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They have enough money I don’t need to pay them back?

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beenoutontheopenroad · 28/04/2024 20:53

Has anyone come across people with this attitude before? I fear it’s really common.

A friend told me her boyfriend didn’t pay his friend back for tickets he bought as he was rich and didn’t need it.

A colleague took our deposits for a lunch (outside of work) she didn’t book it and paid us all back apart from one person - who was definitely earning a good £20-30K more.

Such a shit attitude and I’m having it done to me now.

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Idontknowwhattodo78 · 28/04/2024 21:00

Yep. All.The.Time 🤬🤬🤬

thanKyouaIMee · 28/04/2024 20:59

That's quite shocking tbh!

I've not experienced it explicitly with cash, slightly similar I guess but BIL and his partner will never pay for anything when we're out with them - not a coffee, meal, parking etc as in BILs view we earn more as a couple so it's up to us to pay. grinds my gears!

HisHandsAreInMyHair · 28/04/2024 20:59

*world

HisHandsAreInMyHair · 28/04/2024 20:58

Yes, I’ve known people like this, they weren’t nice people in other ways either. They thought the works owed them something.

senua · 28/04/2024 20:58

Apart from the obvious dishonesty, it's very short-sighted. Nobody would ever lend to you or sub you or do you a favour ever again. In fact, they'd probably dump you as a friend.

Dacadactyl · 28/04/2024 20:57

I think that is just unbelievable.

Although people and money never cease to surprise me.

I've had it the other way...I'm the lowest paid member of my team and I had to wait 3 days for certain people to pay me what they owed after I'd booked something. I would never, ever make someone wait for money back, especially not a colleague!

AliceMcK · 28/04/2024 20:57

My brother every time he “borrows” money from his FIL. He was absolutely incandescent when FIL stopped handing out money because his FIL is rich, dosnt need it, it’s only x amount and it’s eventually going to be my SILs money anyway…

BiIIIie · 28/04/2024 20:56

Never seen this happen and we are high earners.

hottchocolatte · 28/04/2024 20:56

I haven't never seen this happen but agree it's not acceptable

Cherrysoup · 28/04/2024 20:55

Ask for the money back publicly, I would shame them.

Octavia64 · 28/04/2024 20:54

Never come across this.