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Goldx2 · 2024-04-28T09:42:55+00:00

I know most of you will disagree with me but I’m just hoping someone will understand. I am a 66 yr old F. I went to see Olly Murs & Take that in concert the other night. Olly was on from 19:30 until 20:15 then Take That from about 20:45 for 2 hrs. 2 girls in their 20’s in the row behind me (directly behind me so in my ear) had obviously learnt every word to every song and were thoroughly enjoying themselves singing along. Now here was the problem. They weren’t just singing along , they were singing at the tops of their voices literally shouting throughout every song. It really spoilt the concert for me. About 30 mins before the end I snapped and asked them nicely to tone it down. My sister & my friend said I shouldn’t have done that. AIBU?

easylikeasundaymorn · 28/04/2024 12:09

justasking111 · 28/04/2024 10:47

It's unavoidable that some people spoil performances. A theatre recently banned sing along for this reason.

It happens at the cinema too

do you really not understand the different between a cinema/theatre and a gig/concert?

I mean OP isn't unreasonable to ask anything, particularly given she said politely, but if I was one of those girls I wouldn't have lowered my volume at all. tbh you're lucky they didn't kick off - not that they should have but it wouldn't be unusual for drunk people.

OP sounds like those women who swim slowly in the pool in a weird position with their head above water to avoid it getting wet, and then glare at people swimming normally for splashing them.

It's a concert. Singing out loud is part of the enjoyment for most people. If you don't like it, don't go next time. Although tbh your friend and sister were probably so embarrassed they won't ask you to go with them!

MasterBeth · 28/04/2024 12:07

People singing along at concerts. Insufferable.

People singing along at Olly Murs and Take That concerts. Tolerable.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/04/2024 12:05

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 11:58

Or if they can’t behave don’t take them

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Idk the particularly family but just a small inconvenience to yourself helps with a lot of children!

DriftingDora · 28/04/2024 12:03

loverofbestbuy · 28/04/2024 11:39

do you have children @BlackCat007 ?

how old are you?

Er, the OP said how old she was if you read her post.

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 12:02

I’d probs rather have the girls singing than Olly Murs to be fair. Love TT though x

LlynTegid · 28/04/2024 12:01

I don't think you are horrible for not liking the probably bad singing and for saying so, but to be honest you should have expected it, given the kind of music that Olly Murs and Take That do.

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 11:58

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/04/2024 11:55

I just think even if the kid has SEN you put something in front of their feet so they don’t impact the chair in front!

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Or if they can’t behave don’t take them

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/04/2024 11:56

Moonlane · 28/04/2024 10:52

That's perfectly fine though why should you sit there having your chair kicked non stop and I'm sure the mum knew ...

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I’m sure she knew - that’s why she avoided my eye!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/04/2024 11:55

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 10:52

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing So now you can’t even tell a kid off without getting involved in some sort of row with the parent. Unbelievable. Why should that brat have been allowed to do what he liked. No wonder this country is in the mess it is

I just think even if the kid has SEN you put something in front of their feet so they don’t impact the chair in front!

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 11:48

Then again, Olly Murs…

Nanny0gg · 28/04/2024 11:46

Anotherparkingthread · 28/04/2024 11:35

I honestly hate this attitude. Who wants to go to a gig to sit in silence? And you're ruining somebody else having a good time. Just stay at home and put Spotify on lol.

Who wants to go to a gig and pay to hear you caterwaul sing rather than the act?

5128gap · 28/04/2024 11:46

I would hate this too. But I'd just accept its the nature of the beast and they weren't doing anything wrong, and it was my bad luck they were behind me. I'm mid 50s and my age has taught me that other people don't act for my convenience and that if I'm going go places where there's a lot of them, and I drop unlucky, that's too bad.

Nanny0gg · 28/04/2024 11:45

Goldx2 · 28/04/2024 10:57

Yes they did then I felt really guikty

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You shouldn't.

It's one thing singing along (emphasis on 'singing') at the encore or when the band encourages it but it's not ok to spoil the event for others.

And I bet it wasn't cheap

But to be fair, I wouldn't go to an arena concert because I want to hear and see the act, not watch on screens from miles away

sandyhappypeople · 28/04/2024 11:41

Anotherparkingthread · 28/04/2024 11:35

I honestly hate this attitude. Who wants to go to a gig to sit in silence? And you're ruining somebody else having a good time. Just stay at home and put Spotify on lol.

There is a happy medium between sitting in silence and screaming down someone’s ear you know 😂

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 11:41

Yes. Old.

loverofbestbuy · 28/04/2024 11:39

do you have children @BlackCat007 ?

how old are you?

Anotherparkingthread · 28/04/2024 11:35

I honestly hate this attitude. Who wants to go to a gig to sit in silence? And you're ruining somebody else having a good time. Just stay at home and put Spotify on lol.

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 11:04

sandyhappypeople · 28/04/2024 10:57

When a poster asking her why she didn’t say anything straight away I immediately thought of chair kicking as a comparison.

at the end of the day anyone who would let their child kick your chair repeatedly is not going to take kindly to being told to pack it in.. so it’s always a dilemma of whether to say anything or just put up with it.. it’s just how the world is now unfortunately.

there really are inconsiderate arseholes everywhere you go.

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Absolutely. We would NEVER have behaved like this as kids. Wouldn’t have been allowed to. Kids were kids and we had manners and did as we were told. Adults were in charge not us. If anyone had ever had cause to tell us off (they didn’t) my mum would have said “well stop doing it then”

sandyhappypeople · 28/04/2024 11:01

Goldx2 · 28/04/2024 10:57

Yes they did then I felt really guikty

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No need to feel guilty, in fairness they may not have realised.

When you’re in close proximity you do have a responsibility to the people around you to not ruin their enjoyment with yours, so sounds like they were decent human being who just got a bit carried away and were happy to tone it down when you asked.

no harm done! Other people around you may have been secretly thanking you too!

sandyhappypeople · 28/04/2024 10:57

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 10:52

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing So now you can’t even tell a kid off without getting involved in some sort of row with the parent. Unbelievable. Why should that brat have been allowed to do what he liked. No wonder this country is in the mess it is

When a poster asking her why she didn’t say anything straight away I immediately thought of chair kicking as a comparison.

at the end of the day anyone who would let their child kick your chair repeatedly is not going to take kindly to being told to pack it in.. so it’s always a dilemma of whether to say anything or just put up with it.. it’s just how the world is now unfortunately.

there really are inconsiderate arseholes everywhere you go.

hourstokill · 28/04/2024 10:57

this seems to be a popular theme at the moment... theres a video on insta at the moment of a similar situation but it was a taylor swift concert on this occasion.

its a pop concert.. the music is loud and fans want to sing...

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Goldx2 · 28/04/2024 10:57

sandyhappypeople · 28/04/2024 10:51

It’s fine for you to ask them to tone it down a bit if it was ruining your enjoyment, in fairness you don’t always realise that when you’re singing/shouting, that the people in front of you are getting an earful! But some people would find that incredibly embarrassing, as your friends obviously did.

people enjoy concerts in different ways, and tbf singing along is one of those ways, so I wouldn’t say they were wrong to be doing it, but when you’re seated you need to be aware of what you’re inflicting on the people around you!

did they tone it down after you asked?

tbf, this is why I always stand at concerts, so I can move to a more convenient location rather then make someone change the way they are enjoying it.. it’s much easier!

Yes they did then I felt really guikty

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BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 10:54

KimberleyClark · 28/04/2024 10:51

This. Once of the reasons I don’t go to music gigs that often is I don’t want to pay good money to listen to other people shouting along.

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I find other people in close proximity loathsome. I find other people NOT in close proximity loathsome

SD1978 · 28/04/2024 10:54

Shits me too- and there is a huge difference between singing along and screaming along- the latter of which seems to be more and more common and concerts. Singing along, having fun is all part of it- trying to screech out like an alley cat as loud as you can, is irritating as hell and I wish people would stop it

BlackCat007 · 28/04/2024 10:52

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing So now you can’t even tell a kid off without getting involved in some sort of row with the parent. Unbelievable. Why should that brat have been allowed to do what he liked. No wonder this country is in the mess it is