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To still bath with Dd now she’s 7

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Cadela · 28/04/2024 20:35

I’ve just been on the phone to my friend after putting Dd to bed. Was just chatting about our days and said Dd and I had had a bath together this afternoon (usual Sunday routine, showers during the week) and she was horrified.

Am I mad in thinking this is completely fine? I’ve said to Dd do you want to have a bath first and not with me and she has always said no but I’m second guessing myself now.

It’s just us here so we’re a very naked family, Dd sits with me whilst I get dressed and obviously I still help her get dressed when she needs it but now I’m overthinking.

OP posts:
Moveoverdarlin · 28/04/2024 20:53

My 8 year boy regularly baths with me and showers with his Dad. It’s perfectly normal.

Fairydustandsparklylights · 28/04/2024 20:52

I have to sneak off for a bath or do it when the dc are in bed. Ds7 and ds4 literally strip off in delight if they find me in the bath. I don’t see anything wrong with it if she’s happy to get in and it’s her choice.

Crazycrazylady · 28/04/2024 20:51

Funnily I don't think a mom is that big a deal but honestly I'd be uncomfortable with a dad bathing with a 7/8 year old for some reason .

User0ne · 28/04/2024 20:50

Our bath isn't really big enough for 2 (or my 7yr old ds is huge 😂) but we're a "naked" friendly family and all 3ds quite happily climb into bed with me and DH, ask to get in the shower with us etc.

We do have conversations about body privacy and that they can choose not to get dressed/shower/be naked around us/each other but none of them are bothered so far (7, 6 and 3 ds)

Finnished · 28/04/2024 20:48

I don't mind the nakedness, but sitting in same bath I don't get. Feels maybe like babying the kid?

nightmaries · 28/04/2024 20:47

Our kids are early primary and whilst nakedness is okay out here - we do grant the older one privacy - even if Dc doesn’t seek it. This is because just as it is our job as parents to help them have healthy body image, it is also our job to instil lessons about boundaries and privacy and role model such things.

Thecatisannoying · 28/04/2024 20:45

I believe privacy should be granted to children as a given rather than something they have to ask for. It isn’t that I am suggesting you are a danger or anything horrid like that. It’s more that it blurs the boundaries of what’s acceptable for the future.

BendingSpoons · 28/04/2024 20:43

My 8yo regularly gets in the shower with me or DH. Totally her choice, I would prefer to have it to myself 😂

JustRollWithIt · 28/04/2024 20:42

I guess the way families feel about nakedness in their households differs, but it's not for me. I prob stopped any nakedness in front of my kids by the time they were 2, and wouldn't ever bathe with them. That's just me though.

PatRey · 28/04/2024 20:41

I don’t think this is weird at all. I’m sure she’d say if she didn’t want to

Mnk711 · 28/04/2024 20:40

My friend's family were naked around each other always, even as teens. Different families have different norms. Don't think they were bathing together as teens though:-D I think it's fine as long as DD is OK with it. How do you both fit though?!

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 28/04/2024 20:39

Don't worry. Different families do different things. There is no overriding 'rule', just as long as everyone is comfortable and happy with the situation.

PrincessTeaSet · 28/04/2024 20:37

7 is fine if she's ok with it I would say. Its not for me and I haven't bathed with mine since they were tiny babies. I might shower with them if it was convenient. Mind you I hate baths anyway