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Do you sit by the bath when your dc has a bath or am I lazy?

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Iwouldntgotothatconcertforfree · 28/04/2024 18:45

Dd, 5, having a bath, playing with her toys etc. I’m lay on the bed. It’s an en-suite bedroom and door is wide awake and I can see and hear her completely.
Is this lazy though?
After she’s played a bit, I’ll wash her hair, get her out, pjs, do her hair etc, but do you do more? Do you sit by the bath and play, am I being rubbish?

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ManchesterBeatrice · 28/04/2024 20:01

Are you just laying on the bed, or laying on the bed on your phone?

ManorLord · 28/04/2024 19:59

I sit on the toilet or the floor. I dare not leave the room as our en suite only has a shower

clarepetal · 28/04/2024 19:56

Nope..stop mum guiltily yourself x

Justkeepswiimming · 28/04/2024 19:53

I get told to gp away while she plays now. My dd is 6. I sometimes use the time to tidy. Sometimes to chill out. It depends on how the day has gone and how much needs doing. There is so much rubbish about how we should be doing something with them all the time. Nothing wrong with a bit of chill while they learn some independent play. Don't be so hard on yourself.

wtafwtaf · 28/04/2024 19:51

wtafwtaf · 28/04/2024 19:50

Oh god no, I often have to lie down while they're in the bath.

Bloody knackered by that point

When I'm more with it I chat to them and clean the loo.

*at that age.

Not when 4 and below

Barleysugar86 · 28/04/2024 19:50

I started leaving my child to play independently in the bath at 5/6 and would check on them every five minutes or so, often just by listening to them singing outside the door. In my house leaving the bathroom door open like this would make the room very cold though and not very pleasant for the kid in the bath.

wtafwtaf · 28/04/2024 19:50

Oh god no, I often have to lie down while they're in the bath.

Bloody knackered by that point

When I'm more with it I chat to them and clean the loo.

Aramiss · 28/04/2024 19:48

God no.
I sort washing, clean the bathrooms, mindlessly scroll on my phone.

LovedFedAndNoonesDead · 28/04/2024 19:48

Our twins will be 5 in august (so likely just a few months younger than your DD). DH stays in the bathroom with them while they have a bath and plays a bit with them and then helps them wash their hair and supervises body washing. Meanwhile I’m getting their pj’s ready and sorting out in the bedroom; we dry and dress one each then straight into bed - unless they’re having a morning bath, in which case once they’re dressed, it’s downstairs.

Newuser75 · 28/04/2024 19:44

If you can see and hear her I wouldn't worry at all.

I'd not leave her if I couldn't see though.

TheOriginalEmu · 28/04/2024 19:44

I don’t see any harm as long as you’re paying attention and DC is safe (which I’m sure you are!). Independent play is really important.

Jk987 · 28/04/2024 19:43

Not lazy. You're being very hard on yourself. Go easy on yourself in general.

YouAndMeAndThem · 28/04/2024 19:40

When ever my 5 year old is happily playing independently, I take it as a hint to GTFO and tend to look at my phone aimlessly during that time. Enjoy it!

EatCrow · 28/04/2024 19:35

Can’t see anything wrong with that.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 28/04/2024 19:34

It's good for them to be able to play by themselves and not need someone to entertain them all the time.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 28/04/2024 19:34

Sometimes I did, other times I folded washing etc. If playing fine alone, crack on with what you need to do. If you are dozing though make sure you don’t nod off.

BigBadBarri · 28/04/2024 19:33

I hate bathtime personally, I have a very splashy toddler and I hate getting wet, the clean up operation etc

id feel very grateful to be able to sit on the bed and relax while bathing my child!

5128gap · 28/04/2024 19:32

No. If she's happy playing independently, you take it while you can!

Luckycloverz · 28/04/2024 19:30

I love bath time playing personally, we make potions etc and it's usually a nice calm end to the day.
3 of mine had lost interest in play baths by around 7/8 so maybe make the most of it by occasionally playing with them.

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Iwouldntgotothatconcertforfree · 28/04/2024 18:46

*Wide open, not awake

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