They have enough money I don’t need to pay them back?

Yes I have known a few over the years but they have chips on their shoulder about everything so no surprises

I remember back the mid 80s, i worked with a woman who had a Freemans catalogue. She let some of her younger colleagues order goods from it, and they would pay her at the end of the month type thing.

She won £250k on the pools and a couple of the young girls just stopped paying her. They just assumed she would pay off everyone's outstanding balances.

That I was mean not to donate my ticket money to the theatre (without my knowledge).

Yes. Paid in advance for a theatre ticket as I had for years. The organiser decided, without telling everyone, the group would no longer attend post-covid, that the money should be donated to the theatre. The standard booking slot, the agency to buy another ticket and the opportunity to see the play were lost.
When I discovered what had happened, I was publicly screamed at that I was mean and that I would no longer be acknowledged when met.

I once asked a 'friend' for the money back she owed me and her reply was 'didn't you get paid today?' Like that makes a difference?? I don't borrow her money anymore.

I have never heard of anyone doing that. I would directly ask for the money if i were you

My older sister borrowed money off me. We were both married.

A couple of years later I finally got up the courage to ask about it.

She replied she would pay me back when I needed the money. She obviously deemed that I didn’t need the money at the time.

I never got it back.

I never borrow from anyone except the bank. But I do wonder why people who are extremely wealthy are bothered about taking turns to pay for coffees if they have millions more than the other person. I'd be embarrassed.

Do you think he hid the camera himself and made you responsible for it deliberately?

Would anyone be will to admit they have borrowed money of someone wealthier and decided they don't won't to pay them back?

My husbands brother and wife hav 'borrowed' money from us and have no intention of paying us back. They've gone on holidays,had an inheritance and done building work but have still not paid us back a penny. I'd like to tell the, to fuck off but my husband has an elderly Mum who would be devastated by any resulting upset.
They were really stuck for money when they asked to borrow the money and pretended to be grateful to us. They just don't care about paying it back and I'm sure a lot of that is to do with the fact we are well off.

It's definitely a "chip on their shoulder" mentality. Some people really are very money driven and its the first thing they think about.

I've had this done to me by a cousin who knew I was ok financially. I lent her £80 and she said she would repay it in "two or three weeks time" so after 2 months and no sign of it I asked her to please repay the loan. She barely concealed her annoyance and went off to the cash machine. An hour later she walked back into my home and placed the cash on my worktop then walked out again without saying a word.

Errr did I do something wrong there? 😕😜😁

Some people are very weird about money. I've definitely known people to take this attitude. I had an ex who asked me to look after his very expensive camera on a night out in my handbag (back before camera phones), I said I didn't want to, was worried about losing it, repeatedly said no. He insisted and I gave in. Somehow the camera didn't make it home - no idea if it was nicked or if one of us left it somewhere. At the time he owed my dad some money that he'd lent us for a holiday and the ex then refused to pay my dad back his money because i was apparently responsible for losing the bloody camera. This guy was an absolute arsehole and would find any reason not to pay his own way in life.

I agree.

I’d be really interested to hear the perspective of those who have voted YABU. I cannot fathom how someone would justify this attitude.

Never come across this.

I'm treated like this by my family 🙄 I'm 1/5 sisters.... for years they have taken the p...

I don't lend anything now...

We recently went on a family holiday and tradition is that we all play bingo x I won the jackpot... the comments i received from them.... trust the wealthiest sister to win... amongst others...

I wouldn't say that I'm wealthy... I've just worked really hard on my education and professional development which has increased my annual salary.

It's a horrible situation when people take the pee... because there is little you can actually do.

No, how embarrassing. I hate knowing I owe people and could never do this. The second payday comes the first thing I do is pay whoever I owe if I’ve borrowed anything/paid for anything

Yep, my close family are like this.

It stems from their "chip on the shoulder" mentality about how other people are doing compared to them.

Haven’t come across this but I’m not rich or well off so maybe that’s why.

It’s not right though and shouldn’t matter, they should of course pay it back.

This is why you should never, ever lend anyone money. Ever.