My DD (8) always embarrasses me

Is this the kind of thing your daughter does often? Or does she embarrass you in other ways? I'm someone who goes horribly red but I'm never sure if it looks as bad as it feels. Remember in future that you can correct your child in public, were you embarrassed because she was rude or because she made out you were lying? Your DH is not helping your self-esteem at all and you deserve better from him.

Your H is a nasty little prick. Work on moving towards dumping him.

This. How horrible!

The problem is cyclical. You won't ever feel better if he treats you like this.

The fact that you just popped that out as if it were nothing suggests that it happens all the time. And is exactly why you don't have the confidence to address your daughter, or ironically, him.

I have a 7 yr old DD and she can be extremely rude, especially re interrupting my conversations. I can absolutely imagine her saying the kind of thing your dd said in such circumstances. I would have simply corrected her there and then, told her not to interrupt again and to please watch her manners. I may have followed up later with a further conversation about how she spoke to me, not interrupting unless it's v urgent etc.

But it wouldn't have ruined the experience for me, it's just one of those things. This is part and parcel of your mental health issues I suspect - are you receiving treatment? I say this as someone who is on antidepressants and whose mental health has definitely messed was the their parenting at various points.

This.

Your daughter is rude ! You should have told her as much straight away . Not after . As for your Husband , well ….. is there a way your daughter gets her rudeness from her dad ? Is he like this often ?

Because it's not how well-mannered people (children or adults) treat someone they respect.

really? You don’t think this is rude. would you do it at work? Would you do it in the pub?

It is rude because you wouldn’t say that to someone you respected. You would say “I think you’ve misunderstood” or “I don’t remember that”, “I didn’t know we had that”. You don’t go around accusing people of being liars. Seems odd you need that explaining…

I'd be sharply correcting them both. I'm astonished they're speaking to you like that.

Why is it rude for a child to say that someone is lying?

Correct your daughter straight away.
Ask your husband who he thinks he's talking to.

You won't feel better while you're with him. I strongly suspect he's the reason you feel so crap.

This. And I’d be nipping that in the bud now. Sounds like you have low self esteem. You need to stand up to him or leave him.

as for your daughter, I’d have said “do not speak to me like that, we do not call people liars”, and then ALSO spoken to her later like you did

I cannot count the number of people in abusive relationships who have come in to see me about their mental health, wanting to improve that. It is usually the case that the only thing that helps their MH is getting out of the relationships.

I can see why what happened was humiliating for you.

Your daughter is old enough to know not to interrupt or contradict you so forcefully (even if her 8 year old impulses do sometimes get the better of her). She is old enough to be corrected when it happens.

I wouldn’t let your daughter see you being so massively upset by her behaviour though. It will give her a very skewed sense of power. Correct the behaviour and move on. You are the adult and she is the child.

Like previous posters I’d suspect she’s picking up on how your husband treats you. Please think about getting some help. 🌺

I don't know what conversation you were having with the woman, were you animated and laughing a lot? It is possible your daughter was embarrassed by you and wanted it to end. A child of her age will not have learned how to divert conversations tactfully.

Children do embarrass their parents sometimes but parents frequently embarrass their kids. I can remember cringing at how my mother conversed with others, I really did not like being with her and other people.

Your husband definitely shouldn't have called you a weird little bitch. I'd want to know what he meant by that, if he did mean it.

I'm with those who think you have two problems. One is a symptom of the other . Your DH is hugely abusive and your daughter's disrespectful behaviour copies his.

If any of my kids behaved like that I would have reprimanded them in public, they would then be removed from any 'fun activity and taken home with timeout consequences and possible Sam rooms on screen time ..

Meanwhile you need to act now and divorce this arse before she is at the point of know return.

THEN .. you will find your MH improves with very little effort. Having removed the source of it from your life .

Tbh, I'd have pointed it out to my daughter at the time.

What your husband said was far worse but, tbh, it must be infuriating having to take the children out for the afternoon because you needed some time to yourself because of a comment your daughter made this morning!

I think me and walnut (above) basically wrote the same thing. I am majorly strict with mine and they have good manners!! Kids get away with too much. Too mouthy (I see it in my job all the time)

With your daughter I would have pulled her aside (before you got home and not in front of others ) and out her on time out when you got home

I would have spelled it out to her that she is NOT to listen and interrupt your adult conversations

You are probably anxious coz your husband is a massive knob, speaking to you like that, your daughter has probably picked up his disrespectful way of talking to you. Your husband needs to get in line...

He's the reason you feel like this, I can pretty much guarantee.

Im gonna get fried for saying this but if you dont start now with your daughter and tell her her attitude is out of order.
It will most likely get worse as she gets older.
Oh and the only one being a bitch is your husband and its rubbing off on your child.

There are some right wet parents here. Children need to be told not to be rude before they are applauded for being bright little beacons speaking the truth!

OP, the problem is not your rude DD, the problem is your nasty husband teaching the children to have no respect for you.