as she looks after him

My 24 year old son is working in Vancouver. He is pretty good at calling every 1-2weeks fir catch up He sends me funny pics on WhatsApp.
Older son going to Oz later this year so am hoping he will be as vigilant with catch ups .
We are very close So am hopeful.

I hope mine kids stay in touch with each other as well as with us a parents.
it’s so strange to think as kids they do everything together and even sleep in the same bed and then can go separate ways as adults :(

I hope and pray that they get closer as adults and are actively and happily in each others lives

This is a pointless question because everyone is different. My husband stayed in touch with his parents - I (female) did not stay in touch with mine. It is always the choice of the individual, so nobody can tell you what will happen with your sons, OP.

It's half and half in my family brothers and sisters, and half and half who are in very regular contact vs less regular contact. But it's not based on gender, just personality and personal circumstances. I think my siblings who are the happiest in their own lives have the least contact, so I hope I'm a lonely Mum someday because my DC are happy in their lives, and don't need me so much.

My husband talks to his Mother about important stuff before he tells me. It’s great feeling like the second woman in his life

They aren't as good as my girls are, to be honest. The girls Whatsapp 2 or 3 times a week generally.

One DS is roughly 100 miles away and works v long hours and has a busy social life. He always responds to a text/phone call - but rarely initiates one. I can go 3/4 weeks without hearing anything from him and will eventually phone him for a chat. He's just really busy I think. Always pleased to hear from me.

The other one is just out of his teens and has just moved in with a GF and texts about once a week. Literally sends about 3 words. Last week I got 'You ok ?x' And was clearly satisfied by me texting back, 'Fine thanks - how are you?' because he didn't bother answer that. Clearly I'm still alive and that's enough. He's only about 7 miles away but hasn't bothered come round for over a fortnight. I daresay he'll turn up if he wants something.

One of my adult sons has left home. He rings me ALL.THE.TIME. Seriously, almost oppressively often…🤣

Of course. But a lot depends on the relationship you have with their partners

Of course. But a lot depends on the relationship you have with their partners

Our son is 31 , he phones me most evenings ( Mon - Fri) when he’s driving home from work and we see him fairly often as well . We also do days out and have short breaks occasionally .

I think that rhyme is a totally rubbish sexist stereotype.

Relationships between children and their parents are far more complex than boy=swaps mother for wife and girl = devoted to mother/retains function as family carer.

Obviously everyone is different, but my boys and my friends boys,, all in their 30' stay in touch with their parents.
I love seeing mine and it would be so sad not to hear from them.

My adult son and adult daughter are in contact about the same amount.

Dhs brother hasn’t spoken to his mum for 18 years. Dh speaks to her about once a week and we see her about once every couple of months. We keep her at arms length for good reason.

My brothers speak & see our mum & dad regularly & are close, but we’re not the type of family to live in each others pockets.

I'm sure most sons keep in touch – so long as you are a good and loving parent. (You can hardly blame a child for ignoring a parent who was cold or abusive.) In my experience, boys raised in good, loving homes generally drift away for two reasons:

1. They're not very nice people. No matter how well brought up, some people just turn into arseholes. I've seen it. My mother, for example, is lovely, and so is my uncle, but my aunt (their sister) is one of the worst human beings I know. Same parents, same upbringing.

2. They marry a bitch. This happens a lot. I can think of two men, both nice people, who married selfish, manipulative but very pretty women. The women don't want the hassle of in-laws, and so the parents hardly ever see their sons. Because the women are so attractive, they know they have a certain amount of power over their men, and they know that the men know they can easily be replaced. I know it troubles the men themselves, but they're caught. In one case, the woman persuaded the man to move abroad. So not only is he married to a woman who wants nothing to do with her in-laws, but he now lives in a foreign country. Unfortunately, no matter how nice you are to such a daughter-in-law, you'll never win them over.

My son is 16 and so still lives at home.

But DH sees his parents several times a week (they live round the corner). Some men and some women keep in regular contact with their parents, others don’t.

Dh has lots of contact with his mother.
MIL actually has regular contact with her three nephews and her two nieces as well. Its in her nature. Her own mother was rather cold, and a bit neglectful and she was determined not to be the same way. (But not overbearing... just genuine offers of help)

The "son until they take a wife" thing mainly happens when the wife and or mother see it as a competition.