Jobs worth nursery??

Jobs worth nursery?
Dont you mean jobs worth mother!!

oh dear, your poor child having to go through school with “one of those kinds of mothers”
You need to learn to let your child do what is expected of him, and stop being a pushy mother!
Teachers will start to avoid you, you’ll be the talk of the staff room 🤣🤣🤣

Yes graduation is what it was called by the nurseries! chill out it’s not like they are allowing them to now do brain surgery! Just celebrating moving on to the next step of their lives!

I think we'd do something for him as part of the leavers. We usually do a music morning where the children perform and then get their certificates. The younger ones in our group also join in singing so we could easily incorporate a goodbye for another child not going up to school.

I guess it depends on the actual set up of your nursery leavers event though.

With all due respect Op, if he's 3 he won't be bothered by this for literally more than 5 mins! He's not starting school in September, they have to have a cut off somewhere or all the 3yr olds will want to join the leavers events. Surely he's got other children in his nursery that are in same year as him so also won't be going to the leavers events?

If you thought this was worth raising a fuss about then yes, you’re a problem parent.

I don't think you actually understand what the word "jobsworth" means.

Hardly a problem parent, it’s such an insignificant request, the mindset of some people…

Graduation? Good grief they are leaving nursery not getting a BA

We are in this exact situation though my dc is not oldest in the year group, they are switching to the one at the school he will go to. I would absolutely not expect or want them to be included in the leavers/graduation ceremony b/c they aren't. They are simply spending their last year of pre-school elsewhere!

Honestly @MintFinch I'm glad you let this one go. This is not something to get Mama Bear about, or in any way discriminatory. Believe me, there will be bigger things in school. Sadly.

What I plan to do is acknowledge the leaving in some way - a little something for classmates with our contact details etc for playdates etc.

Hope the transition goes well!

What a sad way to end a 3 year relationship with a child. He's moving on, who will it hurt if they mark that?

Glad you've decided to let it go, OP.

I hope the transition to his new preschool goes well and he makes lots of friends in his year group. 😀

No, it seems like the school pandered to a problem parent.

I’m in exactly same situation as you but I didn’t even think to ask about him joining the school leavers as he isn’t going to reception, and the part of the group that is his age are mostly staying so a bit confusing if a 3 year old off to school and some will actually join him at reception the year later

You are NOT being unreasonable, it’s absolutely no big deal for the nursery to allow your son to have a leavers party. Just common sense!

We also took our daughter out to join a school nursery, the one she was at were extremely friendly and included her in leaving ceremonies, no harm done!

Seems like most of the mums on here are jobs worth!

That makes it clearer - I absolutely can't see the problem in including him in 'leaving' stuff. He will be leaving at the same time - thought for a moment OP was asking him to be in a 'graduation' with an entirely separate group. To him he is leaving and will be in a different location. Anything to smooth that transition is helpful. people making it sound as important as an actual graduation!!

No, some of the children he knows are leaving in the summer. Because they are older and finishing nursery to go to school. He isn't that age yet, he's just switching nurseries. So some of his friends are staying because they are switching nurseries and are the same age group as him.

No, some of the children he knows are leaving in the summer. Because they are older and finishing nursery to go to school. He isn't that age yet, he's just switching nurseries. So some of his friends are staying because they are switching nurseries and are the same age group as him.

Having done the exact thing with our daughter the year before she started school, never in a million years would I have expected her to have been part of nursery graduation. She got a graduation when she left nursery to go into reception.
I feel you have caused this by lying to your child and now having a sense of entitlement.
why say they are going to school when in fact they are not? Preschool at a school might be more structured. Our daughters school they did French and everything was time tabled etc but when she started reception it’s a whole new/different experience.

Also how do you definitely know that you will
get a place at this primary school? Unless it’s private is it guaranteed?

He's in a room with 3 and 4 year olds a group nursery staff often call N1s and N2s. They are all in the same room but he's in the N1 group so will got to school next year whilst the N2s will go this year.

He's leaving to move to the school nursery where he thinks he's going to be with the current N2s who will be starting school but he will still be in nursery as he has another year to go. If he stayed at the current nursery he would have his leaving ceremony next year whilst the slightly younger children in his room watched as they are not old enough to go to school.

Hope that makes it clearer.

Well I think nursery kids wearing gowns and mortar boards, like some nurseries do, to ‘graduate’ is weird in itself 😁

Thanks, that's not clear. So none of the children he knows are leaving in the summer?

He is leaving the nursery along with his current cohort, yes?
No, that's the point. He's leaving at the same time as the cohort above him because they are going to school and he's going to another nursery. Some of his friends are in the upper cohort but they are a different group.

He is leaving the nursery along with his current cohort, yes? So it's largely irrelevant where he's going, I think it's bizarre that the nursery wouldn't include him. These sessions are about introducing the idea of change if they are about anything more than photo opportunities and nice memories for parents and staff.

wild that there's so many people on here that give so much a shit that this child shouldn't be included because of a technicality.

Absolutely not worth arguing over. He will get his graduation at his new nursery when he goes to school. Also unfortunately he has to get used to the fact some times people do things that others don't get to do at the same time it's a gentle lesson on waiting your turn essentially. I mean if it's only for school leavers then it isn't his turn. If EVERYONE that's leaving gets to do it then that is worth bringing up with them kindly but otherwise isn't worth worrying about

Yabu I’m afraid. It’s an assembly for leavers, which I’m assuming is like a graduation, so no he shouldn’t be taking part. You are also lying to him by telling him he is starting school when he isn’t. He’s not stupid.