To still bath with Dd now she’s 7

I find it strange but then again dh and I have never shared a bath with either of our children. We sat on a stool while our kids were in the bath but not actually been in the bath or shower with them,

I bath with my 1 year old DD - it’s the only way she’ll let me wash her hair. I miss, and prefer the nice hot, relaxing child free baths though! And even with a baby it’s a squish, so I don’t think I’ll be doing this past 2or 3hopefully.

i think in terms of appropriateness, 8 is a good cut off because it’s before puberty and when I think children need privacy and independence.

Same here. I still have horrible memories or my parents naked bodies!

To the poster where there is 'daddy baths' at age 9 and 11, wow if you are serious I'm sorry but this sounds so inappropriate. I would not feel comfortable with my husband allowing that, or wanting to do that. If I heard my friends who currently have 11 yr old daughters did this, it would honestly sicken me, and the thought of my 11 year old self being in a bath with my dad is simply quite awful. Some things just can't be unseen.

Yeah I grow up in a naked household, where we were supposedly all super comfortable with our natural naked bodies. My sister and I hated it and if anything are now on the prudish side. But we never said a word.

@Comedycook

The assumption a child will verbalise their feelings - which they often won’t fully understand themselves - is a damaging one.

As long as you talk to her about privacy as you say you do, then it’s fine - and would be fine even if she were a boy at that age.

@Mumaway 11 is too old to be sharing a bath with an opposite sex parent. Even if your daughter is comfortable, she is in puberty, it’s not appropriate.

Everytime I get in the bath my 7 year old ends up getting in too 😅

Father with 9 and 11 year old share a bath squashed in together. No way . That should not be happening.

I think the op's situation is absolutely fine, but the 11 year old girl having baths with her dad.. That's not appropriate in my opinion, I'm sorry but I remember myself at 11 and I was definitely developing and was not a little kid anymore.

It will stop when they don't want it anymore

Why are people so sure that a child will feel able to express when they're no longer happy with this?

I didn't share a bath with my parents but they were very liberal and would leave the bathroom door open and get changed in front of me. Nothing dodgy at all.... however I found it absolutely repulsive. I wouldn't have dreamt of actually telling my parents that though

I don’t see why any child needs to share a bath or shower. I get that some children are the type to just hop in but come on it’s not an enjoyable experience having a child in there. It’s not relaxing. It’s basically another chore getting the child washed. Toddler and below means a high chance of being peed or pooped on and above they are definitely big enough to just need some supervision and a hand washing their hair.

and at no point really should a little girl be bathing with her naked father. With his bits and bobs floating around like a hidden periscope under the bubbles. Not appropriate. Especially not 9 year olds up even if dad wore speedos at that point it’s wrong poor girls. Why does a man want to bathe with a naked 11 year old… creepy.

If she's comfortable with it and she knows she has the option to say no then no problem. Do you have a big bath though? I can't imagine squeezing in with a 7 year old in any bath I've been in!

I still go to sauna with my teenager, so naked but not squashed together. I ask her if she wants to go by herself but she prefers to go with me. Its when we have our best conversations (no wonder sauna diplomacy is a thing!). She is very private at other times, and wears a towel in public saunas or if she goes to sauna with her friends these days, so not that she doesn't want or know how to get privacy when she wants it.

Sorry op, it’s possible at this point that they don’t understand or are not confident of boundaries. No way should an 11 year old (or a 9 year old tbh) girl be bathing with their dad. I had pubic hair and was wearing a bra already at this age, and started my period a couple of months after turning 12.

Please have a serious word with your DH and stop it now.

I can not imagine sitting in a bathtub with my father at age 11! I definitely was starting puberty.

I honestly think if an 11 year old girl told a teacher that they were bathing with their father that it would be reported.

Personally, I grew up in a very uptight family and it immediately made me uncomfortable. But then I thought about it and she’s only 7. If it makes you both happy and you give her privacy when she wants it then I don’t how it would do any harm at that age. Especially as you talk about your week, I think that sounds quite sweet actually.

I don't see a problem with it. It's been me and dc since she was born too and I honestly don't know how it would work if she didn't see me naked some of the time. She is always asking to have a bath together like we used to and it is me who says no! We often have showers though and I don't see a problem with that. I'm not a natural be naked infront of others person so I find it a bit uncomfortable sometimes, but those are my issues. She actively seeks it and I go with it as I don't want her to have any hang ups.

I don't think it's wrong for a mother and 7 year old daughter to share a bath but I think it's weird to carry on once puberty has started. So around 7/8 is probably when I'd stop.

My son is 7 and I'm happy for him to see me in underwear but not fully naked. That's 100% for his sake though so that he doesn't have a lasting memory of my naked body. No teenage boy will want to remember that.

It's fine for them to share that's just when they become "entitled" to their own room but many areas that will never happen as the waiting lists are too long and not enough properties

My daughter is 6 I wouldn't bath with her and haven't done in years, tbh I find it odd but wouldn't comment.

I'm really surprised how many people find it normal. Very strange but also interesting to know. For me bathing/showering with your child is just weird at any age. In this day and age it's unnecessary and I'd find it extremely uncomfortable even with my 2yo.

Because she knows her child.

I used to work in child abuse investigation and teach police officers about child protection. One of the first areas of discussion would be appropriateness of nakedness in families. Some people are very uptight about it and would perceive very normal / typical nakedness in a family as wrong / weird.

I had public hair at 9! I've never shared baths with parents

11 is too old to be sharing a bath with a parent. Children of opposite sex aren't meant to share bedrooms after the age of 10 according to social housing guidance.