Jobs worth nursery??

I wouldn't be doing it over email if I could help it
I think I would have spoken to them in person at pick up. Both room leader and manager.

As its a small nursery how many children going to school....and how many from his class?
Is there a cost to the nursery? Is there anything that would limit numbers?

They will have known since he started he wasn't going this year. So if they have 8 in each "year group" they are expecting 8 to leave this year a d they have 8 caps and gowns (let's say)

It may well be that the minority of his group are staying, but I doubt he's the only one?

This must have happened to my daughter who is a September baby but she stayed at her nursery.

You being silly. Yabu. He is not in the right leavers group and he has left the nursery the year before his right leaving group. Re moving to a nursery attached to the school you not always guaranteed a space at the school unless school isn't over prescribed. Just slight warning. Also don't lie to him saying it's school. Just be honest and say it's a nursery attached to the school you may go to. I hope he settles well in his new nursery.

Yes, YABU. why are you lying to him and telling him he’s going to school, what’s the point? Just because he wears a uniform doesn’t mean it’s basically like school lol. The nursery are doing the right thing, he’s not the right age for the leavers ceremony.

I hope your DS enjoys his new nursery and settles in well.

Or is this what the leavers activities are?

That's what I was going to say.

He isn't leaving his current nursery to go to school. He's leaving for another nursery.

It's you who has made it into starting school and built his ideas up around this.

There will be other children leaving that bursary this year too for other reasons. Should they also be included?

I'd suggest you manage your own expectations around what nurseries and schools will do for your child or you are going to struggle when he goes to school As a primary teacher, I have been at the expectations of some parents who seem to forget that teaching is my job and school is my workplace. And that, whilst I act in loco parentis whilst at work, this doesn't actually mean I am their child's parent!

Of course it's not all the other children in his room except for him. It just happens he plays with the older kids in room who are leaving. The rest of the room including the OPs child would be doing these activities next year.

I haven't had a child in a UK nursery, but were there never any small group activities for the group starting school next year, school readiness, while the younger children in the room had free play or a separate activity?

I think that's really unfair. When you say all his little friends are starting school, are they all DC he is in the same class as at this nursery. So the rest of the class are doing Leavers activities except him?

I think YABU OP. I think they will probably do a graduation next August when he actually leaves nursery for reception.

He's not starting reception, he's moving to a new nursery. Should they include all children moving to a new nursery? Also you are going to confuse him if he meets up with nursery friends and they are at school and he is in nursery but thinks it's school. Then in the school nursery they will later talk about starting school. Just tell him the truth.

What about the other kids his age? All their parents might complain hour ds is being included in the fun and not theirs

Also, nursery aren’t going to leave him sat on the step watching the fun by himself!

There will be other children in the same boat or if it’s anything like our nursery, they held it at the weekend anyway so all the parents could come so the other children not leaving probably didn’t even know it was happening.

I think it would be more weird and confusing to be included. The fact is that yoir child is not in the same education cohort as those who are "graduating" from nursery. It's not true that he is starting school. He is moving to a different nursery. I am sure the school-attached nursery will have some graduation event this time next year. If any friends from the current nursery are going to join reception at the school the new nursery is attached to they will always be in the year above and there will be very little interaction, telling your child to think of himself as in the same group as those kids is not going to have any beneficial outcome.

Nursery “graduations” are more about photos for the parents than anything else. Really not worth getting worked up over!

He’s not going to school, he’s going to a different nursery/pre-school.

You're being ridiculous. All this leavers stuff for nursery is ridiculous anyway but asking if your child who isn't even in the right year group can be in it is even more ridiculous.

You're going to confuse him. I'm not surprised they said no. You're completely wrong.

Just explain to him the other kids are going to big school but he's starting nursery so it's not for him but he's going to get a new uniform and make new friends etc..

The way you handle it determines how he's going to feel about it.

We’re telling him he is going to school too as it’s a much more structured setting, school uniform etc so basically is like school anyway.

this is the problem, not nursery. He’s not going to school. You can’t lie to him and then get irritated when everyone else won’t perpetuate the lie.

Oh dear God! Funny that, the world not revolving around what you want.

@MintFinch Mumma bear mode LOL 😂

Can you get him a driving lesson or take him to the pub instead? Just explain to any jobs worth asking about age that this is something you want him to do.

Discrimination???

He’s 3. None of this will matter to him. However, you risk upsetting him with the amount of projecting you’re doing.

He is going to be advantaged his whole school life by being one of the oldest in his year group. The battle you are having right now is not worthwhile.

This!!

Mildly annoying to you ? Yep. Discrimination? Erm no.

Loads of people do this too and move to school nursery so it would've end up a big faff for them tbh