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Original poster

Stupid family chat group

36 replies

whatwhat01 · 28/04/2024 20:51

So partners family & family made a what's app chat with everyone in it apart from me

Partner seems not to have a problem with it

Shall I be fuming? Well I did 2 years ago when I found out & I am angry again

Plan is never to count myself as part of their family & I never did anyway but now I will not hide it say they are taking family picture, I will opt out

AIBU?

OP posts:
financialcareerstuff · 28/04/2024 21:15

Have you ever actually told them you are not on? And asked them to add you? It is super easy to miss one off for These big groups, and/or if your settings are different you may have received an invitation they ignored. Or maybe you said something random once about not liking big group chats, or whatever.....

If this is the full story it's a huge overreaction to consider yourself not part of the family!?

PrincessTeaSet · 28/04/2024 21:13

The issue is your partner, obviously. He could add you if he wanted to. Have you asked him to add you? Why doesn't he want to? If you haven't had a conversation about it I don't think you're justified in being annoyed.

IncognitoUsername · 28/04/2024 21:12

Can your partner not add you?

Shelinaa · 28/04/2024 21:10

This happened in our family. Someone accidentally added a vague acquaintance with the same name as my SIL, who then immediately left.

So DM was puzzled by ‘SIL’ leaving, and SIL was puzzled about being left out.

They solved it by talking to one another. Maybe try that?

Scintella · 28/04/2024 21:09

So the other partners are all in it?

hottchocolatte · 28/04/2024 21:09

What is their reasoning for not adding you? I assume you have asked in the two years.

My DH and siblings have a group chat but none of the siblings partner are on so that's fine with me. If the other partners were on it I would want to know why I have been left out.

Original poster
whatwhat01 · 28/04/2024 21:07

Nothing happened, but I am just thinking because it came to mind

OP posts:
tennesseewhiskey1 · 28/04/2024 21:07

Why have they done this - what is their reason for leaving you out?

Original poster
whatwhat01 · 28/04/2024 21:01

4 siblings & their partners except me

OP posts:
PonyPatter44 · 28/04/2024 21:01

You're not unreasonable to be annoyed about it, but what has happened to make it a problem again now, 2 years after the fact?

IncognitoUsername · 28/04/2024 20:59

Why are you angry about it again now? Has something happened? Are all the other people blood related or married?

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