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To ask what you think when you see a white woman and a Muslim man?

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Weallknowfrogsgo · 29/04/2024 08:12

White non markedly Muslim or other wise woman and a Muslim man together, clearly in a relationship? What do you think?

as this is an anonymous forum, please do be honest.

after that thread about the woman marrying and arab, it strikes me that a lot of people have some quite strong opinions on this, and the convert to Islam threads on here also have been quite telling

disclaimer this is me, despite living in a very multicultural place, we do get looks here and there and boundless questions on our relationship that tbh aren’t very appropriate to ask a stranger whenever we meet new people. And if we go someplace less diverse the looks are more apparent.

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Noicant · 29/04/2024 08:28

PhuckyNell · 29/04/2024 08:26

I read an article and it said that white women should stay away from Arab men - I remember being shocked at first but then it went on to explain the reasons why and I was ohhhh ok! 😂 (written by a Muslim woman)

I mean of course there are some it works for I'm not totally stupid 😀

Tbf I know some very happily married couples. But it’s generally where neither are religious and are unlikely to start becoming religious mostly secret atheists tbh. I do know a couple of converts but tbh they seem pretty happy with their choices 🤷🏽‍♀️, totally normal people.

I think it’s different if you marry someone who you thought was one thing and then ends up being a religious nut and tries to enforce rules on you and your kids you don’t want. I think that does happen in some relationships and pretending it doesn’t or that women are disadvantaged in some communities in the name of anti-racism really just ignores some womens reality and is anti-feminist.

SpeedyDrama · 29/04/2024 08:27

I know a few couples like this. Absolutely zilch of my business. One woman did lose half her family due to being in a relationship with a Muslim. A couple of women have become very conservative in their religious views over the last few years, which don’t particularly align with my own views/beliefs, but that’s life in general isn’t it.

FrannieGallops · 29/04/2024 08:27

I wouldn’t notice.

Noicant · 29/04/2024 08:26

Nothing much, if I really thought about it I’d be wondering if the guys sister would have been allowed to marry “ out” so easily.

PhuckyNell · 29/04/2024 08:26

I read an article and it said that white women should stay away from Arab men - I remember being shocked at first but then it went on to explain the reasons why and I was ohhhh ok! 😂 (written by a Muslim woman)

I mean of course there are some it works for I'm not totally stupid 😀

Laiste · 29/04/2024 08:25

How would i know he's Muslim specifically?

CrunchyCarrot · 29/04/2024 08:24

You can't tell someone is a Muslim just by looking at them! However if I actually know they are, then no it's not a problem, I am used to it, lived in London a long time and know of several inter-faith/culture marriages.

BellaVita · 29/04/2024 08:23

Nothing! It’s not my business.

CoCoBeeBee · 29/04/2024 08:22

Honestly nothing at all. I work with a couple, she's white Irish he's Pakistani Muslim they got married around 10 years ago, had the Islamic ceremony at his house first and a few days later had a civil ceremony in the local town hall. They have been happily married all this time and I don't think anyone did anything but wish them well!!

Eviebeans · 29/04/2024 08:22

I’d say the reaction you would get could depend on where you live

FourSteeples · 29/04/2024 08:19

The only time I’ve ‘noticed’ it was, having moved from London where any ethnic mix in relationships seemed pretty usual, to just outside extremely multi-ethic Leicester, where it wasn’t.

WhamBamThankU · 29/04/2024 08:19

I'd just think 'oh there's a couple'..... if anything.

Blackcats7 · 29/04/2024 08:19

I don’t know how I would know if a man was a muslim by looking at him. Am I missing something? I do live in a very white rural area though so forgive my ignorance.
If I see women confirming to religious dress codes (on tv as never seen anybody here) I feel sad and angry that women are expected to cover hair/face etc.
As with most religions my issue is that women are the most controlled.

Eviebeans · 29/04/2024 08:18

Not wanting to be difficult but how would the casual passerby be able to tell that the man was Muslim?

DonnaBanana · 29/04/2024 08:15

I mean it’s uncommon but I wouldn’t be bothered or interested enough to look or ask questions but I see why some people would. A lot of British people turn into suspicious mediaeval peasants when confronted with novelty or concepts outside of their usual range.

Locutus2000 · 29/04/2024 08:15

Personally? I couldn't give a monkeys.

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