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To think Ahhhhhh to loud phones and tablets in cafes and restaurants

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Isitthathardtobekind · 28/04/2024 15:57

Have we reached a stage where restaurants and cafes need to put signs up to ask that families don’t allow their children to use loud phones and tablets that can be heard by other tables?

Last 3 times I’ve been out -
1st time - children watching Minions on a phone with volume turned up for the whole room to hear. Parent told them at one point to turn it down; they didn’t and it continued. Thought at least it would stop when their food came, but no- they propped it up and ate their food. No conversation or anything just loud Minions.

2nd time- 2 mum friends and 2 toddlers - one in a high chair. Phone on loud. Again thought at least it will stop when their food comes. No change when food arrives. The phone gets stuck in front of them while they eat. Again loud enough to impact on most tables in the room.

3rd time (today)- family arrive, including who I assume was the grandparent. No one spoke to the children. Very loud phone on playing music and talking, including while the waitress took their order (so loud I imagine it was tricky for the waitress to hear them). Luckily we were about to pay and leave.

Giving a tablet or phone to a child in a restaurant is one thing (although not something I do personally), but to not expect them to keep it no volume or with headphones so it doesn’t impact on others is surely totally selfish.
Are we really at a stage where adults can’t manage these things and have some respect for others and so restaurants and cafes need to set some rules around it?

OP posts:
PhuckyNell · 28/04/2024 16:11

I'm on holiday and at breakfast a man was asked to turn down his phone so he called someone instead and spoke really loudly in Russian! I mean you've got to laugh really you could see it coming a mile away 😂

Sirzy · 28/04/2024 16:11

Isitthathardtobekind · 28/04/2024 16:08

I agree. If it does help a child with autism or other needs to come into a cafe, then surely they can use headphones. There are different types, including like the ear defender ones, that children could use. If they can’t because of sensory issues, then they can play games without volume!

That has always been my rule with DS. For him the iPad is a coping tool but I have been firm from the second he went on one that he doesn’t have the volume on in public without headphones. It has always been a non negotiable one!

Isitthathardtobekind · 28/04/2024 16:08

Sirzy · 28/04/2024 16:00

It drives me mad, but a lot of people seem to think their needs/desires override others.

i got a lot of abuse of an autism FB group this week for saying it’s not acceptable with people basically saying their child needs it so everyone else has to get on with it. Sadly people tend to forget the reasonable part of reasonable adjustment too often and think their needs over rule everything.

I agree. If it does help a child with autism or other needs to come into a cafe, then surely they can use headphones. There are different types, including like the ear defender ones, that children could use. If they can’t because of sensory issues, then they can play games without volume!

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ThreeB · 28/04/2024 16:06

It's just so lazy and ignorant. Sirzy hits the nail on the head regarding people's misunderstanding of reasonable adjustments, and I say this as someone with a disability.

Greywitch2 · 28/04/2024 16:03

It infuriates me. Goodness knows how I managed to bring up my now adult children without them having to watch a noisy tv show whilst eating a meal in a restaurant.

It's ridiculous. How on earth do they think the children will learn basic table manners or respect for other people if they are so spoilt that they can't turn off the phone/tablet when out in public? Do they really need entertaining with screens for every second of every day?

It's so unnecessary. And it isn't helping prepare them for school, work or anything else where they can't just sit there being 'entertained' and ignoring everything around them.

Thebaldprimadonna · 28/04/2024 16:03

I always ask them to turn the sound off. I haven't been refused yet. Signs would be great though...

Grandparents calling their grandkids on video are the worst culprits around here. So loud and so boring!

Grendell · 28/04/2024 16:01

Heard it was because of the change to wireless earbuds that need charging. It was better when people carried around wired ear buds, always ready to be used. Since they don't have any charged up earbuds (or any at all due to being lost and expensive to replace), they just jack up the volume for all to hear.

Sirzy · 28/04/2024 16:00

It drives me mad, but a lot of people seem to think their needs/desires override others.

i got a lot of abuse of an autism FB group this week for saying it’s not acceptable with people basically saying their child needs it so everyone else has to get on with it. Sadly people tend to forget the reasonable part of reasonable adjustment too often and think their needs over rule everything.

Smartiepants79 · 28/04/2024 15:59

Nobody should be watching or listening to anything in public without headphones.
It’s so abominably rude.
It infuriates me.