My DD (8) always embarrasses me

Your anxiety is linked to how your dh treats you. You would feel much better and calmer away from him.

although that may seem overwhelming at the moment, take some small steps. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Start imagining a life free from that kind of abuse. Think about finances. Where you could live. Think about work, if you can.

think about it first, then you can start taking some steps to make it real.

Try emailing Women’s Aid - send them a link to this thread if you like but explain your self esteem issues and the way your husband and now DD talk to you. It sounds like abuse. They can be busy so a email might work better for you. The email link is further down the page. Don’t tell your husband, or daughter, what you’re doing. Good luck. Take care of yourself.

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I’d be more concerned about being called a weird little bitch by your DP.

Your DD says these things to you because she’s learning them from your DH. Children learn by example. He denigrates you, she denigrates you.
You need to find some support to work through this, but your relationship with your DH sounds very troubled.

Either get the fuck RID of that awful husband of yours or you tell him not to dare talk to you like that again or he’s gone. I have absolutely no tolerance for people like that. Who the hell does he think he is? He’s setting a great example to your daughter. I can’t believe the shit people tolerate.

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What are you doing about your anxiety? Have you talked to your doctor about this?

Does your H often talk to you so disrespectfully?

If your daughter has heard him speak to you like that, it's little wonder she felt so free to put you down.

You need to identify the real problem here.

Oh dear op, I have three dds and they've all gone through phases of contradicting me in public 😅 it's very annoying and can be abit embarrassing especially when they're always right and you get caught lying through your teeth but hey ho, that's kids for you and all that. Now they're getting abit older they've wisened up to things and go with the flow when their mother appears to be embellishing the truth 😂

Your dh on the other hand. 😱 I mean did you have a massive fight , or did he just casually call you that and walk off? What did you say before that, how did you react to this? Don't worry about your daughter. It's him you need to worry about.

Am occasion or two of your daughter being firmly put in her place in front of whoever you were speaking to will soon cure her!

Your husband is a whole separate issue.

Absolutely this.

Your DH called you a weird little b? Surely that should be the focus of your post? I really hate the idea of so many women being in a relationship with men who clearly hate them. Aside from being unpleasant, I think it's very dangerous. Don't be afraid to correct your daughter, I don't think her behaviour is unusual for a child her age, they are convinced they know everything!

Your daughter isn’t the problem here

get rid of the shit house bloke

Totally this.
Is there any wonder the child is a rude, precocious madam with a father like that?

I don’t worry too much about DD she’s only a child but you were definitely right to have a chat with her maybe a little more sternly next time! She will probably embarrass you a lot more as a teen and then hopefully a lot less when she’s an adult . However your DH is an adult and the way he spoke to you is disgusting I’d definitely be more concerned about the foul words he used towards you, big hugs my lovely x

I would be depressed too if my DH called me things like weird little bitch ☹️. Do you think your DD is picking up on the way your DH speaks to you or her as it sounds like she spoke in a bit of an aggressive way for an 8yo?

Absolutely this. Really poor behaviour for an 8 year old. You say kids don’t hear your partner speaking to you like this but are you sure? Could she be copying her dads attitude? Response above is perfect. She needs to be put right in her place.

Saying, " excuse me, mum, but the pram is on fire" isn't interrupting. Blurting out, "Mum look at me do a handstand and that lady is fat" is rude.

You might find that leaving your abusive husband will make you feel instantly better. Your daughter has learned this behaviour from him and your anxiety comes from him treating you like shit.

Really? I wouldn’t. I would have thought I’d seen some parenting going on.

But I agree with others that this is not the main issue - your H’s attitude towards you is.

I don't think it's going to happen this way round, OP

Genuine question….lots of posters are saying it’s extremely rude for children to interrupt adult conversation.

Im a stickler for manners and repeat what’s expected of my children before social engagements, they are on the whole polite (age 4 & 8) but if they need something isn’t it okay to get the parents attention? I don’t mean barge in but ask for permission to speak?

This 😕

A weird little bitch? That’s the problem here.

My 8 year old DS has had his moments being annoying like this interrupting when talking to other adults it is embarrassing and have have had to have firm words with him about it before but there's no need to dwell on it i'm sure similar things have happened to the other parents with there kids before at least once. Just tell her it was rude and disrespectful, your husband sounds like he needs telling as well tho! And he's suppose to be the adult your DD not going to respect you copying him.

Really really unneeded. Not everyone is fucking perfect. Your parents clearly did a grand job with you themselves 🙄

I think your DD speaks to you like that because of how she hears her dad speak to you. You need to stop tolerating it from both of them.

Womens Aid is a good place to go for help.