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I am dyspraxic and I will get in your way please don't hate me

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cranberrypi · 28/04/2024 11:45

AIBU to ask for tolerance for people like me who can't judge speed and distance and are very spatially unaware?

I am forever getting tutted at, called rude, whatever, for walking too close to someone, or not realising I'm in the way, or going through a door that someone else was just about to go through, or going ahead of someone to pick up something from a supermarket shelf that I didn't realise they were just about to pick up, or hundreds of other misdemeanours I have absolutely no control over.

I do very occasionally make accidental physical contact, not in a rough way, maybe accidently touch you with my shopping bag or something

But unless I lock myself away for ever and never come out, it is going to happen, and I get so fed up with being constantly moaned at, glared at, tutted at, called rude, etc. Please don't.

OP posts:
Smartiepants79 · 28/04/2024 13:42

But people don’t know anything about you.
Just that you (from their perspective) barged into them. I hope that no one is truly unkind to you but it’s difficult to expect everyone to just happily take being walked into on the off chance that they may have dyspraxia.
Apologise politely every time. That’s all you can do.

Igmum · 28/04/2024 13:40

Me too. I will also walk into your furniture and trip over things randomly. When going downstairs I will definitely be hanging on to the handrail. Don't sweat it OP, just apologise if necessary and get on with stuff.

widgitfidgit · 28/04/2024 13:38

You can't expect people to know, you just need to apologise every time

TigerRag · 28/04/2024 13:33

You can't expect people to know.

I sometimes use a white mobility cane when out. I would hope that you'd see it and not walk too close

Sirzy · 28/04/2024 13:24

Do you not apologise when you do it though? I get it’s hard for you but at the same time people aren’t going to be happy with a lot of the behaviour you described. You don’t know what problems they may have any more than they know yours.

BiIIIie · 28/04/2024 13:21

I think all you can do is apologise when it happens, and understand that how on earth are people going to know its a genuine issue versus you being rude?

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